My neighbour threatening me

[MissMalone99]

I’ve not been in my new house wrong but it’s a long row of tersest houses. My neighbours have all warned me about the neighbour on my left, she’s apparently the reason the last residents left and is very violent. We’ve not had any troubles, she’s come over to introduce herself to me and was more than lovely. She has 3 young children and they’ve played with my DS. Recently she cut some ivy and some overgrowth down from her garden and it caused my fence to collapse and there to be gaps in the other fences where my dog can get through to hers. She pushed all her rubbish into my garden after cutting the ivy etc down. I said nothing of it, found somewhere to put it and fixed the fence and the gaps myself. She came outside as I was fixing the fence and when I asked her if it was okay she sarcastically said ‘well I don’t want your dog in my garden’. Which is all well and good, but he never gets over there it’s only because of her that he has. But I let it go. I woke up this morning to my door bell ringing repeatedly, ran downstairs thinking maybe it was my mum and something had happened but my neighbour was stood at the door, jumping up and down with anger. I asked her she was okay and she asked me if I’d been in her garden, I said I’ve leant over to pick up my fence and grab my dog but I haven’t been in the garden. She then told me I’ve took stuff from her garden and I said this wasn’t the case, did anything get mixed up in with the ivy that she pushed over, and told her where the ivy was if she wanted to look through it. She then told me ‘catch me in my garden again I dare you’. I shut the door in her face, because I don’t want to be threatened. I can now hear her stomping around her house and shouting at the top of her voice. All of of our conversation happened with me remaining calm and her shouting and getting irate. So where do I go from here? I fully believe if she saw me now leaving the house (which it is very easy to) then she would try to attack me, but I have work at 11 so I have to leave soon. What do I do?

Just seen the other post, if they only told you a few things then you might be able to complain about non disclosure.

I’m glad it’s all calmed down, but it almost feels as though they started something to entertain themselves. It was as if they were two different people and then the switch flipped and they completely changed and became the lovely people that I had known.

Could I? 8misskitty8. I thought because they hadn’t called the police/SS then they didn’t have to tell me?.

101 is the non emergency number. 111 is NHS. Don't let her bully you, keep a diary and report all threats

Log it with the police as this will most likely escalate.

Find out if she rents or is the owner. If she rents, report her to the landlord. If she owns, try and find out who the mortgage is with. They may take a dim view on antisocial behaviour.

Report her to the antisocial dept. of the council.

Report her as unstable to SS/her kids school/the local GP, wherever is likely to give her hassle.

New high fences very thick ones seem a wonderful idea.

Report her asap. We had one like this two doors away, and it was a nightmare for two years. Asbos galore, police, the lot. She was evicted eventually, I pity her poor new neighbours. Perhaps you've got her now, she sounds similar.

Crossed post with you missmalone99.

If the previous owners only told you after the sale then contact your solicitor who managed your purchase as neighbour disputes have to be declared now and the previous owners didn’t do that.

I feel so backed into a corner now. Because she’s calmed down I’m reluctant to raise a complaint in case nothing comes of it, and then she’ll cause more issues.

Oh okay, I didn’t know that @8misskitty8. I’ll do that when I come back from work.

You'll find it harder to sell if you start logging complaints. I do feel for you because I had neighbours from hell in one place where I lived. If the woman has mood swings there might be some kind of substance abuse involved.

Sorry but in my experience, people like this don't change, they continue to disrupt the lives of those around them. If you want my advice, I would put the house up for sale and get the hell out. I still think of my ex-neighbour with loathing in my heart for what she put me through.

Not sure if there has to be an official trail ie. police report but I’d check with your solicitòr.
You might find the previoùs owners did contact the police themselves but don’t want to tell you. Pity you didn’t send a text or email to them when they told you after the sale there had been a few issues.

@balonzz I know that she does weed. Not sure about anything else though. There’s no way I’ll be able to move, we don’t have the money and it’s too much disruption for DS.

@8misskitty8 I’ll check anyway, even if nothing comes from it it’s always best to check

Next time she cops the hump, you'll get as much of the same. Say Hello if you see them, but always be in a hurry so you cant stop for a chat.
Buy the biggest fences you possibly can.

Dont allow her to feel comfortable enough with you that she can act in this manner with you again. Dont even give her the chance to apologise, or create another situation in future, just shut her down

And whatever you do, dont do as a previous poster says and make all manner of complaints to SS or Drs or anyone else. Itll just add flames to the situation

I was under the impression that if there have been no official complaints (council, police, housing authority etc) then it doesn't legally have to be disclosed. Which is shit for both parties. The original owner because they're too scared to deal with it using official routes in case they have to declare a feud and the new owner who walks into a situation blind.

Please look into investing in cctv. Something like a Ring doorbell at the front as you're terraced and a proper camera at the back looking into your own property. And if you can afford it, 6ft panel fencing on your own boundary, leaving her fence intact on her side. It'll add a layer of protection from her to your fence.

You need to record it in some way because it sounds like this will be the first of many issues

CCTV. I doubt she will change if there is a history. Gather evidence and try to get her evicted

Get ahead of the game now. You have been given some notice that she will escalate so get ready to collect evidence to deal with her quickly. "He said - she said" goes out the window when you have cctv evidence. Housing authorities and the police will be able to take action when they have all the evidence supplied for them.

If she’s quietened down then maybe she is one of those people who if you stand your ground with early on they then leave you alone ?

Hopefully this neighbour is one of those

Long term weed use can cause or escalate paranoia, especially the home grown stuff, with the active chemicals out of kilter.

Who is responsible for the fence between your gardens?

I would put a new fence up as quickly as possible, a solid high one. And get a camera for the back garden. I would worry about leaving my dog out there alone, too.

I'd stop letting your DC play with her children. Whether they themselves are nice or not isn't relevant, the NDN will behave in this same way to & over your DCs. They don't need the grief.

they probably do start fights for entertainment.

Ignore as much as you possibly can.

I wonder if you can get some compensation from the vendor if they failed to declare a dispute.

Polite distance, I wouldn't encourage play between the children, a new higher fence and cameras! That sounds a lot but it might prevent an escalating problem (and will make you feel better). Cameras are very cheap now.