AIBU to contact Social services about a neighbour

[Yetanothernamechange1234]

Long and short of it is her 4 kids came over to mine today...said their mum was asleep and they couldn't wake her...they climbed out the back window to get out the house as couldn't find the keys. Mum also had a 1 year old in there also asleep the kids thought. They asked to have dinner with us in case they couldn't wake their mum later. When I took them home it took a good half hour of banging on the door to rouse the mum,she had no idea the kids weren't in the house. Would I be totally inappropriate to contact SS and if I did would they tell her who it was?

[IvanaPee]

If her one year old has aged two years since the start of the thread she has enough on her plate...

[Oliversmumsarmy]

I was just presuming that if she had gone to sleep thinking everyone was in the house and she was extremely tired and someone was banging on the door. I know I wouldn’t have answered the door.

[LandlordWoes]

@sparklymagpie

[Loopylou6]

Ffs ok. At best this is a wind up, at worst some sick twat is bored.

[RabbitseatDogs]

Social services really don't come out that quickly, especially on a Saturday night. You've known for a while that the children have no bedroom furniture and are sleeping on bare mattresses but you didn't see that as any concern?

[WhoAmIToTellYou]

Sounds to like she was drunk and out of it. Who wouldn’t wake up after half an hour banging on door?... or 4 kids jumping on you.
I know of someone who died in bed asleep after prolonged drinking period, she left a little boy behind. I would contact SS if i were you.

[Clarissa111]

Come on people! Class A drug abuse? Neglect? I'm not saying it wasnt this, but maybe speak to the mum? I had gall bladder issues. Very bad. A 8 month old and a 2 yr old. My health visitor came round and I actually fell asleep in front of her. She couldn't wake me. She even tidied round and washed up. I was mortified when I woke. Stuff happens. Talk to the mum before all guns blazing.

[ISayWhatNow]

This is not true. Fact. This situation could never have happened.

[SemperIdem]

This is very strange, all of it. Especially the rapidly ageing toddler.

[Screamanger]

My first action would be to talk to the mother and assess the situation, then administer first aid if needed. Why would your first action be to call the police or SS? That isn’t helping it’s hindering the family.

[cornish009]

I am both amazed, and delighted, that children's services were able to send out a social worker immediately, especially on a Saturday evening. My experiences of working with children's services as a foster carer for several decades is that they would not be able to do this, but in an emergency would ask you to call the police (or indeed call the police themselves) and visit at a later date. I have faced some really urgent issues in the past with the children, and not once has there been a social worker available at weekends or overnight (and these emergencies are ALWAYS during out of hours). So well done, OP for making the call, and especially well done in getting a social worker out so quickly - that's amazing!!

[Beebeezed]

[MissChananderlerbong]

cornish exactly the police removed my nieces, SS was sorted out later

[Sevo7]

I too am amazed a social worker came out within a couple of hours? Especially if the family are known to them as that means it would probably be dealt with by the family’s social worker come Monday. You have also tripped yourself up op by saying a 1 year old was asleep in the house but now by baby you meant 3 year old If you re read your op you never said a baby was in the house you clearly stated a 1 year old.

[thecatsarecrazy]

Reported. Utter tosh

[Binforky]

What a load or crap. If it is true why the hell would you not call an ambulance she could have been dead or seriously ill.

The thing that makes me think it's all made up though is the ss coming out so fast. It took them 3 days to come out recently when my child had told me he was being abused by his father.

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

Remember op less is more when it comes to scenarios like this
Just FYI for when you inevitably name change to make up more stuff in the future

[swingofthings]

I don't think I would have automatically called the police but quizzed the kids, asking them if their mom regularly feel asleep and couldn't be woken up, whether she was ill, if their dad was normally home etc...

I would have also gone through the window and when mum finally arose, I would have again asked questions, offered help, but would have needed to be reassured that there was a good reason and was likely a one off, then keeping an eye or any concern of sldrug abuse (class A or medicine), diabetics, extreme sleep deprivation, alcohol, I would have called ss there and then.

[NorthEndGal]

Op, where did you go?

[BogglesGoggles]

@Amibeingdaft81 it’s difficult to say. Generally I would call an ambulance. But given the overall vibe of this story I’m not sure what I would do. I’d have probably tried what OP did and probably asked the children to go back in a try to wake her properly and then called an ambulance if that didn’t work. Wouldn’t have occurred to me to call that police until afterwards I don’t think.

[Littlechocola]

Surely first thought would be something is wrong physically as they couldn’t wake her rather than she’s a bad mum?

[Hollanda40]

I've called SS about a family and was told they are aware of this family. They are allowed to say that but nothing else.

[greeneyedlulu]

Was there any explaination as to why she was asleep etc? She could have had a bad night with the young one and just been bloody tired! Has this sort of thing happened before?
I get where you're coming from but please make sure you have your facts right before contacting SS

[LandlordWoes]

Apparently MNHQ have no concerns of the OP being a troll....

[Oliversmumsarmy]

I am amazed that people would be so quick to call SS because the mum of a 1 year old was having a sleep.