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To think that dog charities are so fussy about rehoming that they drive people to buy from breeders?

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FreshFreesias · 07/08/2019 20:44

I volunteer and help fund a small very well-run dog charity. We are all volunteers, no one takes any remuneration and we are all united in our desire to help dogs in the direst of situations find a lovely home.

However I struggle with the strict rehoming policy. We are rescuing (healthy, attractive, assessed, socialised and rehomeable) dogs and puppies from the horrors of life in a concrete pen in a `shelter’ in 100 Fahrenheit from which they will never be released, even for a walk; or from a precarious life starving on the streets of in Greece or from life on a chain.

Given that these dogs have absolutely no hope where they are, a loving, sensible, experienced owner in the UK who may well live in a flat or in a big city can most probably give one of these dogs the fantastic opportunity of a new life.

But I’m constantly working with dare I say, dogmatic ladies who, while redoubtable and salt of the earth, have very restrictive ideas of where these hopeless hounds can be happy.

A recent conversation with the rehomer made my heart sink. She explained that while she didn’t rule out homes in London and cities, she didn’t think London was a good place for a dog and that a flat in London would automatically be ruled out. Ironic as I live in a London flat with 3 dogs who have the most wonderful life as I live in the middle of a Common! The most important thing is the right owner, who is determined to make it work.

While I agree that rehoming to someone who is working all day isn’t a good idea, if someone can take their dog to work with them, why not? Oh no’, she replied, what is the dog meant to do in the work place?’ Um, I should have replied, do whatever it will do when it’s at home… sleep, get petted by visitors, potter around or whatever.

This all came to a head when my sister in law recently applied for one of the rescues on the website. She is a really lovely woman who lives with my brother in a modest but comfortable terrace house in Bristol, with a nice garden and near parks. They are middle-aged, no kids, both work from home and have one old dog already for whom they seek a companion. I’m despondent to find out that she applied for a dog on the website but was told he already had a home. Fair enough. But soon after I find out that this home has fallen through and despite SIL having sent in her form and stated her keenness on this dog, has not been informed.

Consequently, this dog is being advertised again. I don’t think she has slipped through the net as the rehomer is supremely efficient but very fussy. (I haven’t let her know that this applicant is my SIL as I am interested in her being a `mystery shopper’ and giving me an insight from the other side, so to speak).

Because SIL lives in a city in a terraced house I have the feeling that she has been tacitly turned down as country homes are favoured. Of course it would be wonderful if all adopters lived in the greenbelt with acres of land but that is not the reality. Many of the best dog owners I know live in London and make good use of all the parks. Many people who live in the countryside have no access to `countryside’ and must drive for miles to access dog-walking fields, so country living is no panacea.

While I am in favour of home checks and dogs going to the right homes for them, do you feel that dog charities are over fussy? It breaks my heart when great homes are rejected and owners then go to breeders. The last thing the world needs are any more dogs when there are millions, even billions, living wretched lives, and yet kind-hearted, dogmatic rescuers are inadvertently making things even worse than they need be.

The other maddening thing is that dogs are often kennelled while homes are being found but due to all the turning good homes down, this can take months and this is a huge expense for the charity.
I’m so fed up I am pulling out of rescue and will stick to raising money for neutering programmes, which is even more vital anyway.

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IamtheOA · 07/08/2019 20:49

I absolutely agree... .
And they're too fussy about people who work.
I reckon they want all dogs to go to country homes, where they're the only animal, and there's at least one sahp... totally ridiculous....

recrudescence · 07/08/2019 20:50

I agree: the best should never be the enemy of the good.

GameofPhones · 07/08/2019 20:55

It is my impression from seeking a rescue dog. In the end I got a lovely one, but feel I was very lucky.

PollyIndia · 07/08/2019 21:03

I ended up getting mine from Spain via dogwatch uk. I have a 6 year old, live in London and take my dog to work, all rejection reasons for lots of uk rescues. It’s a shame as would have much preferred to have adopted from the uk. If we had though, i guess we wouldn’t have our lovely little fox dog. So yes, I agree with you OP.

FreshFreesias · 07/08/2019 21:05

Can anyone recommend any charities that have a pragmatic approach to homing?

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FreshFreesias · 07/08/2019 21:06

Thanks @PollyIndia, I will look up Dogwatch. I hadn't heard of them.

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AuditAngel · 07/08/2019 21:08

I agree. We visited a well known charity whilst I was on maternity leave with DC2. They took one look at the children and said we couldn’t take a dog, not a puppy, nor an older dog. We are experienced dog owners, both DH and I. He works split shifts, I was on maternity leave and my mum was with us three days during the week. We have plenty of room, a detached house, large, enclosed garden right next to a park.

MoaningMinniee · 07/08/2019 21:10

We always look at all the circumstances www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=black%20retriever%20x%20rescue&epa=SEARCH_BOX

Hoppinggreen · 07/08/2019 21:10

I was let down by 2 different dog charities, despite both agreeing I was a really good home. As I have dc who thought they were getting a dog/not getting a dog I gave up and went to a breeder
I agree that they should err on the side of caution but maybe some go too far

RosemarysBush · 07/08/2019 21:11

Yanbu

FreshFreesias · 07/08/2019 21:11

at @AuditAngel, perhaps worth checking out Dogwatch, as per above - hope you haven't given up on a rescue!

