Targeted by neighbours again?

[Ladyofletters]

I’m not sure if any MN’ers remember my thread nearly two years ago now, but I’m having a bit of deja vu and really just wanted somewhere to write it all out as I feel like I’m going mad!

I had the last thread deleted on advice of the Police but even though they are sympathetic this time they can’t really do anything for me at the moment.

I’m not really sure how to explain my last thread as it was honestly a bit crazy! Towards the end it didn’t even feel like real life!

So basically my DH and myself were being targeted by the ‘locals’, we’re still not 100% sure why but think it was because we were selling our house but wouldn’t lower the price for a local child moving back to the area (they were offering £50k less than asking price and we’d already accepted an offer over asking anyway)

So we sold up and moved (I don’t want to be too outing but we moved within the area but at least two villages over)
Nobody knew about the issues other than our friend and her DH (who came over a few times) my DM, my DH parents and another friend and her DP. We were unknown in the new village but have obviously made friends etc now but we haven’t told anyone what happened.

So to now, we have been getting strange phone calls. Just general breathing down the line then hanging up. We have also had random things being ordered and delivered to our new house and we think we have been followed occasionally, normally days when we’ve been coming back in the evening.

It’s starting to scare me a little bit again, it’s like it’s all starting again and I’m feeling really shit!

DH says it’s probably just a coincidence but I can tell he’s a bit worried too. He won’t let me take the dog out alone anymore.

I don’t have anyone to talk to about this as DH thinks we shouldn’t say anything to anyone just in case.

Sorry this has been so long! I don’t know what I want from this thread really, I’m thinking just writing it all out might make it play on my mind less.

Sounds like you potentially have an actual stalker OP rather than just a nasty ex neighbour. I’d take all precautions. Buy a go pro which you can wear on your body too as well as the car. Therefore solid proof. This shit is crazy x

I have literally just mentioned you on a "what happened to.." thread!

I am so sorry this is happening again. Two thoughts -

1. Could it be someone in either HR department at work who has access to your address?
2. Do you have a cleaner, gardener or other service provider (e.g. tree surgeon) that you used in both homes and may have passed on information, casually or otherwise?

This sounds unsettling. I hope the person gets caught ASAP.

Can you afford a private investigator? Maybe worth considering if you can?

Or speaking to some sort of security consultant.

The pizza place are apologising and saying it was delivered by mistake? . Well, unless they’re in on it, maybe it was just a mistake?

I think if you moved only a couple of villages away there is a good chance that your whereabouts may be known. The countryside is a very incestuous place and it always amused me that some of my fellow villagers would talk about their ‘neighbours’ who it transpired lived in the next village or the one after that.

Can't believe this thread was two years ago!
Agree with cleaners etc, you haven't moved that far but would people still be bothered? Could it be something else?

Unlikely to be the neighbours I think. Although I didn't see your previous thread. But how could they benefit by doing this now that the place is already sold and you've moved.
Is there anyone else that could be doing this.

I don't mean to say this out of turn, again I didn't read your original thread, but could the last set of incidences at your old property have left you with a paranoid mental health condition? (I'm sorry to suggest this, it's just a question, I have no idea about such things).

I hope you find out who is or was doing this and it gets sorted out. Really feel for you.

I remember your previous thread op. I'm sorry to hear this has started up again.

It sound unnerving which I presume it's supposed to make you feel. Does your cctv record ?

This all sounds so odd. Is there any possibility that your DH is behind it? I did not read your other thread it's just you've taken a lot of precautions and this new attack seems to be isolating you in particular.

Why is it you're only followed when DH is with you?
Why did pizza place not say they'll put a flag in your address to stop deliveries?
Why did Amazon say it was your account?
Why did magazine company say it was your DHs payment details.
Does your DH get moody when you want to go out without him and how does he react when you're really happy?

I do apologise if you feel I'm way off the mark as you're clearly going through (and been through) a horrendous time. Investigate and question everything however unpalatable.

Does DH have a separate account that you don't know about? Might explain amaxon/pizza place.

I don’t remember your last thread op- could anyone link it for me pls??
I definitely agree with the practical advice on this thread - changing passwords should be a priority op.
Sounds very stressful though I’ve had issues with neighbours and about to move myself really impacts on day to day life 💐

@Hoggytat that's quite some leap.

The amazon payment and magazine subscription are the oddest occurrences. You can't permenantly delete an order from your history on Amazon you can only archive it so if your account has purchased it you will be able to see it.
www.amazon.co.uk/gp/help/customer/display.html?tag=mumsnetforu03-21&nodeId=201997140

Could it have been from your DPs account instead? Mine and my DPs amazon accounts are linked as we have Prime. You can't see their purchase history from.yiue account so have a look at his purchase history and archived history.

I'm not saying it's your DP doing it but that whoever's it is has his account details rather than yours.

Get dashcam and rear cameras in your car/s.
CCTV set up at home.
'Ring' type doorbell.
House alarm with panic buttons.
(Have everything bought and fitted by suppliers from well outside your area).
Change all passwords.
Change all cards.
Advise bank and credit card companies.
Carry personal attack defence.

Log everything.

Advise bank and credit card companies.

This reminded me. You can set up "alarm" with CIFAS. That will notify you when there is any financial application in your name like loans etc. They hold it until you give it a green light if it's yours. Might be handy too seeing that someone has quite a lots of details for you and them applying for loans and credit cards in your or DH's names can cause some bother.

OP I hope it settles, screen calls, keep notes.
I do feel for you neighbour intimidation is nothing new, including bullying for property.
I would tell someone close by, it is plausible, is there anyone in the village around a long time they may have some experience of this.

The cable ties are just sinister. Sorry this is happening to you. I hope whoever it is they stop.

I can't believe its two years either. I remember it well.

Would the buyers of your old house know where you went? Or the estate agent you used, what about them? Could you ask them if anyone has contacted them and been given your new address?

My first thought is Royal Mail/Postman.

All it takes is for a smiling neighbour to approach the postman

"Oh Hi, Can you remember the road/number they moved to?
I have a new home card for them, & I have lost the new address they gave me"

Did you give the new owners your new address?

Did you put a redirection in to Royal Mail?

I had the last thread deleted on advice of the Police

Honest question, but why start another thread on the subject if Police advised getting rid of the last one?

Fridge it's the questions that came to my mind when I read the OP and it's not a line that has been discussed.

I totally accept that it could be way off the mark but felt the OP should have the option of dismissing the idea or looking into it.

Some good questions here OP. I'd investigate further how these people got your address, they may have followed you home, or have a friend in the village, In fact id be open about the intimations with neighbour's.
You don't have to give names, just explain you had some hassle in your last property and things are happening here, nothing like village gossip, you've done nothing wrong.

Two years is a long time to keep up a dispute about not being sold a house.

I would be considering the possibility that the past problems and these are down to an unidentified third party, and something more personal.

That said, I don't remember your last thread so don't have all the info.

I remember your last thread because it spooked me.

Hopefully this is just a couple of odd coincidences and that'll be the end of it.