Anyone else lives another life in their head?

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I daydream of another lifestyle everyday. In the evening I search for a flat for my imaginary life.
I love my kid, I live in a small but decent flat, in a clean city but I'm not very inspired. So I imagine days out on my own or meeting with interesting people,etc...
Anyone else?

“Me too, always. And when I'm finding someone difficult to deal with I wonder who they are in their imaginary life. It helps me be kinder.”

Tavanach I love this. I’m going to bear it in mind.

I always have too. More so since DH got ill/died. I have the ‘our life as it should have been’ version (a third DC, DH has built our next house which is in the country, we’re keeping bees as well as chickens, everyone is well and happy and not hideously overworked etc) plus a ‘lovely second husband’ version in which I remarry.

First is definitely impossible; second seems so too. But I can dream. Thank goodness.

Despite being incredibly slender and dainty (95lbs and size 2 feet, thank you for asking) I gave birth to twins by surprise. Luckily my adoring husband, Tom Berenger, is used to this as we have a dairy farm in Nebraska. He helped deliver these twins and cried tears of pure joy and adoration - manfully of course.

Thankfully, despite the surprise birth, I was able to get back to my vocation of being a horse whisperer incredibly quickly. I'm actually a medical marvel.

My twin brother was killed in the Vietnam War, tragic but I dealt with it with courage and grace. I'm from a small town in Kansas where my father, Sven, has a soybean farm. I've moved to my husband's wheat and dairy farm in Nebraska. My husband and father sometimes disagree about their crops.

Does anyone else chuckle to themselves about things they have said/done in their imaginary world? I do this walking down the street sometimes. I must look insane. Better than when I was sobbing down the street I suppose!

Due to being from the Bible Belt I go to a Baptist Church, sometimes the preacher is a bit too fire and brimstone. I'm used to this though due to my conservative upbringing. And being an FBI Agent.

I'm a crack shot, of course, and can ride horses bareback. People marvel at my skills. They say I was born with my cowboy boots on, I demur.

I can't imagine what's to be gained from it. ( Totally accept that there is, just can't imagine what)
For me, it is the only way I can go to sleep. An adult bedtime story I suppose

I do it at night to. I thought I was the only one.

Yes all the time, glad it's not just me. I'll go off into my own fantasy world when I'm with someone and have to remind myself of reality so I don't start talking nonsense to them

I've always done this...

Atm I teach Ancient Runes at Hogwarts.

When I was little and we went for walks I used to pretend we were colonists on a new planet and we were foraging for food/looking for aliens. Did this for years.

My jackpot win has been spent 100 times over( helping others mostly. ) So it has to be a very big win!
I'm also the ' person in charge' of my own company , 4 stone lighter with a lovely wardrobe of clothes and i'm a nice manager who tries to help and not belittle people as well. They can have bank holidays and Christmas off as standard!

None of these things will happen , but it's good to daydream.

I do this. Have done since early teens.

I like to listen to music and that dictates what my pretend persona is up to.

She's a very successful dancer and backing singer. She's had romances with Damon Albarn, Johnny Depp and many flings with whoever has been hot over the years (Brad Pitt, Keanu, the usual lot) .

After trying to rescue Johnny Depp from himself she has now had to come to terms with the fact he is a lost cause, so she wrote an album to get over him (21 by Adele). She got bored being famous so is now helping out a few bands in her spare time as their lead guitarst (Killers being the main one) She also had a brief fling with Fleabag's Hot Priest
then I read he was gay so concocted a huge drama whereby she made him question his sexiality

I'm a bit disappointed lately, I can't quite get the relaxing feeling from my going-to-sleep fantasy that I normally do and I think it's because I'm actually quite happy and settled in real life. I'm not complaining obviously.

