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To ask you to tell me what you're tired of?

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Scratch22 · 05/08/2019 20:29

Just wanted to create a thread just for people to vent because I really feel I need to.

I love my child but I'm so tired of everything parenting brings. I'm tired of the endless grind of cleaning, nagging and tidying that is my life. I'm tired of having a poorly paid job I hate where I'm not valued just because it fits in with school. I'm tired of having to be sociable so that my child can be. I'm tired of having no money and absolutely nothing for myself because my child needs uniform, swimming lessons, days out etc none of which she appreciates. I'm tired of having a body with endless problems since having a child - the latest one being painful haemorrhoids. I'm tired of feeling old, fat and unattractive and invisible to men. I'm tired of feeling guilty about never really being good enough at anything and not being as happy as I should be. There - now I don't have to go outside and scream! Thank you.

OP posts:
Zenithbear · 06/08/2019 09:42

Paperwork.
I feel like I'm drowning in it. I get it sorted then a week later there's another pile to wade through.

whothedaddy · 06/08/2019 09:45

My daughters father playing games with paying Maintenance. We split up almost 9 years ago. He has never paid on time and owes thousands...He never turns up on time on his weekends either (if he turns up at all) If I hear him say "stop working against me I'm trying, you don't know how hard it is" one more time I think I might sceam.

Yeah buddy, I have no idea how hard it is to not give a f*ck about your responsibilities. I have it so much easier, all i have to do is support her financially, physically and emotionally. It's totally my fault that she cries because she knows you just don't care!!!

whothedaddy · 06/08/2019 09:46

As an add- he phoned me up 3 weeks ago to call me a C*t and a spiteful bith, threaten me with court action and say he doesn't need to pay maintenance as it isn't his job to support my lifestyle....I was at work at the time.
He hasn't tried to see or even speak to his daughter since.

vampirethriller · 06/08/2019 09:49

Slipped disc and sciatica that I've had for three years and can't take prescription painkillers for because I used to be a heroin addict and doctors don't let me have anything now. I can understand why but I'm in pain all day. All night. I've been clean for 4 years but nobody trusts an addict. Again I understand why but I get tired of it.

Funnyface1 · 06/08/2019 09:49

I'm tired of my dh's horrible job and boss controlling our lives. Can't seem to find something better to get him out though. I'm bloody miserable today. Feel really low and it's not fair on the kids.

WellTidy · 06/08/2019 09:50

I am tired of never having enough time. My to do list is never ending. Not just big things, small things. Everything. I am not getting through it in any meaningful way.

I am very fortunate in that we have the money to do things that would improve the house eg getting new flooring. But I don't have the time to work out what I want, source it, price it all up, arrange for it to be installed, move everything out of the rooms in advance etc. And then I think "oh, if we're having new flooring, we should really decorate before we do that so that the flooring goes down last" and then I have to add to my list decide on paint colours, organise someone to decorate ...

And my list gets even longer. Which means that I don't make any progress on it.

I have even taking to adding to my list everyday things like cooking, laundry, tidying, kids activities as at least then I can cross things out when they are done.

TiredSloth · 06/08/2019 10:08

Tired of constant anxiety.

Tired of fighting the feeling to stay in bed all day.

Tired of being fat and unattractive and invisible.

Tired of being a nobody.

Tired of living in a mess but not having the mental strength to tackle it.

Desperately sad to realise that I will not have a travel filled, extraordinary life but a very disappointing one crippled by depression, food addiction, constant anxiety, health issues and life ruining shyness.

Tired of the guilt of repeating the cycle with my children.

Tired of life.

TheFaerieQueene · 06/08/2019 10:10

I’m tired of extreme right wing politics becoming mainstream.

Yutes · 06/08/2019 10:12

Not getting lunch breaks
Having a very sore stomach, not being able to go normally
Feeling tired
Feeling grumpy

GrumpyCee · 06/08/2019 10:22

Being overweight
Worrying about everything
My relationship
Having to pretend I’m not exhausted
A particular situation I’m trapped in and don’t think I’m going to be able to get out of.

funnyfeeling · 06/08/2019 10:41

Not as bad as a lot of these but I'm tired of being approached by all bored neighbourhood kids to play every time i go outside with much younger dd.
I get they just want something to do but I've got my hands full and its starting to put me off going out there now.

GilmoreMe · 06/08/2019 10:46

I'm tired of my husband being a lazy slob, watching me slog my guts out to make our home a nice, comfortable place to be and him being a giant manchild and quite frankly making my life so much harder than it needs to be.
I'm also tired of him fooling everyone else into believing he's a good husband and father.
I'm tired of being someone who puts up with all of the above.
I'm tired in general.

thecatsthecats · 06/08/2019 10:52

I'm tired of dieting and exercising. I have lost almost 5st over 18m, and have 2st to go. I'm just bored bored bored of counting calories and logging exercise.

