@MamaandTiti - I am so sorry you and your DD are having to experience this, it must be soul destroying to work so hard on your marriage, to be so accommodating and understanding and then to be shat upon, from a great height, by the 'man' who had promised to "love you, forsaking all others".
I know you know this, but there is another woman or maybe he's picking up a new one regularly, but it's clear from what you've told us that you're not the only one in his life.
I’ve been on MN for around 2.5 years and I must give you my first 'LTB' - this is the 6th one you've had on this AIBU, out of just 90 posts (when I started typing this). I really do understand you not wanting your DD to have a 'broken home' and I agree that infidelity is not always cut and dried, but in this case, all the information you have shared with us points directly to him being unfaithful. You once gave him a second chance, but it doesn't sound like he's done anything to earn or deserve a third.
Do you have any supportive friends or family nearby? If I were you, once he had left for Paris today, I would invite one of them over to help (choose someone practical!), and start to ‘get your ducks in a row’ to separate from him. I'd start with your finances - you need to keep the 'everyday stuff' ticking over and keep a roof over you and your DD's heads, so make sure you have enough money to pay the rent/mortgage and bills for the next month or two (so you don't have to have in depth chats about money with him whilst everything is still so raw), if you have it available - is there cash in the joint account you could move into your own if you don't personally have any savings? When he returns from his romantic weekend away with another woman, you can be prepared to tell him you have decided to separate/divorce, you've packed him a bag to last a week or so and the rest of his stuff has been boxed up and he can text you to arrange a time which is convenient for you for him to collect them.
Next, I'd get a recommendation for a decent divorce specialist and make an appointment to speak to them on Monday (you might feel a bit too emotional to go over the whole story with a stranger today - although you've done pretty well here on Mumsnet - but of course, it's anonymous!)
I wish we were all wrong @MamaandTiti, but your 'D'H is treating you so appallingly - in a way which only comes from a place of disrespect and derision. His opinion of you is SO low, that he's treating you as if you're completely stupid and he thinks you won’t notice! He thinks that by calling you things like 'controlling' he will succeed making you think it's you that's being unreasonable (see how you were even questioning yourself on this thread over whether he was right and you were being controlling?! Newsflash: You’re not! He appears to be under the impression that you're so brain-dead, you'll accept his lies as the truth without question - he's clearly expecting you to completely believe what he's telling you whilst ignoring what the facts and your own instincts are screaming at you!
Think of the old cliché - what advice would you give a friend in your position? Good luck @MamaandTiti, I hope you and your daughter find the happiness and peace you so deserve. 
And I hope the man you're (currently) married to gets gonorrhoea and his knob drops off. 