To ask what you think of drug use once somebody is a parent?

[Jessy111]

It's none of my business I know, but I'm interested in opinions.

A mum of two young children, aged around 6 and 18 months, has been 'recreationally' taking crack cocaine every so often to get high with another friend when the children are being looked after by either family or friends babysitting. I couldn't tell you whether she does it when the children are home but I would hope not.

During the week she works full time and appears to be a totally normal parent, the children appear clean and well cared for and she certainly doesn't 'look' or behave like a drug addict so unless you knew she was doing it you would never have guessed.

My opinion is that it's selfish, dangerous and irresponsible and if she isn't addicted now then she soon will be - I can't get to grips with how a mother of young children with a seemingly normal life and things going for her could be so irresponsible in her role as a parent.

I've also in the past known of other parents who 'recreationally' take drugs on nights out or gatherings in friends houses, taking cocaine and similar stimulants.

I'm from a place where this is sadly the norm in the circles I grew up in, but am fortunate enough to have had the opportunity to move away and am fortunately no longer surrounded by people who think this type of behaviour is acceptable when you have children.

I'm very much live and let live in regards to recreational drug use that doesn't affect me personally but surely the line has to be drawn once you become a parent?

AIBU to think you shouldn't be doing drugs whatsoever when you become a parent? Do you think 'recreational' use is fine so long as the children aren't exposed to it?

@Jessy111 You don't look shit for not reporting it, when you grow up in a area rift with drugs, parents hanging over buggts on smack, you see it take time for SS to act.
I see were your at, if this lady is only doing it and the weekend, for now, her house is clean and kids look ok it probably is to early to report.
It is easy from an outside POV but living it, seeing neglect you learn to prioritise the worst.
My pal never took drugs in our twenties, she became a heroin addict in her 30s then crack and , lost her 4 DC.

Tricky one. Lots of parents get really pissed when their DCs are being looked after. But as others have said this is crack. However, if as you say the kids are looked after and the home is stable what are SS going to do? If asked she'd likely deny it and you can't do anything about something that hasn't happened yet. SS would need absolute concrete proof of her crack use. What if someone told them about a parent doing this and it wasn't true? And SS go in all guns blazing? Like I said before- tricky.

Jessy you don't look shit at all, you're clearly very concerned.

You're right for deciding to go to SS though. I don't see why they'd expect you to necessarily know her full address or dismiss you as a malicious reporter for not having the full details. If you have her and her children's full names, ages, school if you know it and rough area where she lives SS should be able to find the rest. Just give as much info as you can then you've done your bit. I wouldn't just leave this, crack is a horrible drug. Even if nothing can be proven, it should give her a reality check.

@EmeraldShamrock I didnt bring up social houses on this thread so why say i did I obviously touched a nerve.

And i dont see why i shouldnt question the cost of drug use to the NHS I know this thread isnt about obesity but this is always brought up on those threads.

Surely theres no difference Unless of course its not the cost to the NHS people are really concerned about otherwise it would apply in both cases.

Hi in trying to find information on what my partner can do

He had a baby with a drug addict(she went reab when she found out she was pregnant) and has the babytwice a week since being 6 month old the baby is now 17 month old but he has been told she has been smoking crack with one of the well known local crack heads but my partner isn't on the birth certificate or any official parent rights certificate has been signed. And just wondering what best way to go about this. He has confronted her and she obvs denied it but he seems to think she was lying.

Disgusting
Reporting people is Usually done without anyone's knowledge.
She is addicted already.