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Dh exaggerating already

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Ilovepizzatoomuch · 16/07/2019 20:57

So DH has signed up to do a half marathon next year (May sometime) since signing up I have been the supportive wife (brought him a fancy Fitbit tracker thing and some running shoes as his birthday happened to be at the beginning of the month when he signed up)

He signed up to a gym last week, and has been the last 2 days which I'm really pleased about. However, he is now complaining that his back/neck/legs/feet/arms all hurt.

I have had 2 busy days at work, both involving late finishes, rushing home and barely spending an hour with DH and DC doing bath and bed as dh was too tired to help.

Tonight I was late as I totally lost track of time, so dh had to go straight from the gym to pick DC up from nursery and do a quick dinner. Again I did bath and bed (dc is 2) and then did some housework and took the recycling out.

Dh is moaning that I haven't made any attempt to help massage his aching legs or do anything for him and that he has had to do everything for the last 2 days.

Not sure if I can deal with this for the next 10 months

OP posts:
EKGEMS · 16/07/2019 21:01

Oh he'd get a lovely firm neck massage from me!! Grin

GummyGoddess · 16/07/2019 21:03

He can massage his own legs? If he's being such a baby how will he cope on the actual day?

Calic0 · 16/07/2019 21:04

Sorry but I had to laugh at the massaging the legs thing. You bad wife you! Grin

Seriously, not long after he turned 40 my DH got a spot in the London marathon and basically went from being a non runner to completing it in the space of a year. Had he ever asked me to massage his legs or tried to duck out of basic responsibilities because of his training programme he would have got zero sympathy. However, he never did, and that’s partly because he put loads of time and effort into developing a training plan which meant building distance and stamina gradually. There’s no reason to be aching like that after a couple of sessions.

flouncyfanny · 16/07/2019 21:05

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Sirzy · 16/07/2019 21:07

Buy him a foam roller. That will help his legs (and may hurt just slightly!)

thesnapandfartisinfallible · 16/07/2019 21:08

Delayed onset muscle soreness. Grin

It really fucking kills. I had no idea my thighs could hurt so much. First time I went to the gym I couldn't sit on the toilet without sobbing for nearly 3 days.

slipperywhensparticus · 16/07/2019 21:08

Tell him to get a grip on himself and massage his own dam legs?

PooWillyBumBum · 16/07/2019 21:09

Jesus it’s a half marathon, he’s not competing in the Olympics. He’s being a twat.

Luckingfovely · 16/07/2019 21:10

Yup to the foam roller. I'd also drop in some helpful stats that a foam roller is proven to be more effective than an amateur massage by 67%. *according to LuckFuv Statistics Ltd.

MotherTime3 · 16/07/2019 21:12

The best thing for achy muscles from exercise, is to keep moving... so pass him the hoover and a duster, and tell him to crack on. Bleeding hell, op, I’d probably have to move out in all honestly, at least book yourself a little holiday for the day of the race

GabsAlot · 16/07/2019 21:29

FFS what is it lately with men and their hobbies

Thecatisboss · 16/07/2019 21:37

I am training for half marathon in September and he wouldn't get much sympathy from me either. I can understand it does hurt as he's not done any exercise but really he needs to find a training plan he can stick to. Also Pilates is very good for runners as are foam rollers. Is it's Leeds half which is in May?
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managedmis · 16/07/2019 21:38

Why would this be your responsibility?

Like, why?

managedmis · 16/07/2019 21:39

Luvfuck stats Grin

Runbitchrun · 16/07/2019 21:39

12 weeks is plenty of time to train for a half marathon (assuming he runs a bit anyway) - now until May next year is overkill and then some. If he throws everything at it now, he’ll injure himself and not make the start line.

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 16/07/2019 21:40

Tell him to get a foam roller 👍

SugarHockeyIcedTea · 16/07/2019 21:42

What a tit.

KatharinaRosalie · 16/07/2019 21:43

Is he a total beginner who has never ran or seen the inside of a gym? Because otherwise, as the PP says, it's a total overkill to start specific half marathon training for next may.

So what is that 'everything' he has apparently done?

thirstyformore · 16/07/2019 21:44

Another vote for a foam roller.

Blatherskite · 16/07/2019 21:50

I'm training for a half in September and no bugger is offering to massage my legs! I've got a good training plan though so am not hurting too much. I would agree with the advice above that DOMS is best relieved by movement so he needs to get up and moving - school runs, hoovering etc all help.

I actually help organise a big half marathon in May. Wonder if he's running with us?

MrsMozartMkII · 16/07/2019 21:51

Get him a foam roller (and try not to hit him with it the bloody winging irriate!).

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Ilovepizzatoomuch · 16/07/2019 21:51

So everything he has done in the last 2 days:
Gone to work
Gone to the gym after work
Picked DC up from nursery
Cooked dc dinner (microwaveable spaghetti hoops)

Everything I have done:
Dropped dc at nursery
Work
2 loads of washing (loaded, washed, on airer, off airer, folded and put away)
Loaded and emptied dishwasher twice
Bath and bed twice
Logged on to do more work
Taken recycling/bins out

I get he is keen and I am happy to support as he is running for a good cause, but I'm glad to know I'm not over reacting.

He has form for sulking when he doesn't get what he thinks is enough attention.

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AnyFucker · 16/07/2019 21:57

How can you have sex with this Manchild ? Confused

Howlovely · 16/07/2019 21:58

This is where the phrase, 'If you're looking for sympathy you can find it in the dictionary between shit and syphilis', comes in handy.
He is being such a baby, this would drive me mad. Just say to him in a completely disinterested way that he ought to stop if it's causing him so much bother already.

theunrivalledjoysofparenting · 16/07/2019 21:59

What a childish nob he is. Don’t envy you, op!