Anyone else lives another life in their head?

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I daydream of another lifestyle everyday. In the evening I search for a flat for my imaginary life.
I love my kid, I live in a small but decent flat, in a clean city but I'm not very inspired. So I imagine days out on my own or meeting with interesting people,etc...
Anyone else?

Another person who didn’t realise other people did it or what it was called. Started when I was about 7 and it was definitely an escape. Sometimes I do heroic things but more often lead a boring but different life to mine. I’ve done it less often over the last few years but now I think about it, stopping it hasn’t made me feel better or achieve more in real life.

But a small part of me is concerned that if I were hypnotised all my indepth daydreams could come out

No experience of being hypnotised Offred2 but as the daydreaming memories are conscious then would they come up if the hypnosis is to help recover unconscious memories (as opposed to giving up smoking etc)? I think there are some reports about hypnosis and false memories so finding someone reputable would be the most important thing for me.

I am a "Baby Talker" can understand babies telling me stuff

Oh my god I can't believe all of the others who do this too!

Mine is pretty much reserved for when I'm falling asleep ( day or night as I have severe insomnia ) and I love adding things to it or falling in love with someone new.
That sounds crazy written down but I know you all get it

In my new life I have no chronic pain, am always immaculate and polished, house is spotless and I'm a sex goddess.

Reality is somewhat different. It's funny how quick I can slip to the other life though. It almost feels real.

I spend an inordinate amount of time planning what I would do if I was mega rich.

I daydream so much about being freed from the shackles of work and just taking off wherever I want to go, whenever.

I also have other daydreams of lives in which I'm a famous runner, a beautiful and talented singer songwriter or hilarious and popular. I am average at best at all of these things IRL

Some MN posters have such a rich fantasy life that they make up threads in fantasy character. See the There is a dog in my house does not belong to me thread. Quite a boring thing to make up, but it makes me wonder how much of MN is just made up stories and people playing a character in threads.

I've never had a complete fantasy life but I've always imagined fantasy conversations and events and little stories. I have noticed that this has diminished to almost nothing in recent years, since I've been practising mindfulness, yoga and meditation, though I wonder if it's partly an age thing and I've just become more logical and rational.

I do feel generally very happy and content in myself, and much more "zen" about things, and enjoy actually living my life rather than switching off and making things up. At the same time, I hardly ever dream now and feel like I've lost a bit of imagination and creativity.

Most definitely, living alone and being old !

Twofurry my friends doing that in Arran !!

Unfortunately everyday ,in the dark I have a totally different live mapped in my head for me and my son,with a much better outcome but know I cant change it now .I would say for the more realistic ones you should maybe strive to have that life you imagine .I wish I could

Mine are a bit boring, mainly I imagine myself doing something slightly different at some point then play out my life from there. But given that I'm still me, things usually turn out quite similar. This thread has given me lots of great ideas for new daydreams though, so thanks everyone.

Such an interesting thread, i don't do this and had no idea so many people had these detailed imaginary lives! A pp asked what we think about before sleep - i have no idea, my brain just wanders in a semi dream state and then i'm out. Or if i'm anxious about something it'll be on my mind and I'll have to consciously think of something boring that would send me off to sleep. I want the daydreams!

Hello
I have so enjoyed reading these, having lived a fantasy life that saved my sanity when trapped in a long term stressful work situation. I realised throughout that my daydreams, and dreams, were a great help in keeping me courageous. Since I have been poorly I have lost the ability to daydream and feel the loss severely. Cherish your daydreams!
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I do. I tried to stop once but found I was more stressed out.

So now I just let it be. It's better and safer than drinking or comfort eating. Makes me happy, and makes life easier. Especially when things happen unexpectedly that I'm not prepared for like bereavement

I used to do this all the time but it stopped when I had counselling for the numerous issues that I was trying to escape from. I'm much happier and have two gorgeous children and a really lovely partner. Even with all the difficulties that life has thrown at me over the past year I still haven't gone back to my fantasy world.

Yup! It's a control/anxiety thing for me. Mostly I daydream about how I'd cope if bad things happened - everything from DH dying to random terror attacks. DH dying is my most common daydream. Occasionally I somehow manage to re-train & start a very successful career but mostly I meet someone & fall madly in love.

The last few imaginary boyfriends haven't worked out. One got the opportunity of a lifetime to pursue his music career when he bumped into an acquaintance on our honeymoon. That was very sad but I loved him enough to let him go off & live his dream. He was way too cool for me anyway. The next one was already successful when we met & had a DD of a similar age to my DC. He was too grown up & wore shirts as casual clothes.

Current one is going well so far. He's the colleague of a friend of mine who I met when she brought him to the gym we both go to. He had a difficult start in life but had managed to straighten himself out & is now doing well. He's very sweet & is being very respectful of my need to take things slow, given my relatively recent bereavement.

Usually I keep it for just before I go to sleep but if it's particularly intense, or my anxiety is bad, it can really affect my normal life. The DC get to watch a lot more TV when it's bad because I get really irritated if anyone disturbs the daydream - it's like I have to work through the scenario ASAP so I know how to cope if it actually happens. Once I've got a plan or have convinced myself that it's not a workable scenario I get over it instantly & normality resumes.

I kind of do this backwards... I wonder if my life is all a dream, am I actually in a coma somewhere and everything that happens is actually fake?!

Omg finally I've found my herd 😂😂

In my head I've purchased a five bedroom bungalow. Yes I genuinely have a Fantasy bungalow ffs 😂😂😂

I once spent an hour doing an excel spreadsheet of everything I would need to renovate my fantasy bungalow.

I even fantasy shop for my fantasy bungalow, had brochures delivered for kitchens and bathrooms for a house I don't even own.

That sounds like it should be a Zynga game, Bungalowville 😂😂

It's totally addictive.

I also enjoy creative writing so often I turn my fantasies into a story. That way I can have control over what happens, eg with things like children’s names.