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Targeted by neighbours again?

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Ladyofletters · 25/07/2019 19:30

I’m not sure if any MN’ers remember my thread nearly two years ago now, but I’m having a bit of deja vu and really just wanted somewhere to write it all out as I feel like I’m going mad!

I had the last thread deleted on advice of the Police but even though they are sympathetic this time they can’t really do anything for me at the moment.

I’m not really sure how to explain my last thread as it was honestly a bit crazy! Towards the end it didn’t even feel like real life!

So basically my DH and myself were being targeted by the ‘locals’, we’re still not 100% sure why but think it was because we were selling our house but wouldn’t lower the price for a local child moving back to the area (they were offering £50k less than asking price and we’d already accepted an offer over asking anyway)

So we sold up and moved (I don’t want to be too outing but we moved within the area but at least two villages over)
Nobody knew about the issues other than our friend and her DH (who came over a few times) my DM, my DH parents and another friend and her DP. We were unknown in the new village but have obviously made friends etc now but we haven’t told anyone what happened.

So to now, we have been getting strange phone calls. Just general breathing down the line then hanging up. We have also had random things being ordered and delivered to our new house and we think we have been followed occasionally, normally days when we’ve been coming back in the evening.

It’s starting to scare me a little bit again, it’s like it’s all starting again and I’m feeling really shit!

DH says it’s probably just a coincidence but I can tell he’s a bit worried too. He won’t let me take the dog out alone anymore.

I don’t have anyone to talk to about this as DH thinks we shouldn’t say anything to anyone just in case.

Sorry this has been so long! Blush I don’t know what I want from this thread really, I’m thinking just writing it all out might make it play on my mind less. Sad

OP posts:
Pinktinker · 27/07/2019 05:02

The husband is paying someone to follow them in the car? OP already clearly stated it happens when her husband is also in the car. I highly doubt it is him.

oatmilk4breakfast · 27/07/2019 05:51

Yes fair enough, and if there’s absolutely no evidence pointing that way and OP feels safe with husband it’s a bit counterproductive to suggest anything to contrary. Ignore me, OP, it was 3.30 in the morning and that post about the short story freaked me out. Wouldn’t normally leave a comment like that, hope you can follow some of the good advice on this thread and ideally also find out who’s behind all this and put a stop to it. Good luck. Worrying for you. 💐

MarthasGinYard · 27/07/2019 06:07

Change all passwords numbers etc.

Keep a phone or use a dashcam and visibly record anyone suspicious. Particularly if you feel you are being followed.

stayingaliveisawayoflife · 27/07/2019 06:23

I had some nail glue sent to me via amazon which I didn't order. When I traced the order number it was for another item I had delivered days earlier. The company had sent it randomly by mistake.

Carpetburns · 27/07/2019 07:19

Think @DGRossetti might be onto something...

Firstworddinosaur · 27/07/2019 09:02

We had a random Amazon order once linked to our account but not traceable, they said it was just a mistake. Could the magazine be because you're at a relatively new address? I'm not saying you don't have a problem and shouldn't take precautions but hopefully it's all unconnected.

W0rriedMum · 27/07/2019 21:42

Check on Prime Now as orders seem to show up separately if the 2 hour Now delivery service is used.

MRex · 28/07/2019 09:44

You can stop the phonecalls by switching to a new ex directory number. How many people were involved in the incident with the door banging at your old house, was it 3?

Amazon customer service should be able to give you a better explanation; who paid for the cable ties etc. Explain the situation to them and push for them to check. Are you both certain that nothing came off any of your cards as this is a common method of fraud, buying something innocuous bettor the big purchase (that will be diverted). Same with the subscription. I'd be looking carefully at credit cards and consider it might not be related.

The pizza place would likely be more irritated if it was pranks, I don't think that's related but a genuine mistake? At my old house I had the same pizza delivery guy bring pizza; my road had two names, one for each end #1-80 X Road & #1-70 Y Street, and he was at the right number but X Road instead of Y Street. Which was fine, but the same guy did it 5 times. After time #3 I just raised my eyebrows saying "Really, again?" and he'd say sorry and scuttle off with his pizza.

