DH and I have recently found out I'm pregnant with our first and are super excited. We are only about 4-5 weeks so it's super early but of course we are talking so much about every scenario we hope is to come.
One of those scenarios is how we tell our families - it'll be the first grandchild for both sides.
My parents live in the same village whilst his parents live a few hours away and his mum works weekends so naturally we see my parents quite frequently and his less so. We both agreed we would like to save the news until the dating scan was done and OK and ideally then share face to face.
We will actually be on holiday for weeks 10-12 and so will have the scan in our first week back.
We invited his mum to visit on the first weekend after the scan thinking we could use post holiday catch up as a good excuse to get together, and that with plenty of notice MIL might be able to get time off / swap her weeks which she often does if we invite them to stay, and then would ask my parents over for dinner on the same weekend and tell them together.
Unfortunately MIL has just said she can't do that weekend (we then have commitments the next four weekends and I honestly won't be able to keep the secret in longer than necessary 🤣) but it’s understandable because they don’t know why we are asking that it’s for something special!
I suggested to DH that we would perhaps call or FaceTime his parents and then pop to mine to tell them - perhaps the evening of the scan for both, or FaceTime his family from my parents so they al found out at the same time.
DH isn’t having any of it claiming his mum will be really upset and left out if she’s not part of it in exactly the same way as my parents are. Aibu to think he needs to be a little more flexible - we can’t expect people to do exactly as we hope especially when they don’t know our secret but I also don’t think it’s reasonable not to pop 2 minutes round the corner to tell my family in person because we can just because his family can’t get the news in the same way...