Anyone else lives another life in their head?

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I daydream of another lifestyle everyday. In the evening I search for a flat for my imaginary life.
I love my kid, I live in a small but decent flat, in a clean city but I'm not very inspired. So I imagine days out on my own or meeting with interesting people,etc...
Anyone else?

I do this, I used to stress about being a weirdo but these threads make me feel normal so I'm embracing it

And does anyone else do the commentating thing in their head?

"Yolofish is working in the garden today, she's removed a whole section of over grown ivy which has been difficult, hot and sweaty. She's made a significant difference but still has to clear up. She's going inside now to get a glass of wine, then she'll come back out with a cigarette and survey her handiwork."

@Yolofish I do this too, and surprisingly similar to yours. Except mine would be "Noodles stood back jeering at the invasive thug ivy after soaking it in brushwood killer. Die you bastard die! she growled ferociously."

I do the narration and the maladaptive daydreaming, have done since a kid. Only alarmingly my daydream characters are not me and are nothing like me, unlike everyone else's But it's like a soap opera in my head, and I like that I can change what the characters say and do just as I want. DSis and I used to collaborate our stories as children so she'd say a bit, then I'd add a bit, and they'd go in all sorts of directions because of the different input

I’m a booker prize winning author who wakes before the rest of the house is up for a morning walk in my pjs and wellies in my own private woodland.

This is something I've never done, or talked about, or even heard of before now. I'm incapable of suspending disbelief when watching telly or reading books. I am slap bang in the centre of reality, always. I wish I was capable of transporting myself.

Something has made me laugh on this thread.

We are all describing these outlandish, unrealistic lives. And none of us are commenting on each others wild dreams.

Because we're completely absorbed in our own!

ThighsRelief - very true! We're all living inside our heads!

So glad for this thread as I didn't think there were many people that spent a lot of their time fantasizing other (completely unrealistic lives). I figure, whatever gets you through your day.

People other than me, I mean.

Yes. In my head I make Villanelle look like Mary Poppins

I do this constantly, I only know it’s a problem when something becomes obsessive / mean spirited.

Currently spending most of my time fantasising about STBEH’s death.

Oh yes. l've done it for nearly 50 years. Sometimes it was the only thing that kept me sane. .

I wish I did this! Though I do the lottery win thing quite a bit me and dh may have had a blazing row over how we would allocate our dreamed up fortune

The worst is when someone catches you doing it.

You're sitting pretending to read a book and doing all these micro expressions to go with the imaginary conversation. I just pretend they're the crazy one.

didn't know there was a name for it. I literally thought I may be sectioned if I ever told anybody about it me too. I do this every day usually before going to bed and waking up or doing a boring activity (like washing up or waiting for a train etc). I have a few different lives in my head. In one I'm living in the 18th century in Canada.

I've just realised I've stopped doing this. It used to be the only way I could fall asleep (I was a shape shifter telepathic alien sent from the future to various tunes in the past/ future....)

I'll now daydream a bit. But it is very much based in reality. So I daydream about owning a house with chickens, or lay out my pretend allotment. Or design my ideal kitchen....

But there isn't the narrative drive. And I do want chickens. Daydreaming their coop is just preparation.... right?

Ooohhhh I didn't know there was an actual name for it! This has made me really happy 😂

In mine, I'm ten years younger, size 8, long, healthy, curly, red hair...beautiful, of course! And CEO of a publishing company. My husband is madly in love with me and a devilishly handsome, self-made millionaire wine merchant. We have 10 year old twins girls and a golden retriever.

(In real life, I'm in my 50s, divorced, size 16, a knackered teacher and have more grey than I care to admit in my boring cold straight, blond bob 😂).

One can dream 🤷‍♀️

I even plan my wardrobe 🤦‍♀️

Life is meant to be fulfilling. Mine is. I do not dream of another life. I have done this when younger, then I jumped the tracks and followed my heart. Have done this for the last 20 years with not one regret.

Joy but did Roy Orbison sing to you today? He did to me, during a hot commute.

Does this not make people unsatisfied with their real lives? I don't understand it and would assume that it's used as an escape from reality, but would also be concerned that real life would feel even worse?

All the time. Because the road outside our house has got busier and busier in the last few years and I hate it with a passion and can't find any house to buy that's better than what we've got!

My longest-running one (at least 20 years now) sees me living in a mansion in the middle of nowhere. It's fascinating how it reflects real life. The strangest was when my sibling came to visit and wouldn't leave, insisting that as our mother had moved in that it was her (as in sibling's) house as well. You'd think that in my own fantasy I'd be able to kick her out but no!

I made it slightly more realistic it a year or so ago - instead of a mansion I now live in a new-build (based on my own design) in the place I live now. So only 3 bedrooms rather than a million, but still in the middle of nowhere and with space for all my animals. My sibling is definitely not invited!

I do have a falling to sleep daydream though- it's a cold night and I'm laying naked but draped in thick pelts, in the back of a wild west wagon being horse drawn across the prairie under a starry sky.

Me, me me!!! I was about to start a similar thread myself, lol.
I am currently, in my head, engaged to a Korean actor I have seen in a film last week.
I love my husband and we are very happy, but always been a bit of a dreamer, and would love to trael more, but we can't afford it because of family situation. So yeah, hmmm, hope Im not talking in my sleep.

Oh I do this. Mostly love it though it sometimes leads to me feeling rather dissatisfied with my real life, which isn't that bad at all really!

In mine, I have a small house or flat, decorated beautifully (Imaginary me has a far better eye for interiors) on the outskirts of the city centre. I have no children in my other life, but enjoy a good social life with friends and have a boyfriend who can keep me company when I want him to, but has his own place so isn't under my feet! I just work part time as I've bought the place outright so don't have to worry about too many bills.