Tattoos - DPs name

[SimplySteveRedux]

I'm booked in for the names of my kids to go on my arm, DD (19) is rather upset (and I can tell DS 21 is pissed off) that I seem not to be including their mums name too. We've been together almost 25 years.

I love her very, very, much, but isn't it a big no-no in case you ever split etc? So AIBU not to, or?

Definitely not being unreasonable

Are you planning to split with your DP after 25 years??!

It’s your arm? It’s not something I would consult my kids about. Either directly or just because I had a feeling they were pissed off about it.
Either way, the woman will always be the mother of your kids so it’s not like she will can be an insignificant ex after 25 years and 2 kids.

If you don’t want DP’s name tattooing how about having her initial incorporated into the tattoo somehow?

I have mine, DH and DS initials in a tattoo on my inner wrist.

Your choice, it’s your arm, personally, I hate tats.

Names is a little tacky - would you consider something else to honour them inc their mum? Special dates for example. That way, if you did ever split, it wouldn’t be so bad.

I wouldn’t get anyone’s name tattooed on my body. I don’t really see the point and if there’s a possibility the relationship would end (any romantic relationship) then not a chance would I have it.

I dislike name tattoos generally, they look tacky. I’d tell them you love them loads and give them the cash you’d have spent on it to go out. You won’t have old saggy tats when you’re older and no ones feeling are hurt. Boom.

I have no issues with tattoos. I don’t understand why anyone needs to tattoo their kids’ names on themselves though. After 21 years, surely you’re going to remember what you called them by now, without having to refer to expensive ink on your arm?

When you use the word Dp I assume unmarried you have raised 2 children together . Been together 25 years . While there are no guarantees seems odd you are worrying about splitting up.

Are you planning to split with your DP after 25 years??!

Well, no, but early death does happen. (Sounds so bad writing that).

The dates/initials idea are good ones, I can move on from tacky names! Good ideas.

Maybe get her birthstone tattooed on you,nicer than just her name.Or maybe the flowers of her birthday month.

I wouldn't. Kids are always yours. Partners not so much. My mum and dad split after 36 years of marriage.

Why would you not want her name on your arm if she died? Splitting up I can understand but not death.

But anyway, it's up to you who and what you put on there.

I'm with you on this. You're right, spouses names as tattoos are a bad idea. Your example of early death and the possibility of a future partner is a good one...as well as the more common split scenario.
Your kids are always your kids but your spouse might not always be your spouse.

Please don't get your partner's name or initials or birth month on your body.

There are couples who split after a very long time but you are (unfortunately) stuck with your kids for life.

Why do people get their kids names tattooed on their body?

I will never understand the mentality of it.

My DH has our children’s names tattooed on him: I’m really not fussed by him having mine on him. I don’t see why anyone would be bothered by that.

What about her name, but in a different language? My DH had my name on his arm in Japanese (we have a friend fluent in the language so checked the spelling beforehand) so nobody but us (and and Japanese speakers) knew what it said.
He's since had it covered up with a Carp, the sod....

You can't have a tattoo that someone else bullies you into having. It's a big and quite permanent thing,they last longer than a lot of relationships.

Maybe you can look into having something done to symbolise each kid(a hobby,nickname etc) and possibly your partner. Only if you want to ofc,and you find an idea and design that you would be happy to wear (possibly) for life.

My DD's nickname is an animal so I have a tattoo of that animal for her.

I only get it if the children were deceased so it would be like a tribute to them

But otherwise. No
Tacky and unnecessary.

Sorry @SimplySteveRedux, that sounded snide looking back and I didn’t mean it to! I think it’s your tattoo and you do what you want. I think tattoos of this nature you’re going to have people say don’t do it all, and tbh I wouldn’t personally but clearly it means something to you and it’s nice. I agree don’t get bullied into a tattoo you don’t want. How does DP feel about not having her name there? If you did decide to do something I do think the PP’s suggestion is nice but maybe something that means something to the two of you that isn’t her name?

Name tattoos are tacky, even of your kids. Sorry.

I got my dh and dc's fingerprints incorporated into my design, in a hot air balloon. Could you reference them in a more abstract way?

Could you get something such as their birth month flower, or something that reminds you of them?