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To think that dog charities are so fussy about rehoming that they drive people to buy from breeders?

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FreshFreesias · 07/08/2019 20:44

I volunteer and help fund a small very well-run dog charity. We are all volunteers, no one takes any remuneration and we are all united in our desire to help dogs in the direst of situations find a lovely home.

However I struggle with the strict rehoming policy. We are rescuing (healthy, attractive, assessed, socialised and rehomeable) dogs and puppies from the horrors of life in a concrete pen in a `shelter’ in 100 Fahrenheit from which they will never be released, even for a walk; or from a precarious life starving on the streets of in Greece or from life on a chain.

Given that these dogs have absolutely no hope where they are, a loving, sensible, experienced owner in the UK who may well live in a flat or in a big city can most probably give one of these dogs the fantastic opportunity of a new life.

But I’m constantly working with dare I say, dogmatic ladies who, while redoubtable and salt of the earth, have very restrictive ideas of where these hopeless hounds can be happy.

A recent conversation with the rehomer made my heart sink. She explained that while she didn’t rule out homes in London and cities, she didn’t think London was a good place for a dog and that a flat in London would automatically be ruled out. Ironic as I live in a London flat with 3 dogs who have the most wonderful life as I live in the middle of a Common! The most important thing is the right owner, who is determined to make it work.

While I agree that rehoming to someone who is working all day isn’t a good idea, if someone can take their dog to work with them, why not? Oh no’, she replied, what is the dog meant to do in the work place?’ Um, I should have replied, do whatever it will do when it’s at home… sleep, get petted by visitors, potter around or whatever.

This all came to a head when my sister in law recently applied for one of the rescues on the website. She is a really lovely woman who lives with my brother in a modest but comfortable terrace house in Bristol, with a nice garden and near parks. They are middle-aged, no kids, both work from home and have one old dog already for whom they seek a companion. I’m despondent to find out that she applied for a dog on the website but was told he already had a home. Fair enough. But soon after I find out that this home has fallen through and despite SIL having sent in her form and stated her keenness on this dog, has not been informed.

Consequently, this dog is being advertised again. I don’t think she has slipped through the net as the rehomer is supremely efficient but very fussy. (I haven’t let her know that this applicant is my SIL as I am interested in her being a `mystery shopper’ and giving me an insight from the other side, so to speak).

Because SIL lives in a city in a terraced house I have the feeling that she has been tacitly turned down as country homes are favoured. Of course it would be wonderful if all adopters lived in the greenbelt with acres of land but that is not the reality. Many of the best dog owners I know live in London and make good use of all the parks. Many people who live in the countryside have no access to `countryside’ and must drive for miles to access dog-walking fields, so country living is no panacea.

While I am in favour of home checks and dogs going to the right homes for them, do you feel that dog charities are over fussy? It breaks my heart when great homes are rejected and owners then go to breeders. The last thing the world needs are any more dogs when there are millions, even billions, living wretched lives, and yet kind-hearted, dogmatic rescuers are inadvertently making things even worse than they need be.

The other maddening thing is that dogs are often kennelled while homes are being found but due to all the turning good homes down, this can take months and this is a huge expense for the charity.
I’m so fed up I am pulling out of rescue and will stick to raising money for neutering programmes, which is even more vital anyway.

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ThomasFurious · 07/08/2019 21:27

We wanted a retired greyhound but were put off by staff. We then got two puppies eventually who have love walks and good lives and are rarely alone.

JustbeaDentist · 07/08/2019 21:28

We bought because we weren't allowed to adopt. The centre basically pushed staffies on everyone, when we viewed another breed we were told someone had to be home with it 24h a day (what about when they went to the shops?) so we thought stuff it.
They're unreasonable and difficult.

MaryPeary · 07/08/2019 21:29

I agree. One rescue said that because I had children I'd need a puppy, not an adult dog, but that rescue puppies were rare so they could pick and choose who they allowed to adopt them. It turned out that these "rescue" puppies were being bought from farms in Wales and shipped down to the SE, so I'm still not sure what was going on there.

MaryPeary · 07/08/2019 21:32

This cat rescue in Kent has an explicit policy of trusting adopters. They've had this policy for years:
"If you decide you would like to take on a homeless cat, please note we do not do home checks on you – we believe that anyone kind enough to want to shelter a homeless animal should be trusted to care for that animal properly. We will try to match your circumstances and needs to those of the cats we show you. However, we do have to ask a minimum donation of £60 to help pay our costs. Even this amount will not cover the amount we have spent. "
www.rhodesminnis.co.uk/cats-for-rehoming-3/

adaline · 07/08/2019 21:32

Totally agree.

We were turned down by numerous rescues as we both work. Ddog goes to my in-laws if we can't be home with him - he gets company, cuddles and plenty of walkies - he loves it.

Ddog also came from a breeder as we were declined so many times!

CharlieandLolaCat · 07/08/2019 21:33

I had a similar experience with cats charities. They turned me down because I had a 6 month old and live on a (really not very) 'busy' road. In reality my cats, which I bought from a random, never go out the front of the house preferring to spend their time in the gardens to the back and adore my DS. I just think they need to look at every situation.

MondeoFan · 07/08/2019 21:34

Yes I agree too. 10 years ago now we wanted to get a dog from a charity, we have a bungalow with a secure garden and 2 DD although we only had 1 DD then. Was told no as I worked 4 hours a day 4 days a week and it was flexible so for 2 of those days I could work at home but was still told no.
Bought a puppy in the end and he is 9.5 now and it's been so wonderful having a dog. I work 2 full days a week now and have 5 days off but I come home for an hour for lunch on the days I work

HalloumiGus · 07/08/2019 21:34

YANBU. I understand that they want these animals to have a loving home and I agree with decent checks but putting so many barriers in place drives people to breeders.

