Teacher forgot daughter's leaving card and class picture

[lilykins1]

Hello everyone,

My daughter has been at school for 5 years (nine years old) and has always tried her best, had lots of friends and enjoyed school. We are having to move for my husband's new job and on her last day the teacher forgot her leaving picture and leaving card. My daughter was in charge of another students leaving card two weeks ago and has taken part in others as well which I think is making it worse for her.

This has had a negative effect on her emotionally and at a time of big change and uncertainty I feel it is such a huge oversight form the teacher. I feel it is a breach of her emotional care and such a sad note to end on.

I have e-mailed the head and made my feelings clear, she said it was down to human error but the teacher in question was reminded by one of my daughter's friends on the day. AIBU to be this upset and feel so let down by the school and the teacher?

Any thought or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you

Requires improvementwas meant to be tongue in cheek given that this is the term used when teachers are endlessly, and often unfairly, assessed.*

The trouble is nothing in your post led to the suggestion you were using the saying it in a tongue and cheek manner and neither did your follow up post. Whereas it was pretty clear when other posters were being sarcastic.

I feel it is a breach of her emotional care

The teacher forgot! That's it. She made a mistake and she forgot.

Have you never forgotten to do something OP for your own child even?

I feel so sorry for these teachers who try to do their best, but aren't allowed to be human and make mistakes. You're accusing her of emotionally damaging your daughter for forgetting.

That is a shame.

I know it’s not part of a teacher’s job to do leaving cards, but if it’s usual at the school for children to get leaving cards, it’s hard for a child not to take it personally if they don’t get one.
Although I can see how it would get overlooked more easily for a child leaving at the end of the summer term, it’s a very busy time in the school year.

My DC got leaving cards when they left their old primary school. I wasn’t expecting the teachers to organise them - I didn’t realise schools did leaving cards for pupils at all - but it was very sweet of them to do it, and my DC were happy to have the cards.
It was a mid year move though, so a quieter time of year for the teachers.

Honestly the fact the teacher did these was something she did out of kindness. No teacher is expected to do this. As a teacher I have learned to not do things like this because parents and children get a sense of entitlement that they should get something. If you had any idea how crazy the last week of school is for teachers you would not be reacting like this.

I would be saying, "Well Mrs X is obviously a bit hopeless without you to rely on to sort out a card. Now you're gone I bet nobody will be getting a card in future. Still seeing as you sorted out other people's leaving treats so well, we'll sort our own out shall we?"

I'm surprised the OP didn't mention the wonderful present they gave the ungrateful teacher as thanks for her work with her DD.

Yeah it's a shame and i'm sure upsetting for your daughter.
Hardly a disaster though and not like it was done deliberately. Making a big deal out of it isn't going to help anything.
Maybe just focus on the excitement of all the new things she's going to experience.
She'll only dwell on it if you do.