Babies are worse than toddlers when going out.

[Sianlouise432]

A genuine AIBU because I'm coming from a place of 0% experience with toddlers.

I know I've got the terrible twos to look forward to, however I just think taking a baby out and about is SO ANNOYING.

DS can stay awake for max 1.5 hours before he gets cranky. He fusses and cries. Toddlers have tantrums but you can kind of ignore them.. Babies cry for genuine needs which makes it so difficult cause you HAVE to act.

So AIBU? Babies are worse to take out and about.

Omg, no, no , no. I have 3 dcs and none of them were what you’d call easy babies but it was a billion times easier in every respect when they were babies. I find toddlers so, so much more difficult in everyway.
In fact by number 3 I had gotten wise and planned my time when I could wander around libraries, shops with baby in sling, I fitted in all my coffees with friends in the first 7 months as I knew full well time was ticking.... I even redecorated my house over the first 6 months of my 3rds life when my other two were in preschool/school cause I knew at that first roll over it was game over. In fact this summer has been way more difficult because my older two are off and my baby is now a toddler so fully mobile. He won’t sit still for a second, all of my kids were the same.
I was recently in ikea with my kids and saw a couple gliding around all smug with their baby in a sling. They did look a bit apprehensively at me chasing my two year old and trying to get him down from various packed furniture.... I get that not all toddlers are like this but I don’t make those ones. The buggy has already become obsolete...
Enjoy this time op particularly if it’s your first

If it helps OP, I found 4 months a seriously rough patch with both my babies - although at least with DC2 I knew it would end. With DC1 I just thought my life was over. How shall I count the ways? The sleep deprivation is really mounting up. They are old enough to get a bit bored but not old enough to do anything. They are hungry and growing yet constantly distracted and so they’re on and off the boob all day. Then feeding all night. They need a constant series of naps every 1.5 hours, fighting every single one with a burning passion and then waking up after 30 minutes. They get bored lying down in the pram and tired sitting up. Dribble everywhere. Milk everywhere.

DC2 has now passed the magic 6 month barrier and takes 2 lovely big naps every day and amuses himself by rolling around, sitting up and hitting things. Ahhhh. I’m trying not to think too hard about the toddler years.

Ok I'm going to disagree with PP and say I find toddlers way easier! I hated taking him out as a baby, he didn't talk to me, didn't want to do anything, kept napping if I took him in the pram and the buggy is just so irritating!

Never had a baby the slept. Both were terrible at napping. Both disliked sling/pushchair etc.

Both WAY easier as babies. My 2yr old yesterday lost the plot because I wouldn’t have a snowball fight with him (he didn’t mean an imaginary one - believe me, I tried all sorts). He also hates when he has taken a bit out of food because it’s not whole anymore and he apparently can only eat things if they are complete - he does not seem to understand the entire concept of what eating actually entails.
He will not, no matter how hard I try, wear clothes that he has decided on a whim that he hates and will strip off as soon as my back is turned. He hates getting in his car seat but then refuses to get out at the other end because he’s “just soooo tired”. He can climb like a mountain goat, fight like a ninja and disappear from sight in an instant.
I love the bones of him but he’s bloody hard work.

Depends on the baby/toddler. One of mine was a cranky nightmare baby so we could hardly go anywhere but as he got older it got much easier (even in the terrible twos!) the other was always a doddle and easy going

Maybe your baby is 🤷‍♀️ But my toddler is more difficult now than before. If you’re expecting it to get easier then you need to adjust very quickly to the idea that it in fact gets harder. Until they’re children they get harder. Then they become teens and get harder again.

Yabu!

Toddlers are far worse than babies. And pre-schoolers are even worse than toddlers!

Dd is nearly 4, still tantrums but isn’t in a buggy and has back chat for everything! Going out with only ds (2 months) is an absolute breeze in comparison.

I had the same thoughts as you OP when my DS was a baby, how I wish I could go back in time and enjoy my stress free time taking him out as a baby compared with the toddler he is now!!

@noeuropewho you get it 😂

This thread is probably terrifying you but there are so many fun things as well as the hideous. Also with toddlers you don’t tend to get projectile poo so that gets better! I say this as someone who has just chucked a sleepsuit after my baby had a car seat poo up to her armpits. Potty training wasn’t as bad as that.

YABU. Toddlers are actual goblins.

Laugh!!!!!! Op babies are vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv easy. You dont realise that till you have a toddler.

Yeah, no. Toddlers 100% worse.

I love toddlers and think that babies are very, very overrated. However, the advantage of babies is that they can't argue about where you're taking them. And they can't announce in a loud voice that they don't like visiting their lovely auntie because her house is "really, really dirty" .

Toddlers are so much more work in comparison. Babies may cry but they're pretty immobile. Toddlers can not only cry but can throw stuff, hit, run off and stamp they're little feet.

Ha ha ha

Babies are easy. I'd take my daughter out to dinner. When she started wimpering I'd give her her bottle. She'd suck it up and fall asleep. She is nearly a year old now. I dont go out to dinner. she likes to move and explore, she likes talking in her lingo and singing to herself. She likes to grab thing and chuck them over the side, see the noise they make at the bottom...need I go on?

😂😂😂 I class a day without my toddler and just my newborn as a "day off" and I've got an easy toddler.

I much prefer mine as toddlers. Babies that didn't nap much, puked and cried a lot. Toddlers love the world. You cant ignore the tantrums though

NoEuropeWho your first para speaks to my sooooouuuuul right now. It's like being in a crazed endurance test – but I'm blessed with a baby who at least loves the sling most days, so long as I vary the walks to interesting places and NEVER go to a cafe.

Must admit this thread is a little terrifying. Can only think that at least when they're toddlers you can split the nights and fights with a partner, but breastfed babies are all on you. Though I'm napping baby DD in the pram right now and the park is filled with terrorists toddlers running rampage, and snogging teens, and no age seems easy; maybe they all get easier when they're 30?

I have a baby (6mo) and a toddler (2.5yo). The toddler is much easier to take out on his own. Eating out with him is actually fun, with the baby it’s a nightmare. The two together are a lot more difficult than either one alone though. YANBU

Babies are easier than toddlers by a mile. Toddlers can have selective hearing, tantrums can escalate to a rigid child suddenly flattened by gravity that is impossible to get up. They can get into everything and basically wind you the hell up just for kicks. Also randomly they can have toddler style suicide moments and do stuff with no care for their safety leaving parents on tender hooks.

Babies cry, fuss and shit. Easy.

Tbf my dc was harder as a baby than as a toddler but getting out and about was easy.

Toddlers and a total nightmare. Babies are easy. Get a sling, problem solved 😁

😂😂😂

Honestly I wish I could go back to the days of my twins being babies and being able to stick them in a buggy, actually have them fall asleep while out, feeding and changing them or giving them a cuddle is all they need, they’re lighter, they’re immobile...

I hate to break it to you OP, but taking babies out is a walk in the park compared to toddlers!

Just to add; my DD gave up napping at 1yo - so sleep is virtually non-existent now.

AND she has just now asked me 13 times in no less than 5 minutes for a Barney Bear.

A baby can't talk. I miss her being tiny.