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Are you still interested in sex

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allgoodinthehood · 02/08/2019 18:38

Just having a jokey conversation withy partner . I say " he should appreciate the fact that I'm still interested in loveaking at the age of 54 as far as I'm aware there are alot of women and men who go off it at our age . Just for transparency I have had a beer or two. 😂

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Youcanstay · 02/08/2019 23:58

No, never been.
Always been kinda repulsed even idea of having to have sex.

TwistyTop · 02/08/2019 23:59

Struggle on work nights because we're both so tired, but at the weekends we both love to have sex. I think we've managed to keep an active sex life all of these years because we both expect it a lot and we're both very upfront - I it's been more than about 4 days one of us will say to the other "hey, it's been 4 days, why haven't we had sex?" And then we'll make sure we do if that night, even if it's just a quickie.

I don't understand sexless relationships for happy people. Obviously if you aren't happy and/or your partner is a selfish prick then it makes total sense, but for those who still love each other but just say they aren't interested anymore, I don't really get it.

Peakypolly · 03/08/2019 00:00

I'm 55 menopausal and can't take HRT so my sex drive is nil. Who says menopause is when you go sex mad? Liars.
Well I’m not lying, and at 55 and no HRT I would describe myself as pretty sex mad. Was like a switch going on for me at 48. When DC were little, I was pretty ‘touched out’ by them but, as previous posters state, now DH and I can swing from the chandeliers again.

mindproject · 03/08/2019 00:01

I was very slightly interested in sex in my 20s, but went off sex in my early 30s. I'm happier celibate, I doubt I will ever be interested again.

Hadjab · 03/08/2019 00:09

Umm 48, and hell yes!

oldfatandtired1 · 03/08/2019 00:10

58 and post menopausal with zero interest. Divorced a few years ago so fine by me!

KUGA · 03/08/2019 00:34

I am 59 and still enjoy a good rumpy pumpy as does my 58 year old husband.

hellenbackagen · 03/08/2019 00:38

at 47 im definitely having my second coming.....
(or third. or fouth. or fifth. and sometimes even sixth seventh or eighth.....)

StarlightLady · 03/08/2019 05:37

40s and proud to be highly sexually active. I have needs!

2018SoFarSoGreat · 03/08/2019 06:02

60 and DH 61 and very much still interested! Can't wait not to have to go to work five days a week 😁

DaveCoachesgavemetheclap · 03/08/2019 06:16

I'm 52 and haven't had sex for about 18 years. Suits me.

SimplySteveRedux · 03/08/2019 06:37

I go for quality over quantity nowadays, it might be only once a month but it's amazing sex when we do have it.

With us both having disabilities - this is most true.

SimplySteveRedux · 03/08/2019 06:40

he says sex is only a small part of the relationship

I disagree wholeheartedly with this. I see sex as an integral part of a lasting relationship, with the intimacy and emotional connection is provides. YMMV.

Fairylea · 03/08/2019 08:29

This thread is interesting.. I’ve had periods in my life when I’ve been sex mad and other times when I’d be quite happy if I never had sex again. Confused

StarlightLady · 03/08/2019 08:33

I can only think that those who don’t enjoy it aren’t doing it right!

With regard to the question about single ladies, it’s the 21st century, single people have sex too.

longearedbat · 03/08/2019 08:37

64, and I'm really no longer interested. I used to be an absolute rabbit until I was about 45. The menopause seemed to kill all my sexual feelings. I like to think all the sex I had when I was younger has made up for the sexual desert now.

StumpyinSomerset · 03/08/2019 08:42

I can only think that those who don’t enjoy it aren’t doing it right

How do you do it ''right''?
I hate the feeling of someone that close to me,''invading'' my space. It's messy,you get hot and sweaty.I really dislike being touched,so it's not a case of not doing it ''right''

Fairylea · 03/08/2019 08:44

I don’t think it has anything to do with “doing it right”. Plenty of people don’t like tea even though they can make a decent cuppa....

StarlightLady · 03/08/2019 08:48

Point taken. You have the tea and I’ll have the sex.

JacquesHammer · 03/08/2019 08:52

How do the single ladies on here manage?

By having sex Hmm

One doesn’t need to be in a relationship to do so.

Rainsfallandwindsblow · 03/08/2019 09:02

42 and can't get enough of it. My husband is struggling to keep up. I've always loved it though.

angell84 · 03/08/2019 09:18

@JacquesHammer I said how do the single ladies manage.
When I have met men off dating apps for sex they have been violent and nasty.
How do single ladies have sex SAFELY. You do not know what a random man is going to be like whn you back to his house. He could be biolent which has happened to me. Do you have a friends with benefits? I want sex but I do not want to meet men off dating apps ever again

JacquesHammer · 03/08/2019 09:20

Do you have a friends with benefits?

Yep.

angell84 · 03/08/2019 09:23

@jacqueshammer I need to get one of them. After I met the last man I had sex with off a dating app five months ago, and he hit me in his appartment, I said I am never having a one night stand with a stranger again - it is too dangerous

LittleCandle · 03/08/2019 09:24

My XH was fairly crap in bed and I was too naive to know how to help him become better (he was my first and only). I don't remember the last time I had sex, but it was well over a decade ago and I really don't miss it. I'm happily single.

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