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Update - relationship with boss

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user1471514421 · 23/07/2019 08:25

Hi all! I posted a little while back about relationship with boss and where it was going.

Things have escalated and he has made it clear he is interested. Things are fine in work, nothing untoward, it is the contact outside of work.

Up until now this has been a distraction and bit of fun, now it is becoming a bit real, I dont know what to do. I dont want to ruin my career, my marriage, plus he is also risking alot. Pls help!

OP posts:
notapizzaeater · 23/07/2019 09:57

Why would you screw everything up in one go. LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND - don't fuck his up as well

CustardDonuts · 23/07/2019 09:58

Divorce your husband, reject your boss, get a new job, and be the best mother you can be to your children.

🙄

CollaterlyS1sters · 23/07/2019 10:02

Teetering on the edge. Also my boss.I didn't. We didn't. We could have done, the opportunity was there, but we were both too aware of the abyss that could open up underneath our feet.

The drama! The teetering! The abyss!

The hair whipping in the wind! The tears drying on the cheeks! The trembling hands!

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 23/07/2019 10:03

Here's another apt username.
No one cared on the last thread and no one cares on here. Grow up.

Anon230982 · 23/07/2019 10:05

Agree with Snog. Pursue the boss. Leave Husband. Change job.

IvanaPee · 23/07/2019 10:06

Another dramatic installment, huh?

And it seems like you have company!

I didn't. We didn't. We could have done, the opportunity was there, but we were both too aware of the abyss that could open up underneath our feet.

My organs are actually seizing up with the amount of cringe I’m feeling. 😂😂😂

alittlerayofsunshine · 23/07/2019 10:06

@CollaterlyS1sters

😂😂😂

HeadintheiClouds · 23/07/2019 10:07

What “help” do you need, exactly? The drama...

Jayaywhynot · 23/07/2019 10:11

Knock it off, you fell for some attention, easy done, nicely remind him what you both have to lose and bow out gracefully

YouJustDoYou · 23/07/2019 10:12

You sound like a child. Omggggg, my boss liiiiikes me, help me plz I dunno wat to doooooo

Hidingwhoiam · 23/07/2019 10:12

Why do people who are on the verge of affairs or having one, start talking like a Barbara cartland novel.

Tittering? The Abyss opening beneath us? We could have done, we didnt....I didnt.

Its pathetic. All you need is to in a heaving bosom, and you have a trashy novel.

YouJustDoYou · 23/07/2019 10:13

@alittlerayofsunshine LMAO

YouJustDoYou · 23/07/2019 10:13

Why do people who are on the verge of affairs or having one, start talking like a Barbara cartland novel

This is what 13 year olds do when they write fanfiction....

alittlerayofsunshine · 23/07/2019 10:18

@YouJustDoYou Grin

wildcherries · 23/07/2019 10:18

Such a monumental cliché. Fuck the boss if you want but at least tell your husband so he can make his own decisions.

alittlerayofsunshine · 23/07/2019 10:19

Should feel sorry for the OP right now. I mean she is at loggerheads, and totally stressed, and about to fall into the abyss.... Grin

I imagine her looking something like this.

Update - relationship with boss
WhiteDust · 23/07/2019 10:21

I didn't. We didn't. We could have done, the opportunity was there, but we were both too aware of the abyss that could open up underneath our feet.

Oh dear God.
Get it over with! Shag him and see how far into the abyss it leads you.
Write a novel when you're done!

Enclume · 23/07/2019 10:30

Alittleray, that is definitely an abyss face.

YouJustDoYou · 23/07/2019 10:31

And then, though our beating hearts said we shouldn't, nay, that we musn't, lo and behold but I fell on his penis. I know...I know!!!! What an extraordinary turn of events! The excitement!! The feelings of pure love!! I've never felt this way before in my life! - like, totally all happy and lusty and stuff! But, damn the consequences! And my husband! And the fact he's my boss and I'm just a smitted teenager unable to control these strong, magnetic feelings of attraction! It is what it is, and in life, you can't choose your soul mate! Who are WE to deny fate? A must say, when the sun sets this evening and we are holding hands under the desks, what an amazing, perfect day will have past. Sigh. I am just so totally lucky.

YouJustDoYou · 23/07/2019 10:32

Abyss face!! Grin

ChaircatMiaow · 23/07/2019 10:32

Look normally I don’t pile on, but to be fair, on the last thread people were genuinely trying to help you not to self sabotage and not fuck up your marriage, your kids and your career, and you were like OH BUT DO YOU THINK HE LIKES MEEEEEEE?

So carry on as you are, I’ll just grab my popcorn...

IvanaPee · 23/07/2019 10:33

@YouJustDoYou I think you’ll find it is his throbbing member, or pulsing sex stick and NOT a penis.

ChaircatMiaow · 23/07/2019 10:33

@youjustdoyou that’s not his hand she’s holding under the desk!

Hidingwhoiam · 23/07/2019 10:37

See now I am imaging OP and @ContactLight OM to be Fabio

Catsandchardonnay · 23/07/2019 10:39

To those PPs who say nobody cares, well actually I care. This is someone’s life here and she’s come here for help not cruelty. OP you sound like you’re trapped in an unhappy marriage, he’s probably the only man you’ve had a relationship with, you’re now wondering what you’re missing out on and looking for an escape.

OP this man isn’t it!

He’s probably just looking for a bit of fun knowing he has nothing to lose. But you have an awful lot to lose - your job, your marriage, your kids, possibly your friends too. He isn’t worth it. I’m sure it’s all very flattering and exciting, but it’s not worth it.

Sort out your own marriage first, whether to stay or go. Then and only then look for someone else.