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Daily holiday social media updates

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Stripyseagulls · 21/07/2019 15:40

Friend is on holiday abroad at the mo & is literally posting 20 photos daily on Facebook and Instagram. Her holiday looks lovely but why the hell would you waste your precious holiday time posting constantly on social media? When I go on hols, we switch off all phones & social media to get away from it all as generally I am frazzled and want a break from everything.
Aibu or is this the done thing now? It’s like a bloody ‘look at us’ news report every day 🤪

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MadamePompadour · 21/07/2019 19:44

And I actually love looking at other people's holiday photos on fb, often get inspiration for where to go next. If people aren't interested they can keep scrolling.

WelcomeToShootingStars · 21/07/2019 19:47

Your mindset is not everybody's mindset.

It takes literally a few seconds to post a photo to Instagram.

As another poster has said, we often have road trip type holidays and post photos of each place whilst we're there. It means we often get tips of where to go, things to see etc.

I don't know how many likes any photo has ever received, I've never checked and don't really care.

Thatsalovelycuppatea · 21/07/2019 19:47

Sounds like a show off. Go to her profile, click on where it says friends and click on take a break. I did this recently to someone i classed as a good friend. yet, didn't get invited to the daughters wedding, but it was all over social media with all our other mutual friends. Sad

Justaboutdone · 21/07/2019 19:55

YANBU

I am very careful not to even say I am going on holiday on FB.

My main reason for not posting pics when away is House Insurance.

Would never advertise the fact I am away and not sure if the insurance would pay out.

The other reason is this is family time. Even normally I share the occasional thing we do - but I like most things to be private. I send family pics on WhatsApp and tell them all about what we do so the important people are in the know.

I may do an small album when we return but thats about it.

WelcomeToShootingStars · 21/07/2019 20:11

What is this fallacy about home insurance? Most people have their profiles set to private. If you can't trust your family and friends not to rob you blind then you've far bigger issues than who posts what on social media.

HerkyBaby · 21/07/2019 20:16

I look forward to looking at the holiday pictures Facebook friends post . I particularly enjoy seeing the pictures of what they are eating! I know it’s odd but we don’t go anywhere exciting for our holidays and I like to see the world through their trips.

Aprillygirl · 21/07/2019 20:22

They do it to show off pure and simple, but I just think they must be having a pretty shit time if they have time to piss around on SM. Mute them.

Thisismadness · 21/07/2019 20:22

My friend is on holiday on her own for the first time. She’s posting loads but if anyone is thinking it’s too much they’re too kind to say because they realise she’s struggling a little (even though she’s having a ball she’s just missing her ex a lot too). And we’re all nice people so we’re being supportive like friends are. If you’re bored or annoyed by your friends posts, unfriend them. It’s better for both of you in the long run.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 21/07/2019 20:32

@Aprillygirl why do you think they’re having a rubbish time? Lying on a sun lounger, with a cocktail, puddling around on social media sounds like a great way to relax on holiday! Anyway I actually like the people I have on sm.. so I’m happy they’re having a good time, and enjoy looking at their pictures. If you don’t then just unfollow / unfriend them.

GreigLaidlawsbarofsoap · 21/07/2019 20:42

I fucking hate all the superior smug "they can't be having a good time if all they are doing is posting on their phone" twatty posts that ALWAYS come out on threads like this.
It takes SECONDS to post.
Seconds.
While you're waiting for the kettle to boil, waiting in a queue, relaxing by the pool, waiting for food to arrive at the table, enjoying an after dinner coffee, on public transport or being driven around, having a few minutes late at night to chill. I can think of several moments every single day even on the most "fun packed" busy holiday that someone could upload a few photos and write a comment.
If you say shit like that, you just sound really past it, frankly. I'm in my 50s and bloody love a bit of social media.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 21/07/2019 21:06

There’s always someone desperate to make a post like this on the (numerous) threads on this topic:

Yoo-hoo everybody and their cat's neighbour's cousin! We're all away in sunny Timbuctoo for the rest of the week and there's nobody at home! Help yourselves (shouldn't take you more than a minute to jemmy the back door). Hmm

Seriously - get better privacy settings and better friends, or both. Your Facebook profile is only publicly accessible if you let it be. Keep it private and keep it selective. If you’re worried someone might burgle you while you’re on holiday, maybe don’t add them on Facebook.

