WIBU - telling friend she's feeding her baby 'wrong'

[BarryMcguigan]

A friend I have drifted apart from (old work colleague no hard feelings or issues) has put up a pic of her just turned 6 months old sat in high chair with a big pile of blueberries- not cut in half or squashed. (I'm her instagram)

WIBU to private message saying it's best practice to cut them in half or is that really twatty of me?! I know she is going down the BLW route which I also did but the oic made me a bit nervous. My LO has done really well with BLW and I have no anxiety about this method at all - but followed best practice for grapes / blueberries etc.

I've always cut the big blueberries but not the little ones. A private chatty message saying something like "Lovely picture, hope you're doing well? I don't envy you the mess of the early stages of BLW, cutting up all the blueberries and grapes was so much effort!" - ok actually it looks a bit passive aggressive, scratch that. I don't know, I'd want to say something too but no idea how.

I'm old I never heard of baby led weaning. We just used to give them mashed or pureed food.

Do you really have to cut blueberries? They're so squishy, unlike grapes or cherry tomatoes.

I didn't know you had to cut up blueberries. I just use my own judgement ie if they're really big and not a bit soft I'd eat them myself! Grapes, yes, because they're hard and too big.

leave it....you arent close enough for her to be grateful for the advice.

I used to cut blueberries in half, but my health visitor told me there was no need as that’s just for bigger things like grapes, as pps have said. So no, I wouldn’t message her about it.

We cut grapes, not blueberries, they're small and squashy.

The obvious hazard of a baby eating a pile of blueberries, is the extraordinary and potentially alarming green poo that results!

Yes any small round fruit or vegetable needs to be cut. Even a small blueberry can cause choking.

Don't do it. Firstly, like pp have said there is no need to cut blueberries. Secondly, however you try and phrase it you will sound like an interfering twat!

WIBU to private message saying it's best practice to cut them in half or is that really twatty of me?

Given that a) it doesn't appear to be best practice and b) you barely speak to her then yes, it would be twatty of you.

NHS safe weaning guide -

www.nhs.uk/start4life/weaning/safe-weaning/

Yes it would be twatty of you since you don't even speak anymore. Most parents are just trying to do their best and will do what THEY think is right for THEIR baby. Stay out of it.

Grapes and cherry tomatoes yes, blueberries no. They aren’t big enough to block the windpipe. You’ll be cutting peas up next!

It’s a dick move. Worry about your own parenting, I say.

Grapes, tomatoes, strawberries, blueberries etc should all be cut length wise or in to irregular shapes/squashed to reduce chocking hazard.

careful with those blueberries! My baby almost choked so I cut them in half’

^ pp suggested something like this, sounds ok to me

Grapes are dangerous not just because of the size, but if you wet a grape and then rub it you can see how resistant they become. They just won’t move out of the windpipe once in there.

I was VERY nervy about choking hazards but dd has always had whole blueberries unless they were particularly large and then I cut them up.

Ah mixed responses! I'm probably going to leave it as I don't want to be condescending/ twatty and I'm not close enough to be in regular phone contact with her so it would be the first message I'd sent her since the 'congratulations'
Thanks hive mind and those that answered politely regardless of their opinions

Grapes, tomatoes, strawberries, blueberries etc should all be cut length wise or in to irregular shapes/squashed to reduce chocking hazard.

Says who?

Of course blueberries are a choking hazard. All berries are!

www.cdc.gov/nutrition/infantandtoddlernutrition/foods-and-drinks/choking-hazards.html

@LaurieMarlow - NHS and CDC

You don't need to cut blueberries in half. It's grapes that are the issue because the skin makes them nigh on impossible to dislodge.

Teddy, the nhs link doesn’t mention blueberries.

The obvious hazard of a baby eating a pile of blueberries, is the extraordinary and potentially alarming green poo that results!

My DS's poo comes out grey if he eats blueberries! I remember the first time it happened I rang 111 distraught and then I realised it was the blueberries

You don't need to cut blueberries

I never did cut blueberries?