To be hurt by “friends” comments about my LO

[LadyStigma]

I recently reached out to “friend” I’d had difficulties with before.
She was unsupportive as soon as I was pregnant but that was understandable as she had lost 2 babies herself so that wasn’t a big issue.
Once LO was born she was around a lot but started making digs at the baby-
“Why does the brat cry so much” 6 week old with CMPA
“No wonder they are fat with how much they are on the boob”
And also a few other things like laughing at the babies double chin and being unsupportive with PND.

Getting better in myself I reached out to try and mend branches as she was hurting it was semi understandable. 5 months later my LO is 7 months.
“Friend” still continuously called them fat
Mentioned how she would never want kids if they were like that
That they wouldn’t be worth giving up dairy and soya for while breastfeeding.
She also said “haha look at the state of them” at my little one who is actively cruising along furniture at 7 months (while slightly unsteady as they just started 2 days ago I’m 100% a proud mum)

Worst of all it really stung for her to say “babies who aren’t cute tend to turn into good looking adults”
Now my babies adorable, not being bias, I’m actively stopped in the street by strangers every time I’m out who call them gorgeous.

Am I being unreasonable for being upset because I’m the idiot who thought she’d have went back to the friend she was prior to the pregnancy? Did I set myself up for it?

Awful, awful. Get her out of your life.

I had two friends who suffered multiple losses. They both withdrew in different ways when I was pregnant. I understood completely they were just finding it hard although I missed them.

This stuff that you have described is not ok.

Of course I stood up for my baby. Just because I’ve not written the full conversation out doesn’t mean the comments went without warning.

I think your friend is in self preservation mode. I would let her know how these comments make you feel if you haven't already and say if she's finding it too difficult then maybe you should spend some time apart. I think perhaps some of the people on here saying she is vile may not have experienced infertility and loss. It can really tear you up inside. I found I had to avoid seeing some friends with kids for a while as I couldn't take it, I'd just be in tears. I feel dreadful for your friend but it sounds like she needs another way to approach things as you don't want to feel bad or offended either.

Why on earth are you wasting your time on this nasty piece of work??

I won't repeat everyone else, but your little one sounds like my eldest was at that age! He was chunky, which seemed to give him a sturdiness. He was sitting upright, and crawling at 5 months, scooting around the furniture at 7 months, and walking at 10! You're so going to have your hands full, but it's a wonderful time!

yup, definitely ditch her. anything, anyone but my kids. Sorry.