Even if it turned out I didn’t know some of my friends as well as I thought I did and they’re actually a bit dodgy, these aren’t the friends I’ll know well enough to have given my address. It’s all very well saying ‘OMG they will know your house is empty!Shock’, but that information is useless unless they also know where it is. That’s before you even consider that they have no idea whether I have a housemate or lodger who hasn’t come away with me, or whether my neighbours are popping in every day to feed the cat or water the plants.

teteaclaque · 21/07/2019 21:11

Surely you can think of other things to do when you’re sunbathing than looking at social media, though? Read a book? Take a look around at the place you’ve spent thousands to visit? It’s just so sad to see people glued to their phone and other people’s business all the time. You can lose hours, and for what gain?

pepsimax20bigger · 21/07/2019 21:12

Don't look then surely?

IvanaPee · 21/07/2019 21:14

Surely you can think of other things to do when you’re sunbathing than looking at social media, though? Read a book?

That’s probably the twattiest, smuggest thing I’ve seen posted here in a while.

NoSauce · 21/07/2019 21:22

It’s FB, why does anyone post their photos? For people to see them, because they’re showing off, because they want people to think how wonderful their life is, the list is endless.

Just unfollow them till they get home!

30not13 · 21/07/2019 21:23

I'm genuinely happy to see friends posting pics of their well earned holidays, if I don't want to see I scroll past it.
Don't be such a mean spirited person.

Aprillygirl · 21/07/2019 21:25

Well it's not hard to spot the people who live their lives through social media and those that don't is it?!! Calm down guys and post away and I will carry on making a mental note not to visit the places you go where you can't get off your phone.

RosesAndRaindrops · 21/07/2019 21:30

and I will carry on making a mental note not to visit the places you go where you can't get off your phone

Confused You do know right that it takes literally seconds to post a photo?
Take photo, click send. Even if she puts as many as a dozen on over the day, it'd still only be about a minute doing it! Hardly not being able to get off your phone. Hmm

Titsywoo · 21/07/2019 21:35

I don't post when I'm away for security reasons (you never know!) - I don't like to advertise that my house is empty. I sometimes post pics when I get back.

JacquesHammer · 21/07/2019 21:36

Well it's not hard to spot the people who live their lives through social media and those that don't is it?!! Calm down guys and post away and I will carry on making a mental note not to visit the places you go where you can't get off your phone

Oh bless you, you look an absolute ninny now Grin

OKBobble · 21/07/2019 21:46

I upload pics to facebook as it os an easy place for me to keep picturea in albums and find them later.

If my friends don't want to lool they can scroll on by.

IvanaPee · 21/07/2019 21:49

@Aprillygirl to clarify are you saying you won’t visit places that people post photos of in case someone is on his/her phone?! 😂😂😂

StillCoughingandLaughing · 21/07/2019 21:50

Surely you can think of other things to do when you’re sunbathing than looking at social media, though? Read a book? Take a look around at the place you’ve spent thousands to visit? It’s just so sad to see people glued to their phone and other people’s business all the time. You can lose hours, and for what gain?

How are you supposed to look around while you’re sunbathing? And surely it’s possible to read a book AND take the occasional look at Facebook or Instagram? We’re all awake 16 hours a day.

PrincessMargaret · 21/07/2019 21:56

I always post photos. It takes 30 seconds. If anyone looks at them it's a bonus, but otherwise they are then in the cloud, I can save them later etc. And now I have 10+ years of "on this day" with memories on tap. I love seeing the old pics without having to go search for them. I also love seeing my friends having a nice time.

NearlySchoolTimeAgain · 21/07/2019 22:01

I save lots of the photos I take to an album on FB. I restrict this album to close family - those that like to see all the pictures of their DGC.

I might post one to general SM a day when on holiday if we’re doing something particular or visiting somewhere new.