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Are you still interested in sex

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allgoodinthehood · 02/08/2019 18:38

Just having a jokey conversation withy partner . I say " he should appreciate the fact that I'm still interested in loveaking at the age of 54 as far as I'm aware there are alot of women and men who go off it at our age . Just for transparency I have had a beer or two. 😂

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PooWillyBumBum · 02/08/2019 18:42

My mum is in her early sixties and loves to tell me after a few drinks how great sex after sixty is. Blergh. So you’re not the only one.

I’m still interested but I’m only 29 Grin

PooWillyBumBum · 02/08/2019 18:42

The “blergh” is at my mum having sex, not anyone over 60!!

madcatladyforever · 02/08/2019 18:44

No and I hope I never have any again (57).

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allgoodinthehood · 02/08/2019 18:47

Lol I'm still up for it anytime but don't think he appreciated that this is not always the case

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SpoonBlender · 02/08/2019 18:53

I certainly am and I hope to continue to be! It's such fun.

Mum lost all interest at menopause, but didn't have a partner either so that worked out fairly well I suppose?

DP's mum would still be up for it - she's in her 80s - if she could find a feller who can still be up for it too! Few and far between at that age, poor lass.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 02/08/2019 18:57

I'm 46 and couldn't care less if my shagging days are done. That's mostly due to relationship problems though, I suspect that if my husband were less of an arsehole at the moment then I'd be more interested.

ArtichokeAardvark · 02/08/2019 18:59

I'm 31 and sex is the last thing I want right now. That said, I'm pregnant and my libido has gone on an extended holiday almost since conception...

TemporaryPermanent · 02/08/2019 19:02

In a relationship my libido is a very shy flower (though still exists) but single again at 50 and I'm pretty much the Martini woman. Twice.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 02/08/2019 19:02

45, not bothered.

Arrowfanatic · 02/08/2019 19:02

I'm 39 this year and its not that i dont want it, i do. Just not as often as DH. He wants it daily, i want it 2-3 times a month. This can cause friction between us.

DontTouchTheMoustache · 02/08/2019 19:02

32 and i think i must be in my "sexual peak" or something because i cant get enough 😂

soundsystem · 02/08/2019 19:04

ArtichokeArdvark same here. I'm interested in principle but between being the size of a whale, aching all over and still suffering from "morning" sickness I just can't muster up the required energy...

OldUnit · 02/08/2019 19:06

I'm 38 and really wouldn't be bothered if I never had it again

Minkies11 · 02/08/2019 19:07

Yes (40) - just not with my DH Sad

VictoriaBun · 02/08/2019 19:10

After the menopause, some women can go onto getting vaginal atrophy . It can shrink your clitoris so therefore ( not unsurprising ) lose the desire to have sex.

Poetryinaction · 02/08/2019 19:11

No. 36.

LajesticVantrashell · 02/08/2019 19:12

39 and get the raging horn once a month around ovulation time. Luckily my DH understands as we're both knackered with full time jobs and a toddler.

I go for quality over quantity nowadays, it might be only once a month but it's amazing sex when we do have it.

IdblowJonSnow · 02/08/2019 19:13

No. My sex mojo has fecked off.
I want to want to do it, but j7st don't. And my dh is usually pretty nice.
Luckily he's not bothered much either. But I do worry what it could mean in the long run.
Back in the day I loved it so maybe I've just used it all up?! ConfusedGrin

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allgoodinthehood · 02/08/2019 19:14

My marriage I was celebrate for 15 years I just look at it that making up for lost time lol

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Wishihad · 02/08/2019 19:14

I am 37. 4 years ago I would have said I could quite happily never have it again. Then I left exh. Met dp and we are always at it.

That said I dont think he should appreciate you anymore just because you still fancy sex with him.

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allgoodinthehood · 02/08/2019 19:20

Um he says sex is only a small part of the relationship its the getting on and cuddles and chatting that is more important in a relationship. Which I agree with but all I'm saying is alot of people are done with sex at our age which is a shame as its so much fun 😁

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Pieceofpurplesky · 02/08/2019 19:25

I've forgotten how to do it! 5 years single. I don't miss it though tbh, rather go without than be with ex (who has put me off men for life)

LegoLady95 · 02/08/2019 19:25

43 and definitely still want it. Much of my thirties I wasn't too fussed - until I was PG with my third child.
I find myself looking at men all the time, then my DH gets the benefit at home!

BubblesBubbly · 02/08/2019 19:26

I’m 35 and love sex, but my dh loves it more and he’s 44

angell84 · 02/08/2019 19:26

I have had some verrey bad sex : men being selfish , men being rough, men hurting me, men not caring about my pleasure. We have all been there with some of thosethings haven't we. I would quite happily never have that kind of sex again. However if I met a man who was caring and in not selfish I would like to have alot of that sex. Where are those men lol

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