Livelovebehappy · 28/07/2019 09:54

There are some batshit crazy human beings in the world we live in. Makes you despair sometimes that people can be so evil towards each other. I hope it is just coincidence OP and not something more sinister. You seem to have everything in place that you can.

Paintingtheroseswhite · 28/07/2019 10:12

Then finding out your new address probably isn't that hard, they could have asked the people who bought your house for a forwarding address to "send a card" or spotted you in a local town one day and followed you home (sinister I grant you).

Hard to say on incidents, pizza once a conincidrnce but 3 times?

AJPTaylor · 28/07/2019 10:16

Do you need the landline?

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Ladyofletters · 28/07/2019 10:18

Thanks for all the really good suggestions!

I’m manically busy today but will read the replies properly and answer questions later today.

I’m nearly 100% sure it wouldn’t be DH, although I suppose you can never be absolutely sure but he really isn’t the type and honestly when this all first started he was really frightened too. He isn’t a great actor!

OP posts:
MRex · 28/07/2019 10:20

I don't see how it could have been DH, surely you'd have noticed the money going missing to pay the door bangers, car followers etc.

mummmy2017 · 28/07/2019 10:24

Buy a REF whistle....
Confirm it is heavy breather on the phone.
Blow as hard as you can down the phone...
Or wait a month in and day in a clear voice, hang on will mute the call, is that enough time Detective to trace the call or do you need longer....

TokyoSushi · 28/07/2019 10:30

I remember you OP, I hope that there is an explanation Flowers

colourlessgreenidea · 28/07/2019 10:32

Or wait a month in and day in a clear voice, hang on will mute the call, is that enough time Detective to trace the call or do you need longer....

Hmm
CastleCrasher · 28/07/2019 10:42

Some really good advice on the thread. I'd be slightly concerned about the suggestion that some of the orders have come from you- have you checked your credit report to make sure there are no cards etc that you don't recognise?

MulticolourMophead · 28/07/2019 10:42

If I'm honest I’m more concerned about being followed in the car. So far it has only been when DH and I are together but 1, how do they I know we are out of the house? 2, how do they know we are together? 3, how did they bloody well find us? And 4, how do they know where we are going/have been?

Is there any location finder set up on your phone? Could someone have hacked this to show where you are?

As for finding you, if the unknown person knows where you work, they could have followed you home.

Orangeballon · 28/07/2019 10:42

Feel for you, been the victim of village bullies myself, still am, hopefully, this will fizzle out.

mummmy2017 · 28/07/2019 10:44

Sorry my mobile changed a word...
Waited a few minutes.

MulticolourMophead · 28/07/2019 10:49

Oh, and I know the whistle down the phone often gets recommended, but seriously don't do it. You can get done for assault if you burst their eardrum/ cause other harm to their ear. A woman in Germany certainly ended up paying a fine after causing the other person to suffer pain and long term tinnitus.

YoTheGinPussy · 28/07/2019 10:58

Another possibility, your old postman? Would have access to your new address, could have got all your details by opening your mail. Apologies to innocent posties on here but these things do happen.

ReturnofSaturn · 28/07/2019 10:59

Don't rule out your DH immediately OP.

stupidis · 28/07/2019 11:06

When reading this, and I haven't read your original thread, I was thinking that your husband has had an affair, it's ended and the other partner is stalking.
I'm sorry you're going though this no matter what/who it is.

Xiaoxiong · 28/07/2019 11:28

I didn't read your old thread but it sounds a bit like what happened to me when my details were stolen - first I heard was a letter thanking me for signing up for a Debenhams store card. When I phoned up to say I'd never set foot in a Debenhams they advised me to call one of the credit reporting companies and it turned out some scrote had opened up all sorts of things using my name and address (which at the time was freely available on the Companies House register, or they may have got something out of my post).

I'd get onto Amazon first - use the details on the packing slip and really try and figure out how it was paid for and on which account, and then onto your bank to see if the money came out of your account. Then call one of the credit reporting companies like Experian. All kinds of things came out of the woodwork when I did that but they were wonderful and helped me sort it all out.