To ask what you've sacrificed in your relationship?

[djsosn]

I think all relationships have sacrifices if we think heard enough, but some are bigger than others.

When it comes to my marriage I've sacrificed holidays - my husband hates going anywhere which means we haven't been away together in 7 years and counting. It used to bother me but now I'm not too fussed about it - but I still wouldn't say no to a trip away!

Not very much - sex/dating other people, making decisions without thinking about anyone else.

That's probably about it.

I sacrificed my life long dream of living in my dream country. No regrets, but some sadness.

Fostering. I have wanted to foster a child/young person for a very long time. DH has zero interest, so it won’t happen.

He would say his season ticket, which he had until DD came along, and then he wanted to spend weekends with her instead.

Nothing

Money, holidays etc etc The household has half the income we used to but a hundred times the love, laughter and passion.

Cats.

DH is almost fatally allergic.

Cats here too although DH is ‘allergic’ whereas Fusion’s DH sounds pretty serious!

Sex with others

Being able to just up and go travelling or whatever, not that I did that much as a singleton! Would be trickier now post-DC but we go on lots of lovely family holidays anyway.

A TIDY HOME

I suppose you could say I sacrificed the job I longed to do in the place I longed to do it. But when I met DH, I realised he was The One (corny, sorry) and that what we had together was more important than any job.

The upside is he still gives me the casting vote on important decisions "because I gave up so much to be with him"

Live music. Socialising in busy places

A job I really wanted. At the time I was the only earner while do was setting up a company and it didn't pay enough, so I stuck with the crap job I had. It turned out well in the end, though, as dp's company is doing well and I got a better job eventually.

Moving abroad. I studied languages at university and always, always thought I'd live abroad again at some point. DH won't even consider it. He doesn't even want to live outside the south east of England and for preference would live 10 minutes from his parents (dream on). I sometimes wonder if I'll end up massively resentful at 60 but hey ho.

Little things here and there but nothing big or constant. DH isn’t really into the theatre and I miss going but I make him take me every once in a while. He drags me to god awful lectures that I can’t understand too so I guess that’s even.

Moving back to my home country, as DH doesn't speak the language. He's done the same for me. And we're really happy where we are, so it's more of a theoretical sacrifice anyway.

Moving abroad! I don't regret staying to be with DH but now the uk is looking to be going totally tits up I regret us not moving there so we don't have to deal with any backlash from brexit, we could both lose our jobs if there is no deal and all the other "unknowns" could affect us as they could the rest of the country obviously but we could have been safe and secure far away had things been different.

Sleeping with other men (which I don’t want to do anyway!)
Getting a dog (his parents are our landlord and have said no)
Sleeping in (can’t wake up then go back over with him next to me)
Decorating to my exact taste (we talk about it and have the same taste most of the time but not always)
A cream leather sofa-he hates cream and likes darker sofas-is love a cream one

That’s about it

Loads, but I’ve sort of forgotten because it’s been so long.

Bread and butter pudding is one that particularly rankles, though. And he made the DC think it is disgusting too. There is no point in making a one person bread-and-butter pudding.

My party girl lifestyle. DH is teetotal, never really been in to music or socialising and doesn't get what I call "the urge" to go out like I do.

I'm in my 30's now, and about to be a mum of two so going out isn't anywhere near the top of the list of priorities right now.

Adult conversation; good sex; feeling part of a team/relationship; a decent social life; self confidence; nice food

My career and final salary pension, I gave it up to move abroad to follow DH’s job.

Travelling - DH will go "away" but next years planned road trip round Europe is his absolute limit. I know he would happily stay at home so at least it's a compromise.

Sex - DH suffers from ED and, though I insist it's not an issue, I'd be lying through my teeth if I said I didn't dream of a dirty weekend of unbridled sex

Ever living in my home town again.
Having a second DC.

Absolutely nothing.

If you are in a relationship why would you want to sleep with other people? It's not a sacrifice.

Myself.
It took me years to realise I need to love myself more than loving others. On the right track now, so no sympathy needed!

Having holidays anywhere further than 100 miles from home.

Getting the chance to be a SAHM, or run more baby groups (I'm the breadwinner).

Being able to go away overnight on my own without having to leave DH with someone like his parents.

Dancing together being silly to whatever song is on the radio.

Socialising with friends without worrying about DH.

It sounds bad, but he's given me a lot too. I don't mind these small sacrifices.

My career. Dh wanted to live in Oz, put a lot of pressure on me. He got a transfer through his work so off we went. It lasted two years, my career was until I retired, but as I wasn’t the top earner it wasn’t even in discussions
Guess what? The company I worked for is still running and my job would have remained, unlike dhs 🙄 I’m bitter as I earn half as much now, so it’s hurt my pocket.