To put my foot down over DD sleeping in our bed?

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She's ELEVEN!

She's a confident, popular child who is happy in the daytime but almost every single night she asks if she can sleep in my bed. DH can't cope with her in there too as there's no room...she's tall!

Occasionally he's said "Oh ok...I'll sleep in your bed" but he hates doing that as he doesn't sleep well in a bed that's not his own.

He works away one night per week and DD can then share with me but GOD HOW LONG WILL THIS GO ON FOR!??

I don't mind sleeping with DD but she's getting older now...and DH shouldn;t feel like he's being kicked out of his own bloody bed.

What can I do? When she asks I say no and she nags and whines and I still say no but she'll keep on and on until I get angry.

I'm not unreasonable am I? Best ways to deal with it??

My son is 8 and has adhd and asd and still gets into my bed with me every night. The nights he does go back to sleep and doesn’t get up to play and chat at 1am. Trying to get him to sleep on the floor next to my bed but it’s really hard to enforce when you’re knackered from no sleep for 8 years. I have no suggestions other than putting your foot down and saying no. But as I can’t manage that myself it seems a tad hypocritical.