WIBU - telling friend she's feeding her baby 'wrong'

[BarryMcguigan]

A friend I have drifted apart from (old work colleague no hard feelings or issues) has put up a pic of her just turned 6 months old sat in high chair with a big pile of blueberries- not cut in half or squashed. (I'm her instagram)

WIBU to private message saying it's best practice to cut them in half or is that really twatty of me?! I know she is going down the BLW route which I also did but the oic made me a bit nervous. My LO has done really well with BLW and I have no anxiety about this method at all - but followed best practice for grapes / blueberries etc.

I don’t think blue berries need cut.. it’s grapes or anything that can lodge itself into the windpipe and can’t get out easily.

The other link doesn’t specifically mention blueberries either. Berries is a very broad term and blueberries are smaller and more pliable than other berries.

Also regarding blueberries, I saw the cutest video of a little boy, severely disabled just slowly picking up one blueberry at a time and eating them. So cute but none were cut up.

myteenytinyteapot Yes, it was green / black. For a moment I thought cleaning products must have been consumed!

Currently weaning my third child and have never cut up a blueberry.

I’ve done it before in a real subtle way. Also, Aibu to think you’re not supposed to put baby in high chair till 10 months?! Their spines aren’t strong enough? Supposed to feed on lap till then I thought...

Our guidelines for choking in this country are way more lax than those in comparable economies. Eg in the US and Aus, it is recommended that under 4s do not eat whole apple, but instead it should be peeled and sliced. Here, HVs fall over themselves to push BLW, and nobody ever worries about whole apple. Any fruit with a slippery skin poses a risk. I always cut blueberries, as I would rather be safe than sorry.

Some blueberries are as big as grapes

Why would you think that nomorepies? Like OP, I would be concerned for the baby, not judging the mother for not knowing. All I would want to do is make sure she does know.

Some blueberries are as big as grapes

But not as rigid and the texture of the skin is different

I’ve never seen a blueberry the size of a grape.

I have never cut a blueberry.
Grapes- religiously, and still for my 7 year old (just habit, I’m sure he’d manage a whole grape now). But never a blueberry.

as I would rather be safe than sorry

But if you take that to its logical conclusion, everyone would eat nothing but pureed food.

We have to manage risk sensibly.

I've yet to find any evidence that blueberries are a choking risk

Yeah it really isn't none of your business and like someone said, it may be set up that way for 'likes' on Instagram.

Don’t say “best practice” outside a professional environment. And don’t do this.

A quick google shows they are a risk?

No it doesn’t.

They’re not mentioned as a likely choking risk anywhere and not singled out in nhs info.

I definitely think you should because she might not know they are a choking hazard.

Any food is a potential choking risk and given that a small child's trachea is about the same size as a drinking straw it's possible a blueberry could block it.
Yes they are squishier than a grape but that doesn't mean they won't choke a child.

You may be mistaking this for grapes.

@Gilbert1A thank you

My cousin PM’d me about respecting my children’s privacy after I posted a photo on my (restricted) social media. I said OK thanks and removed her from my close friends list. Mind your own business.