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londonrach · 07/08/2019 21:12

You totally right. I know of a chap who gave up and just bought his two much loved dogs. Hes a hillwalker every weekend so takes his dogs. He was turned down as he worked. However his mum was an active retired 60 year old who lived down the road, had one dog herself and took her dog and now his two dogs out every day for long walks in the local hills and back to her home afterwards. The rescue wasnt interested in this. He also had a flexible job and could work from home but they just saw working full time and said no. Very sad a rescue dog missed out

TheBeastInMsRooneysRoom · 07/08/2019 21:13

I'm in North America, but have been trying to adopt a dog for 6 months. They tell me my application is 'very strong' but we still don't have a dog, despite trying 3 charities. I'm ready to buy one honestly. If they want to be absurd about their standards, then there will always be too many dogs in shelters, but it's the shelter's choice to operate this way. DH and I call them Dog Snobs and they are a very specific type of older lady who thinks they're the only one that can properly look after all the pets.

MarieBaroneIsMyMom · 07/08/2019 21:15

I agree.

We wanted to adopt years ago but every charity turned us down as we both worked. Despite having worked out a schedule of working from home, dog-walker, and my ILs taking the dog during the day, they still refused, often after we took time off to facilitate home visits.

Ended up doing a LOT of breeder research and buying a puppy. 11 years later, she’s the best thing ever, has never been home alone for more than 3 hours, and absolutely loves her daily walks with my ILs.

istill · 07/08/2019 21:15

YANBU.

Luckily my rescue place allows people who work to adopt, although they have some requirements.

My dog was a stray so they wouldn’t rehome her to anyone with children under 10. We’ve since had s baby and the dog is just a big gentle soul.

She’s a staffy as well so not exactly a “desirable breed”

Justgivemesomepeace · 07/08/2019 21:16

I agree. I have a 6 yr old and work part time. The dog would be home alone for 6 hrs a day, 3 days a week term time only. We are not suitable.

Malvinaa81 · 07/08/2019 21:16

Have come across this from breeders as well.

The only people they seem to think should own/re-home a dog are:

-At home all day
-Have a large house and garden
-Don't have young children
-Have plenty of money

Now there may with certain dogs be reasons for some of the conditions. And people wanting a dog on a whim or "for the children" must be weaned out.

I even met one breeder who said she would ring up prospective buyers at a variety of times of day to check someone was in the house all the time!

I suppose some decent people are being denied a chance of a dog, while occasionally a bad re-homing is actually prevented.

Croquembou · 07/08/2019 21:16

I think they're ridiculous. Living in the country is no guarantee - we used to live on a farm and we couldn't adopt because we didn't have a 6 foot fence.

ginyogarepeat · 07/08/2019 21:16

Yes, I've heard this many a time. People that work (at all) and don't have acres of land ruled out. I've known a few family members and friends to turn to breeders after months of exasperation from animal rescues - who post constantly how they're bursting at the seams with animals needing homes!

Chwaraeteg · 07/08/2019 21:18

Yanbu. We gave up trying to adopt a cat recently for similar reasons. Are home was given the OK by them but every time we were interested in a cat they were taken straight away or not suitable for our circumstances, because we have children.

HattieRabbit · 07/08/2019 21:19

I COMPLETELY agree.

Pretty much 100% of dogs/puppies I’ve seen looking to be rehomed also ‘can’t live with children’ but about 80% of the friends/family we have got their dog when their children were small, as a family pet!

It seems bonkers to me.

I hate to admit that DH and I bought our kitten, almost entirely because we couldn’t be arsed with the difficult/annoying processes of adopting.

It seemed to require an insane amount of paperwork/back ground checks, home visits 🤯 we drove to a local city- paid £150 and brought out little man home the same day.

He is the most spoilt little guy ever (not so small anymore though 😂)

BathTangle · 07/08/2019 21:19

I agree. I could not get a dog from my local shelters because I had children under 5, despite being experienced with dogs and at home all day, living in a small village, with a large enclosed garden and direct access to 60 acres of private grounds.

Ladywillpower · 07/08/2019 21:23

I agree. We adopted an older rescue dog from a charity. When he died we tried to rehome another dog but were refused as we work part time & occasionally our grandchildren visit. Last year we bought a puppy who is adored by all of us but I still regret not being able to rehome a rescue dog.

Shutityoutart · 07/08/2019 21:24

I agree. My friend wanted to adopt an aged German Shepherd from our local rehoming centre, only to be told as she didn't have a 6ft fence around her garden , it was deemed 'insecure ' so she was turned down. She had hedges and it was secure but not secure enough apparently. So that poor old dog probably saw it's last days out in a shelter.

CanoeDoYouThinkYouAre · 07/08/2019 21:27

We were turned down by most rehoming centres because we have children. Not young children though.

We thought we found a dog and a centre happy to rehome him with us. Right before he was due to come they decided to stop the adoption because I had (successful) cancer treatment and they didn't want us to have him in case I got ill again.

In the end we got a puppy from a very good and responsible breeder.