To ask what you've sacrificed in your relationship?

[djsosn]

I think all relationships have sacrifices if we think heard enough, but some are bigger than others.

When it comes to my marriage I've sacrificed holidays - my husband hates going anywhere which means we haven't been away together in 7 years and counting. It used to bother me but now I'm not too fussed about it - but I still wouldn't say no to a trip away!

I didn't sacrifice anything. We don't go out to pubs and clubs because hes not a drinker, but tbh I'm done with that anyway and would much rather go for a nice meal and be tucked up by 10pm 😂 the only thing I miss really are Saturday morning lay ins but me and the DSS are the early risers these days so that's not DPs fault. He enhances my life which makes me exceptionally lucky, and out little girl will be cementing our family in a few weeks

Lndnmummy im totally with you. My husbands career is going from strength to strength whilst ive been home 6 years with 2 kids. I love my family dearly but the price of being out of the workplace for 6 years is one only I have paid and making that sacrifice has enabled his career to progress. I look at job adverts now for some high flying roles that i would have done before kids and i get excited, then i realise i cant do a role like that now because of the children - that's if by any miracle i could even get an interview!

Nothing important.

I love and value myself too much to sacrifice anything important for a relationship.

I moved down to DPs side of the country, I could probably get more money and career progression if I stayed where I was from! But that wasn't an option!

I don't regret it as we have a lovely like, a fur baby and a baby on the way. We are building our forever home.

But the lack of professionalism from the hospital I am attending for maternity care has me wondering how much better I would have been had I not moved down to be close to him!!

Nothing but being in a relationship full stop would be a sacrifice for me.

Therefore I’m single

I agree though, every relationship will involve sacrifices: some so small they’re of no consequence, others much larger.

The potential for another child. DH has two children already. He wanted one more but that was all. So we have a dd. I guess I could have held out for someone who wanted more children but then there would be a higher risk of having none. I didn't meet DH until I was nearly 35.

Autonomy over certain decisions such as where we live. My DSC live with us so we have stayed in the area they were living in so they could stay in their schools and close to their friends and mum. Other things such as having to arrange holidays around DSC mum who won't respond to our suggestions or proposals until the last minute.

I don't exactly regret any, certainly not my dd. But I wouldn't advise anyone to do what I've done, it's quite hard.

Currently I feel I'm making massive sacrifices. Dh has stopped work to study full time. I have my two boys (both under three) all day every day and work evenings. It's really tough but it works for now. Dh has to go to lectures two weekends a month so I've sacrificed actually having a husband around at weekends and we rarely have family time. It'll be worth it in the end.

I've also made a promise to be monogamous to him. That to me is a sacrifice as monogamy isn't particularly my thing

Having a social life. DH isnt one for going out so while I do go out occasionally with friends we rarely go out. It annoys me but in the long run I wont care and I do care about growing old with him. Also a sex life I am happy with. He doesnt want it much, annoying again, but see the above comment.

Was willing to sacrifice: emigrating and long-distance travel.
Refused to sacrifice: my own surname, my autonomy, my career.

I consider I've gained a lot more from the relationship than I've lost.

Self confidence. Feeling loved and supported. Peace of mind. My mental and physical health. Myself.

Clean house. Washing done. He just doesn't see the dirt or mess and if he does, doesn't think it important to clear up.

Space in the house for my stuff as filled with his stuff. We are both pretty bad tbh.

I've definitely gained more than I've sacrificed though. He can always make me laugh even when my mood is utterly shitty!

Nothing.

I wouldn't be in a relationship where I had to sacrifice things. Life is too short.

To never have kids.