Two parent family with two young children, father works full time and i stay home with the children. This was agreed for a short period only with the agreement he would eventually amend his hours to enable us both to work. Two years later he still has not.
I'm desperate to get another job but to do so would require him to amend his working hours to take on some of the childcare, without him doing it wouldn't be feasible due to the balance of childcare fees for two so young and lack of family support able to help out. He refuses. His rota is unpredictable some weeks so this makes it difficult for me to find on a job 'around' his hours and he's happy the way things are so isn't making any effort to accommodate my needs.
We wouldn't be that much better off money wise after childcare if I were to work but it would give me a sense of independence that I desperately want.
He has a hobby which takes him out of the house for a full day every weekend. The hobby costs money but there's no spare money, or free time of my own, for me to do anything of the sort.
He has life the way he wants it.
Would you be happy with this dynamic? I'm becoming resentful, I'm depressed having lost all sense of identity and purpose in life, aside child rearing.