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My neighbour threatening me

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MissMalone99 · 22/07/2019 09:47

I’ve not been in my new house wrong but it’s a long row of tersest houses. My neighbours have all warned me about the neighbour on my left, she’s apparently the reason the last residents left and is very violent. We’ve not had any troubles, she’s come over to introduce herself to me and was more than lovely. She has 3 young children and they’ve played with my DS. Recently she cut some ivy and some overgrowth down from her garden and it caused my fence to collapse and there to be gaps in the other fences where my dog can get through to hers. She pushed all her rubbish into my garden after cutting the ivy etc down. I said nothing of it, found somewhere to put it and fixed the fence and the gaps myself. She came outside as I was fixing the fence and when I asked her if it was okay she sarcastically said ‘well I don’t want your dog in my garden’. Which is all well and good, but he never gets over there it’s only because of her that he has. But I let it go. I woke up this morning to my door bell ringing repeatedly, ran downstairs thinking maybe it was my mum and something had happened but my neighbour was stood at the door, jumping up and down with anger. I asked her she was okay and she asked me if I’d been in her garden, I said I’ve leant over to pick up my fence and grab my dog but I haven’t been in the garden. She then told me I’ve took stuff from her garden and I said this wasn’t the case, did anything get mixed up in with the ivy that she pushed over, and told her where the ivy was if she wanted to look through it. She then told me ‘catch me in my garden again I dare you’. I shut the door in her face, because I don’t want to be threatened. I can now hear her stomping around her house and shouting at the top of her voice. All of of our conversation happened with me remaining calm and her shouting and getting irate. So where do I go from here? I fully believe if she saw me now leaving the house (which it is very easy to) then she would try to attack me, but I have work at 11 so I have to leave soon. What do I do?

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MissMalone99 · 22/07/2019 09:47

Sorry that’s so long! Paragraphs really would’ve helped there but I just wanted to get it all out!

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Knowivedonewrong · 22/07/2019 09:54

Go about your day and ignore her.
If she threatens you with violence then you should call the police.

Stressedout10 · 22/07/2019 09:55

Is she a tenant or owner?

HJWT · 22/07/2019 09:55

@MissMalone99 ring the none emergency police line and log it with them, ask them if they have had any complaints before as you have been warned she is violent.... when you leave the house or answer the door put your phone in your pocket and record a video (you can always delete if nothing happens) don't let her know obviously and if she ever makes threats you have evidence for the police x

Sorry your in this situation! Some people are fruit loops...

TheChain · 22/07/2019 09:56

Oh God. Are you renting or have you bought? Does she rent?

RezCowgirl · 22/07/2019 09:56

Set your phone to film/record as you leave your house.

Skihound · 22/07/2019 09:57

I would maybe also keep an eye on my dog in the garden (for its safety)

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MissMalone99 · 22/07/2019 09:59

I think she’s a tenant. Some of the houses are council, and some people have bought the houses.

I’ve considered calling 111 and seeing what they say. As according to the people I bought the house off, they had SS, the police etc always over talking to her, so I’m guessing there’s something on her record.

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MissMalone99 · 22/07/2019 10:01

From what I can gather, this was a big row of council houses, most people then bought them off the council and owned them themselves (I bought one off someone who did this), but some of them are still council houses. And hers still is.

I haven’t put the dog in the garden since, the fences are low so she’d see me and I worry that she’d start something.

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WorraLiberty · 22/07/2019 10:01

I thought vendors had to declare neighbour disputes?

WorraLiberty · 22/07/2019 10:02

Oh, X posted.

Complain to the council if she gets any worse.

StrongTea · 22/07/2019 10:02

Not nice, can you put up a cctv camera? She certainly sounds unpleasant.

Marmozet · 22/07/2019 10:04

Log it with 111 and go about your day.

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MissMalone99 · 22/07/2019 10:06

I might invest in a CCTV camera, or one of them doorbells that you can see people’s faces before you answer the door. The neighbour on my other side (my neighbour but not here) said that she called the council and complained and it didn’t go very far. But if I do that then it might push them a bit further actually.

I’ve called my mum and her DP is off work today and he’s going to come over and sit with me for a bit and then will watch the house whilst I go to work.

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lmusic87 · 22/07/2019 10:08

Oh my god, nightmare.

Surely she can't be allowed to behave like that?

HappydaysArehere · 22/07/2019 10:08

If she is a council tenant perhaps you could report her to them. I would also log your experience to the police. So sorry for you.

HJWT · 22/07/2019 10:09

@MissMalone99 she sounds like a loud mouth, just make sure you ring council and police every time she does something worth letting them know and always record when you leave the house!!

itbemay · 22/07/2019 10:13

6ft fences, CCTV / ring door bell and ignore as much as possible, but make a record of anything that happens.

She sounds unhinged.

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MissMalone99 · 22/07/2019 10:13

It’s just such a nightmare. I moved here to be safe as I left my ExP who violent, and it’s been a safe haven for me and DS, I don’t want her to ruin this for us.

I’ll tell DMs partner and tell him to record as he comes down to our house, just in case she does anything. I want to make sure I can back everything up with proof.

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Cherrysoup · 22/07/2019 10:15

So the vendor told you about her, presumably before completion?

dustarr73 · 22/07/2019 10:19

I have this with my next door neighbour.But she abuses us and plays the victim.Council wont do anything about her.

We went to the police but its basically she said/we said.
I feel for you,we cant even sell as we would have to disclose.

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MissMalone99 · 22/07/2019 10:20

They told me they’d had some issues but nothing as big as what my other neighbours have told me.

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8misskitty8 · 22/07/2019 10:21

Report it to the council and log with local police. Don’t let the dog out the back unless you are with it.

I was going to suggest contacting your solicitor about it to see if you could make a complaint to previous owners about non disclosure of neighbour problems. But a later post you said that the previoùs owners had told you about police and SS already ?

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MissMalone99 · 22/07/2019 10:24

They told me after I’d moved in. I called them after the conversation with the other neighbours about how she was.

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MissMalone99 · 22/07/2019 10:25

My DM’s partner has come now and her and her husband came out and started to argue with him. I came out and told them that I hadn’t been in the garden etc, they started shouting and then suddenly they both calmed down and apologised and have just asked if we can buy bigger fences so the dog doesn’t go over!.

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