Yes I do this. I have several different ones to pick from depending on moods. Love my fantasy life. Sometimes I even have conversations out loud which doesn't make me look weird at all

There's a whole parallel universe going on in my head. Always has been for as long as I can remember. Right back to childhood

Same here, it's my way of coping/self-soothing kind of like a comfort blanket for my mind. So long as it's not affecting real life it's not a problem.

I have several long running fantasies that I pop in and out of depending on my mood and what sort of escape I need, have also had a fair few one offs and a couple that have concluded. My current favourite is the one where DH and I have a huge Euromillions win (we don't even play the lottery in RL) and we use the money to buy a rundown old hotel in a rural but beautiful area of Scotland. We've been doing the place up, turning it into something really special. We have a nanny who helps with the children while we're working on the hotel and they have a private tutor too but on our days off we have some lovely adventures. We've got our grand opening soon and there are some high profile names on the guest list!

I am physically fit, great breasts and dress with style, class and sexiness.
For a minute I thought you were going to say despite all this ^ I still daydream and I was thinking 'now there's confidence for you!'

Yes. Constantly!

it's my way of coping/self-soothing kind of like a comfort blanket for my mind

Yep, yep, me too. I had a very unhappy childhood so this felt natural, I always wanted to be someone else while growing up, and I suppose I still do and always will. It's definitely a type of therapy!

FriarTuck
I could never, or ever be that confident in my life!
Great breasts feature heavily in my fantasies: I've breast fed three children and they are battle scarred. What I'd give for a lift and reshape, the tops I could wear sans bras.

I do this all the time.
I daydream of my first love (brief romance in my teens, he was from Manchester - me from London so it only lasted a very short time).
I think of our "life" together now and I have a completely different personality and he probably does too. We most recently went to Scotland and had an adventurous time climbing Ben Nevis. Gosh he makes me laugh too, we're so funny together ... in daydream land. I love the butterflies it gives me.

I've done this ever since I was a really small child, to the point where I would sit by myself for hours doing some repetitive task over and over again (bouncing a ball off a wall for example) and tell myself these stories. As an adult it's usually while I'm walking with headphones or as I'm going to sleep.

I'm usually a successful dancer, adopted sibling to a famous actor (the psychoanalysts among you can get going on that), with a degree from some high-flying University. In others, I run a successful business from home, we've paid off our mortgage and I'm one of these women who swans around looking incredibly polished the whole time from being constantly in a salon. There are hundreds of variations on this theme and I literally don't know how I'd fill the gaps without them!!

I save mine for when I am falling asleep

Me too - I have had loads of them over the years, depending on what I was obsessed with at the time.

The only thing they have in common is that I am always slim and fit in them. Unlike IRL.

In my head I live in the Edwardian era in a large house in the country. I'm pretty much Lucy Honeychurch in A Room with a View. I play tennis on the lawn, go on unladylike rambles and take tea in the garden or read letters from my lover on a window seat in the drawing room.

There's a great song on Youtube somewhere about just this called "Rich Fantasy Lives"...(Nothing rude, honestly.)

Just remember everyone: it is very, very likely that someone, somewhere uses you as the focus character of their fantasy and what if daydreams.
I cringe at this likelihood because I used to be quite the knob! 🙈

God yes, I have about 5 different lives in my head. They’re all wonderful.

I do the falling asleep daydream.
It's not a TOTALLY different life. It's still me and my family. Just a lot more money, house in Central London, country bolthole, holiday homes and a LOT of fashion. Dresses from Cabbages and Roses, Lisa Marie Fernandez. Brora cardigans in every colour and scarves from Hermes that I wear as headscarves. Kids would be dressed in Brora, Faune, Celtic and Co, Marie Chantal. Stuff like that.
Oh and I would have more children. I'm rich so I can afford private maternity care. so I would have about 7 (in reality I have 4). They're homeschooled (we hire v good tutors) so we can travel frequently.
I have cleaners, housekeepers, drivers etc so I can waft about taking the children out, going for lunches and looking around auction houses.
It's a good life! 😄