Eating well - I enjoy it! Exercise - I enjoy it! If I were a healthy weight, I could very easily have a nice pattern of eating and exercise that was totally sustainable.

Tracking the stupid bastard info and having to think about it every single damn meal though... give me strength.

BearRabbitPants · 06/08/2019 14:27

I'm tired of renovating our home! It's been a year of endless work being carried out on our property, we've had floods, freezing cold conditions, no heating / hot water, rubble and dirt everywhere, and to add to that we had a baby in Feb, I had to move out when she was 3 weeks old for 8 WEEKS as it became inhabitable, so I packed me and my 2 children up & moved in with my mum who lives in a 2nd floor flat with no lift! My mum didn't help with childcare whilst I was there (which is fair enough) but it meant I had no rest whatsoever after being awake all night feeding DD I still had to get up every day at 6:30 with DS. I suffered PND and I think it was fuelled by only having 4 hours sleep max per night for weeks & weeks on end!
My DH who has done the majority of the build himself turns in to a completely different person when under pressure (a person that I do not like) and Altho I appreciate all he is doing to make our home beautiful I resent him for effectively forcing me to be a single parent as most weekends I am alone because he's working and I'm with DC all day & most evenings (not all) I have to get them sorted for bed alone.
Worst thing about it- we've prob got another 18 months at least of all this... part of me wishes I could take my kids and leave. I just want to live in a house where I'm not CONSTANTLY cleaning dirt & dust up every single day desperately trying to keep it nice and clean for my kids. I just want my husband back with us doing quality family time stuff.
We recently went away for 5 days and it was wonderful no stress no talk of the house just loads of fun as a family... I want our life back

scaryteacher · 06/08/2019 14:32

We are moving back to the UK in October. I seem to be the only one who has any sense of urgency about this - both ds (who lives with us post university) and dh seem to think it's all going to happen around them whilst I run myself ragged.

I am perimenopausal, so periods appear at random intervals; I am getting hot flushes and night sweats again, and I can't bloody sleep.

I need a fairy godmother to wave a magic wand and sort me out.

dayslikethese1 · 06/08/2019 15:23

Working full time
Hemorrhoids
Family drama
Stupid politicians
Feeling uninspired/unmotivated

dayslikethese1 · 06/08/2019 15:24

Forgot to add: stupid articles in the media about 'millennials' and how we're the worst generation ever etc.

girlandboy · 06/08/2019 18:05

@Zofloraqueen27 I understand exactly what you're feeling. And you've voiced my worry too. What if I die first? Who will remind him about his appointments? Who will re-order his prescriptions? But also how am I going to cope alone? It's all so tiring. I'm tired of crying.

Thank you to everyone for your kind words. It's very much appreciated x

lostinthewheatfield · 06/08/2019 20:19

growlingbear exactly the same , wouldn't change a word. Sorry you feel like I do.

growlingbear · 06/08/2019 20:24

@lostinthewheatfield - it's tough isn't it? When you're trapped in that cycle, it's pretty hard to know what to do about it.

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 06/08/2019 20:38

I'm tired of having to think of meals the family will eat, and cooking them.
I'm also tired of buying raspberries.

user1461609321 · 06/08/2019 20:39

Watching

lostinthewheatfield · 06/08/2019 20:39

Chateaumyself that's awful. I'm a primary school teacher and mum of three. I remember inviting whole class when my child was in year 1 and a mum of a a very special needs child crying that her child finally had an invite. I mean how hard is it? I knew she'd stay with her child and the other kids saw her child as part of the class. I also most definitely try and do all the group activities/ pairing up etc you'd like for your child in my class, meeting all their needs is what it's all about. As for other parents asking about your child's autism, accepting invites and not reciprocating bloody heartless.

dimsum123 · 07/08/2019 06:46

I'm tired of getting up every day for work and it's no different at the weekend as there's 'home' work to do instead of office work.

Tired of bills coming in seemingly every day and worrying about how we're going to pay them.

Tired of shopping cooking washing up, fussy DCs. Tired of things breaking down in the house, nothing seems to last longer than 5 minutes these days.

Tired of waking up tired.

Inappropriatefemale · 12/08/2019 00:36

As sad as this thread was then it was almost bittersweet because mostly everyone is taking care of everyone else except themselves, this thread brought a tear to my eyeSad

I’m tired too but I’m also too tired to type it all now...maybe tomorrow xx

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