Dh exaggerating already

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So DH has signed up to do a half marathon next year (May sometime) since signing up I have been the supportive wife (brought him a fancy Fitbit tracker thing and some running shoes as his birthday happened to be at the beginning of the month when he signed up)

He signed up to a gym last week, and has been the last 2 days which I'm really pleased about. However, he is now complaining that his back/neck/legs/feet/arms all hurt.

I have had 2 busy days at work, both involving late finishes, rushing home and barely spending an hour with DH and DC doing bath and bed as dh was too tired to help.

Tonight I was late as I totally lost track of time, so dh had to go straight from the gym to pick DC up from nursery and do a quick dinner. Again I did bath and bed (dc is 2) and then did some housework and took the recycling out.

Dh is moaning that I haven't made any attempt to help massage his aching legs or do anything for him and that he has had to do everything for the last 2 days.

Not sure if I can deal with this for the next 10 months

pretty sure that if I EVER had asked DH to massage my legs when I was in training, he'd have rung the hospital as he'd be convinced I had a fever. That's beautifully bonkers!

Cooked dc dinner (microwaveable spaghetti hoops)

Erm, that's not cooking. That's barely feeding the poor kid.

Tell him to book a massage if it's that bad. And to stop effing whining like a baby.

What is it with men wanting leg and back massages? Mine is always asking me to scratch his toe!!!

Good Gaia, that would put me right off him, if he was my husband. Tell him he needs to learn how to look after himself, like real runners do.

As for a foam roller, this is the only foam roller I’d be getting the lazy whinger, while telling him the stretching will help with the aches.

haha, what a pathetic man.

Sorry for you OP, this sounds like it will be mega annoying!!!

Is he by any chance one of the 1 in 8 UK men who reckon that they could take a point off Serena Williams in a game of tennis?

I think it is a syndrome caused by

a) watching too much high performance sport on tv. "Get us another beer while you're up, and some of those Pringles I like. Ta. Oh, good return Roger, should have aced it Novak mate."

b) the effect of sunshine on the mysterious sensory nerve cells of the male lower thigh*, caused by wearing shorts. Things will return to normal when autumnal gloom returns and light levels and trouser lengths are lower.

• my own theory, can't get the funding for my research.......

Buy him a foam roller, he can sort out his legs himself then

Just let him know if he ever runs marathons then he'll probably have to pay for a massage after, by you know, a properly qualified sports therapist.

My dh used to be a marathon runner but never asked me to massage his legs and if he had then he'd be told to pay a professional or do it himself

Please show him this thread, OP. And then tell us what his reaction was!

My DSS got a spot in the local marathon, and then pretty much forgot about it for ages. Iirc, he didn't do any training until about a month before and does no gym or anything, although he does have a fairly active job. He was only 25, admittedly, but he finished the full 26 miles and hardly whinged at all (and the whingeing he did do was mostly about how boring it was). And he's type 1 diabetic, so it was a bit of a worry.

I'm so glad that DP doesn't have any strenuous hobbies. He'll never need a massage after an evening of lying on the sofa,

Mine is always asking me to scratch his toe!!!

🤢 Please tell me you tell him to get stuffed! Unless he can’t reach his own toes!

Fucks sake he’s only running a half marathon not an ultra! How much training does he need?

For context I’m running a half in September. Training started this week. In between I am working part time doing school runs by foot washing cooking and cleaning.

Life doesn’t stop to train for a race unless you are an elite athlete.

S1naidSucks - You bet!!

If he's THIS achy a year before the event he's doing too much too soon. And ffs he should hit the pavements , that's how you really get a feel for it. A couch to 5k would be a good starting point as he has ages. He's not training smart is he?

All of that aside , don't let him get away with being a baby.

MilkTrayLimeBarrel 🙌😁

Mine is always asking me to scratch his toe!!!

Tbf my dad couldn't reach his toes, due to the belly I felt a bit bad for him as he lived a fairly vice-free life! He always asked us, his daughters, to do his toenails for him as my mum flatly refused from very early on..... we refused too of course so heaven knows what he did.

I'm slightly worried the poor man hasn't had his toenails trimmed in 25 years now

I joined the gym and went for the first real time two days ago. My thighs and my shoulder really, really hurt, but it never occurred to me that I can opt out of family life and get my dh to massage my sore bits, because it’s soemthing I did to myself!

I’m thinking I should go flop on the sofa and call dh home from work so he can take care of us 🤣

He's starting way too early. 12 weeks is enough!

It depends on the level of fitness. There's no way I could run a half marathon in 12 weeks - I started C25K once and couldn't even finish the first run/walk (there's no way I would run a half marathon ever but that's beside the point!).

I wouldn't ask DH to massage my legs though!

My DH does sport or exercise every day and not once have I had any involvement in any form or manner in any of it. I sometimes go to watch him play or run in a race of my own choice.

I cannot believe what you have written.

Massage his legs?!

What a dick. Can you imagine if men had to give birth.

Would he cosset you for 10 months, if you chose to do a similar sports event?

He must be starting from a point of total unfitness, to need that long to get fit for a half. In which case, things will feel difficult to start with, as they do for anyone starting to exercsie e.g. doing a couch to 5k. But many, many people do that, then Parkruns, without expecting the world to stop and applaud them.

Then, once they can run 5k comfortably, it's wasy to move to 5 miles and build it up steadily. Anyone who can run 5 miles comfortably can train for a half, in about 12 weeks. If you're used to running three times a week it's not that onerous.

I am all for supporting and exercising but

Dh is moaning that I haven't made any attempt to help massage his aching legs or do anything for him and that he has had to do everything for the last 2 days.

foam roller!

Suggestions:

Foam roller
Swimming to ease the muscles
Book a professional massage
Stop moaning _ I'm new to running and even i can get an attack of wanting to tell someone to bore off about running.

I agree with PP. He needs to build up gradually.

Tell him to subscribe to Runnersworld magazine

I'm on your husbands side.

I started doing Joe wicks hiits and weight workouts a couple of months ago and got the DOMs. Went to bed early and got dp to massage my legs most nights until I got used to it 🙈😂😂. He also picked up my slack on household duties as I whinge like a baby.

He has form for sulking when he doesn't get what he thinks is enough attention.

Fuck. That.

He's a baby.

H did a marathon and picked up a takeaway on the way home! And he's no martyr to pain.

Sorry OP but I would be phenomenally irritated by this and I think I'd have a humdinger of a row. Not right I know, but seriously! Christ. Did he massage your legs after delivery??