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Targeted by neighbours again?

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Ladyofletters · 25/07/2019 19:30

I’m not sure if any MN’ers remember my thread nearly two years ago now, but I’m having a bit of deja vu and really just wanted somewhere to write it all out as I feel like I’m going mad!

I had the last thread deleted on advice of the Police but even though they are sympathetic this time they can’t really do anything for me at the moment.

I’m not really sure how to explain my last thread as it was honestly a bit crazy! Towards the end it didn’t even feel like real life!

So basically my DH and myself were being targeted by the ‘locals’, we’re still not 100% sure why but think it was because we were selling our house but wouldn’t lower the price for a local child moving back to the area (they were offering £50k less than asking price and we’d already accepted an offer over asking anyway)

So we sold up and moved (I don’t want to be too outing but we moved within the area but at least two villages over)
Nobody knew about the issues other than our friend and her DH (who came over a few times) my DM, my DH parents and another friend and her DP. We were unknown in the new village but have obviously made friends etc now but we haven’t told anyone what happened.

So to now, we have been getting strange phone calls. Just general breathing down the line then hanging up. We have also had random things being ordered and delivered to our new house and we think we have been followed occasionally, normally days when we’ve been coming back in the evening.

It’s starting to scare me a little bit again, it’s like it’s all starting again and I’m feeling really shit!

DH says it’s probably just a coincidence but I can tell he’s a bit worried too. He won’t let me take the dog out alone anymore.

I don’t have anyone to talk to about this as DH thinks we shouldn’t say anything to anyone just in case.

Sorry this has been so long! Blush I don’t know what I want from this thread really, I’m thinking just writing it all out might make it play on my mind less. Sad

OP posts:
Xiaoxiong · 28/07/2019 11:31

The heavy breathing though, my mum has the best way of dealing with this - years ago my aunt was being terrorised for months with these calls and my mum finally picked up and started laughing hysterically down the phone and the more he breathed the more she shrieked with mad creepy laughter. The guy on the other end said something like "Jesus, there's some creep on the line" (!!) and never called again! I asked where she got the idea and she said it was from the line about men being afraid women will laugh at them.

LordRudolphVII · 28/07/2019 11:33

If it's just bitter lemons over you not selling your house on the cheap to their friend, I doubt they'd do much more than stupid 'practical jokes' which are easy to keep anonymous (unlike actually assaulting you etc). But can totally see why you'd be scared.

Corkingbig · 28/07/2019 11:35

This is your husband. It’s either him doing it or someone associated with him.

Headstand · 28/07/2019 11:40

If you use any kind of activity tracker (e.g. Strava for tracking runs) then where you live or the general area can be worked out which could give someone a headstart if they really wanted to find you. Check if any of your settings are "public".

Beautiful3 · 28/07/2019 11:45

I know how you feel OP. Years ago when I was 18ish I turned down a neighbour's advances. A few days later I had pizza and taxis at the door. He lived opposite so Im sure he enjoyed watching this. Always happened in the evenings he was in. This carried on for a couple of weeks before they just said they would put a temporary ban on my address. I preferred this, as I didn't use them at the time. Just ring up amazon and the pizza place and explain you're getting this problem and yoh dont know why. Theyll help you. Maybe even set up a password for future orders, so they know it's genuine.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 28/07/2019 11:48

Do you have a Google account, OP? Do you or your partner use Gmail or Google Suite?

mummmy2017 · 28/07/2019 12:02

People who do this tend to want to see it happening, it is someone your friends with.

fatfluffycushion · 28/07/2019 12:08

You say the police can't do anything yet you are clearly being stalked ? Go back to the police , your MP if no luck with police , it's really not something you should have to put up with
Hope you get to the bottom of this and don't get fobbed off

CandleWithHair · 28/07/2019 12:31

I remember your original thread, it was pretty terrifying tbh - gutted to hear you’re still having issues.

MRex · 28/07/2019 12:47

Following when you're both in the car; that does suggest something. Could it be they're stalking your DH but he doesn't notice them following when you aren't in the car?

Someone doesn't need to have an affair to get a stalker, some people are just unhinged.

louise5754 · 28/07/2019 12:57

@rainbowstardrops
Ooh that all sounds a bit odd. I'm not sure if I remember your previous thread or not. Could you link to it please?

Did you miss the OP's second paragraph?

rainbowstardrops · 28/07/2019 13:15

My apologies* @louise5754* I did read it but clearly didn't concentrate quite as much as you did Wink

Whosorrynow · 28/07/2019 13:29

I think I might be considering a private investigator, it does sound extremely unsettling and I hope you get to the bottom of it

DaisyChainsGetBroken · 28/07/2019 13:37

How are you op

Loyaultemelie · 28/07/2019 13:51

I remember your previous thread, I'm really sorry its happening again

ThatCurlyGirl · 28/07/2019 14:14

God I remember your previous thread it really got to me, poor you.

I don't know if it's possible but can you ask amazon to not send anything to your address unless it is ordered directly from your amazon account?

Have you explained to your bank what's happening and asked them to change your card and bank account details? Sorry if you've done this already and I've missed it.

I've been a victim of stalking (now have a lifetime restraining order) and it really is hard to explain how scary it is once it tips over into everyday life.

I remember saying to a counsellor that I felt like I got as obsessed with the stalker as he was with me (we never spoke and still haven't ever (!!!) but he was a neighbour. You get so paranoid you're gripped with what they might be doing and it gets all consuming.

Keep reporting - the police as good as said to me that until he hurt me they wouldn't be able to help but it got to a certain point where at least once they had to arrest him there was a log of everything that happened before.

Poor you OP I know it's horrible.

Goforitgirl · 28/07/2019 22:09

If they’re only following you when your DH is in the car doesn’t that suggest he has something to do with it?

StinkinDrink · 28/07/2019 22:20

Oh gosh, I didn't see your first thread bit it sounds like you have had an awful time. I hope this is all just a random bunch of coincidences and life is back to normal before long Flowers

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