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Update - relationship with boss

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user1471514421 · 23/07/2019 08:25

Hi all! I posted a little while back about relationship with boss and where it was going.

Things have escalated and he has made it clear he is interested. Things are fine in work, nothing untoward, it is the contact outside of work.

Up until now this has been a distraction and bit of fun, now it is becoming a bit real, I dont know what to do. I dont want to ruin my career, my marriage, plus he is also risking alot. Pls help!

OP posts:
alittlerayofsunshine · 23/07/2019 10:40

@YouJustDoYou

Abyss face!! Grin

@Hidingwhoiam

OMG that pic!!!! 😂

Hidingwhoiam · 23/07/2019 10:44

@alittlerayofsunshine they are dangling over the abyss! 😂😂😂

DoNotWorry · 23/07/2019 10:46

Thoroughly enjoying this latest Mills & Boon; can’t wait for the bodice ripping scene😙

Hidingwhoiam · 23/07/2019 10:47

@Catsandchardonnay catch yourself on.

OP doesnt like her husband. She is bored. She posts on mn because she loves the drama.

She isnt trapped in her marriage at all.

Plenty of people split when they have kids.

The OP isnt abused, or doesnt have her own money. She can leave.

And dont say she probably stays for the kids. Because how is shagging your boss (and she will) any better for the kids than her getting a divorce.

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 23/07/2019 10:50

Oh for goodness sake.

Pretty much all the replies to your previous posts said don't.

It was also clear that you wouldn't listen.

And now you won't listen to this one either.

Hmm
alittlerayofsunshine · 23/07/2019 10:54

@Hidingwhoiam

They are dangling over the abyss! 😂

Ba ha ha ha ha! 😂

DramaDrama · 23/07/2019 10:54

Let your husband go before you act on this impulse. Give him that dignity, at least.

AnonymousMugwumpery · 23/07/2019 10:57

NEW JOB SALE >>>>

Hmm
alittlerayofsunshine · 23/07/2019 10:57

OP has gone quiet. Probably confused by the reactions.

This is her now (reading peoples posts!) Grin

Update - relationship with boss
1forAll74 · 23/07/2019 10:58

We all need some fun and excitement in our lives, go for it, you may never get the chance again.. I was you once upon a time, but I do have some lovely memories of my once upon a time.

ThatCurlyGirl · 23/07/2019 10:58

Imagine shagging him and everyone finding out you have done, ending your marriage as a result.

Imagine not shagging him but leaving your husband so he can move on and so can you.

Imagine not shagging him but giving counselling etc a go to see if you and your husband can go back to being happy together.

Pick which one you can live with, option 1, 2 or 3.

Act accordingly.

Done.

AnonymousMugwumpery · 23/07/2019 11:00

Seriously (and assuming this is real, rather than summer holiday fiction-writing) - whatever else you decide, either way you're going to need a new job. You're already past the point of no return on that. Get looking for one.

Hidingwhoiam · 23/07/2019 11:00

alittlerayofsunshine maybe he is her 'Precious' ! Hmm

Hidingwhoiam · 23/07/2019 11:01

Shit that should have been Wink not Hmm

Thatsalovelycuppatea · 23/07/2019 11:02

At first I thought you were both single. Then I carried on reading. I'm sorry , but you got yourself in this shit, you seem bright enough to say no. No sympathy from me I'm afraid.

MashedSpud · 23/07/2019 11:03

You have a bad case of fanny throbs.

Sort your marriage out (fix it or leave it) then have the liaison with said boss so you can post on here in a week about how heartbroken you are now he’s shagging the new temp.

alittlerayofsunshine · 23/07/2019 11:05

@Hidingwhoiam LOL Grin

00100001 · 23/07/2019 11:07

"I dont want to ruin my career, my marriage, plus he is also risking alot."

pretty sure you've ruined your marriage already....

namechangeninjaevervigilant · 23/07/2019 11:07

You know exactly what you should do. Stop this in its tracks. Freeze him off. Look for a new job.

It’s lovely to feel fancied and attractive, even the very happily married of us might enjoy the occasional flirtatious conversation or glance but this has gone too far.

pooopypants · 23/07/2019 11:15

You don't want to risk your marriage.... but you've posted about your boss before... and how unhappy you are in your marriage... and possible separation

I don't think you're in a good place at all OP. Get your shit together, for the sake of your kids if nothing else.

BlueSuffragette · 23/07/2019 11:25

Grow up. Be responsible. Either leave your husband or talk to him about why it's not working. Cheating, lying and having an affair is not great. Sounds sad not exciting at all. Feel sorry for your DH and your kids.

user1497997754 · 23/07/2019 11:35

Don't do it my boss and I had an affair.....we both left our marriages.....we got married and had a child....it latest 6 years....now divorced.....BIGGEST MISTAKE EVER.....obviously love my daughter but in hindsight NO.....I still feel bad and it happened 36 years ago.....he was 35 and I was a stupid nieve 23 year old girl who was flattered by the attention

Ivestoppedreadingthenews · 23/07/2019 11:45

Don’t be an idiot. This is like a cautionary tale...

SunshineCake · 23/07/2019 11:52

Grow up ffs.

15YemenRoad · 23/07/2019 11:59

If you truly don't want to ruin your career and marriage stop being an immoral and unfaithful drama queen.

If you're that unhappy with your husband, free him from you so that he can be with someone who will love him and not cheat. How would you feel if he was doing what you are? Clearly you do not want to be in the marriage, so leave?

Stop playing games with people in the interim, it's pathetic and disgusting.