To ask you to tell me what you're tired of?

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Just wanted to create a thread just for people to vent because I really feel I need to.

I love my child but I'm so tired of everything parenting brings. I'm tired of the endless grind of cleaning, nagging and tidying that is my life. I'm tired of having a poorly paid job I hate where I'm not valued just because it fits in with school. I'm tired of having to be sociable so that my child can be. I'm tired of having no money and absolutely nothing for myself because my child needs uniform, swimming lessons, days out etc none of which she appreciates. I'm tired of having a body with endless problems since having a child - the latest one being painful haemorrhoids. I'm tired of feeling old, fat and unattractive and invisible to men. I'm tired of feeling guilty about never really being good enough at anything and not being as happy as I should be. There - now I don't have to go outside and scream! Thank you.

I'm tired of both sides of the Brexit debate.

Tired of pretending that I'm ok 6 months after my mum died because I have to be ok because she was very old and very ill and it was 'for the best'.
Tired of crying on my own because how boring is it to keep being sad.
Tired of pretending that I don't, every day, think about what a fucking bitch my sister was for 7 years before our mum died, of wanting her to be in pain for how awful she was.
Tired of people saying 'ooh get you spending money on holidays and house improvements' when they know why we are - because she left me a little bit of money.
Tired of missing my mum. Basically.

Tired of travelling to all my husband's hospital appointments for his incurable cancer. It's utterly relentless. And that is our future.

Tired of feeling scared about him dying, and the subsequent nightmares and broken nights due to the fear.

Just tired. And frightened.

I am tired of commuting for work. I am tired of living in a place that is not home. I am tired of having full financial responsibility for bringing up my children. I am tired of running out of time to do the things I enjoy and want / need to do. I am tired of disrespect from colleagues at work. I am tired of not having any close friends.

@girlandboy . No wonder your tired. Sending unmumsnetty hugs.

I'm just tired. I'm tired of being tired. I'm tired of spending every fucking minute I'm awake thinking about sleep. DD nine months is my absolute world but still won't sleep. I'm sick and fucking tired of trying everything and it not working, and listening to everyone telling me how it's all my fault and I'm doing it wrong, I'm sick of it.

Was awfully tired of life, then horrid abusive husband finally literally fucked tottled off and now feel much better, thanks. Bye now. 👏👏

Still ... becoming pretty tired of brexit. It's getting a bit OJ Simpson-ish, no? Just Endless. Fucking. Brexit. Break up with the EU. Cos I'm bored. 😴

I'm tired of every single thing everyone on this thread has listed.

I'm just tired. I want my life just to stop so I can give my mind and body a complete rest. Not go on holiday as that's stressful in its own way especially with DC and the post holiday depression seems to affect me more each year.

Agree re not another Christmas, same old thing year after year. So boring, the 'magic' has long gone for me.

Cooking, fussy kids, rude ungrateful teen Dd, grunting teen DS, big business out to squeeze every last penny out of you when they already have millions and you have barely enough to live on.

I could go on forever...

I'm tired of absolutely everything.
The only thing keeping me going is my 15 month old son who I could never be tired of. I love him immensely.
But other than him, I'm sick of everything.

@Lepetitpiggy I came on to say the same thing - I’m tired of missing my mum. It’s been three months for me. She should be here.

My absolute lack of willpower. Am about 3 stone overweight and every week I say to myself this will be the week where I start dieting and every week I'll do well til about Monday evening and then I'll cave in and start snacking on crisps and choc and wine again. So fed up with myself

@Lepetitpiggy @Brittany2019 same here, mum died 6 weeks ago suddenly and only just turned 67, tired of people saying it gets easier and be strong.
@MrsGrindah too

Also tired of the daily routine, waiting for my flat to sell (been almost a year)!, trying to lose weight and cooking - I would be happy to never cook again

Never having enough money

Having to get loans to cover costs and then chasing money

It’s depressing I was better off as a student

And not being listened to at work

DDog behaving like a dickhead.

DH shouting at DDog for behaving like a dickhead.

DDog sensing the tension in house now behaving like a bigger dickhead.

Oh and tonight my otherwise normally functioning sharing the housework etc etc DH seems to have fucked off and left an alien in his place.

DH "I fancy pasta for tea, do you?"
Me "yeah that'd be good".
DH takes fresh pasta out of fridge, puts on side and goes and sits in the living room.

"Ok I'll just get the plates, cutlery, pan, sauce and everything else out and make it should I?"

Then does the EXACT SANE THING an hour later.

DH "Should we have a cuppa?"
Me "yeah that'd be nice"
DH fills kettle and WALKS AWAY

What the actual fuckity fuck ??????

Tired of brexit
Me too! The debates but also all the bureaucracy to try and get EU citizenship.

Cooking - I could quite happily skip dinner but everyone else wants to eat and they also want me to cook!

Anxiety - makes everything worse. What is the point of it?

1. Another birthday approaching and nothing to show for it. Never thought my life would be so crap by this age.
2. Family issues as ever and not being listened to again
3. Being taken for granted generally and treated like crap
4. Having IBD and the daily strain of that
5. Being single and feeling very lonely
6. No social life
7. How ugly I am
8. Job not going well

I am a good person, kind and hard working but my life is crap and I have so much bad luck. Tired of it.

I'm tired of being the responsible grown up that everyone turns to for support and advice. Both my parents are having health issues, they need my support even though my brother lives with them, but he's a man child. My sister has no money and is also having health problems, she needs my support, both emotional and financial. Dd1 is having health problems, she really needs my support. DH has a bad back so can't currently do his share of the house work, so I'm doing it all until he's recovered.

Oh, and I've just been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, so I've been feeling massively run down for months, but never been the most urgent priority. I'm still not, but have to fit in changing my diet and lifestyle around looking after everyone else.

Work.

I've been working full time since 1987 and I'm utterly knackered.

Poor health. Lost my career and identity and most of my social life. Tired of feeling ill forever.

Tired of the house work as others have said.
Tired of thinking about past traumas
Tired of hiding myself away cos I'm ashamed of how I look
But @girlandboy just put things back into perspective for me. I'm so sorry you are going through this

Tired of my house which has taken two years to renovate and still not even nearly done, tired of the mess and just not having a clean and orderly home

girl and boy I understand what you are going through.

My husband has cancer and it is not being treated. I understand the doctors will never say how much time he/we have left.

The worry is non stop stress. ALWAYS having to appear upbeat and positive. The sheer terror of the future alone in very much reduced financial circumstances. Worry about leaving our lovely home and going alone into rented property.

Having no one to confide in - no one to comfort and support me.

Adult children (some medical professionals) just say not to worry “We are all terminal one way or another” - and - “You could have a heart attack/stroke” so why worry about dad’s future - we all have to die sometime”.

I don’t find this comforting or supportive in my dark hours and now worry in case I suddenly unexpectedly die before my husband and worry who will take care of him.

I was coming on to reply and am incredibly sad to read about what a lot of you are going through.

I shouldn't complain. I'm just tired of the daily grind, two kids that won't stop bickering and are always asking for more, more, more. Are they ever bloody happy!!

I'm tired of always being broke even though I work.

I'm tired of telling my children that they cant things or do stuff that their friends can.

I'm tired of other people expecting me to have a babysitter or to be able to drop everything and go out.

I'm tired of going through an investigation of my ex abusing my children. He just denies and denies so it goes on and on meaning my children keep getting questions. I just wish it would be over and we can all move on.

Tired of dedicating so much of my brain to mundane shit!