Crimebustersofthesea · 07/08/2019 21:35

I totally agree OP. We were very lucky that our local greyhound rescue are very pragmatic. They're of the opinion that the dog would be happier in a loving home than a kennel. I'm pretty sure our dog would agree Smile

gamesanddaisychains · 07/08/2019 21:35

YANBU. A lovely relative, experienced dog owner, contacted a famous rescue, they did not even offer a home visit to assess their home. All the rescue was interested in was a commitment to contribute a montly Direct Debit. My dogs love this family and stay there whenever we are away. Whenever I see this rescue on tv I cannot take it seriously and I now have the impression they just want to make money not find good homes for the inmates.

ChrisPrattsFace · 07/08/2019 21:36

I agree. Historically with dogs - but recently with a cat. I cared for him for 8 weeks and when wanting to rehome him officially they took him To a centre in Manchester and said he had been homed.
He appeared on the site under a new name and I’m ashamed to say I hit the roof with complaints and I have him back. I was told he wasn’t suitable to be homed with children, other dogs or cats.

He now lives with four other cats (I also think this isn’t ideal but they cohabit very well) two dogs and have many children visitors. He has one of the best cat lives ever.

AudacityOfHope · 07/08/2019 21:38

I agree. Same with cat charities too.

As newbie cat owners who lived in a flat, the only cat they would offer us was a one-eyed diabetic who needed daily medication, all because it was the only house cat they had.

As if a cat can't go up and down a flight of stairs

Plar · 07/08/2019 21:39

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FrangipaniBlue · 07/08/2019 21:40

Well I've had my eyes opened by this thread and it's made me really sad 😔

Those poor animals

Alice913 · 07/08/2019 21:42

It’s exactly the same with cat charities too 🐈

W0rriedMum · 07/08/2019 21:42

Just tonight we went through the websites for several dog charities and there are no smaller/medium sized dogs available for families with older children, let alone young kids.
One stated that the adopter had to live alone, have no other pets, few visitors and not go out. If a dog is that damaged that they need one-to-one care, what life is that?
Totally agree that the centres have their pick and know it.

LazyFace · 07/08/2019 21:42

The exact reason why I went to a breeder.

YobaOljazUwaque · 07/08/2019 21:44

Absolutely this happens. With cats too.

Healthy animals are regularly pts in shelters, but loving potential homes are ready and waiting but "not perfect".

Now the same principles applied to human children are more understandable. A traumatised child needs more than just "good enough" new parents. No parents are ever perfect but the authority that chooses adoptive parents will share moral responsibility with those parents for any subsequent trauma so obviously they do need to be ultra careful and find adoptive parents who are as close to perfect as possible.

So I can see that there might be people who think the same principles should apply to animals and a homeless pet deserves the same level of caution. I can't agree with that but I can see the way that someone might.

Moondust001 · 07/08/2019 21:46

I also agree. I work, but very flexibly, including from home. A have very bad arthritis - exceptionally poor mobility. So no rehoming organisation would consider me for a dog of any type. Well, the problem is that my lovely, very energetic , not yet 4 year old Border Collie is clearly totally deprived. Two at least one hour walks of around 4 miles each per day, regardless of weather (you have heard of mobility scooters? My vet has - he thinks dogs like them better than feet because they travel at the average BC speed, which most hit humans don't!). He knows by name over 200 of his toys. That doesn't include his puzzle games. Totally trained, totally balanced Etc. Etc. He's a very deprived dog...

The perversity here is that I also happen to have dog psychology / behaviour qualifications, and I volunteer my time helping dogs in kennels readjust so that they can be rehomed - for an organisation that wouldn't even consider me suitable by their own rules!

MustardScreams · 07/08/2019 21:48

YANBU in the slightest. I tried for months to adopt a dog, but because I had dd no one would agree to it. Even though I’m a very seasoned dog owner and know what I’m doing!

I ended up buying my beautiful cocker, my home felt empty without a dog in it! It’s so frustrating because I could have given a dog a wonderful rest of their life and wasn’t allowed to.

ShirleyPhallus · 07/08/2019 21:50

I hope someone will link this to the dog board next time posters get leapt on for not going for an MN-sponsored staffie from a rescue

eurochick · 07/08/2019 21:50

I agree. It's the same with cats, as another poster has mentioned. We were turned down because we have young children (one calm five year old who loves animals) and because we live on a busyish road (even though we said we would be happy to rehome an indoor cat). We were happy with kittens, an adult cat, one or two, indoor or outdoor. We couldn't get a match.

We've ended up buying from a breeder after giving up with rescues. I want my daughter to grow up with pets.

MarieBaroneIsMyMom · 07/08/2019 21:51

I’m ashamed to say I hit the roof with complaints and I have him back

Good on you, thanks for fighting for him.

Pegase · 07/08/2019 21:51

So sad. Our old cat won't be with us many more years I fear and DH has suggested we rehome. I am trying to dissuade him as we live on a hugely busy road in London and I know we wouldn't get approved. Dcat does not go out the front. He only goes in the back garden and neighbouring back gardens and there is no easy access, even for a cat, from back garden to the front. So we will just buy again I fear.

Hmmmbop · 07/08/2019 21:52

I agree. A friend worked as a vet for the RSPCA. She was not allowed to rehome any dog from them as she worked full time. Despite a) working shifts, b) being willing and able to pay for a dog sitter/ walker.

She ended up buying. She didn't work for them for long, couldn't put up with the hundreds of animals she kept having to euthanise. .

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