Dh exaggerating already

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So DH has signed up to do a half marathon next year (May sometime) since signing up I have been the supportive wife (brought him a fancy Fitbit tracker thing and some running shoes as his birthday happened to be at the beginning of the month when he signed up)

He signed up to a gym last week, and has been the last 2 days which I'm really pleased about. However, he is now complaining that his back/neck/legs/feet/arms all hurt.

I have had 2 busy days at work, both involving late finishes, rushing home and barely spending an hour with DH and DC doing bath and bed as dh was too tired to help.

Tonight I was late as I totally lost track of time, so dh had to go straight from the gym to pick DC up from nursery and do a quick dinner. Again I did bath and bed (dc is 2) and then did some housework and took the recycling out.

Dh is moaning that I haven't made any attempt to help massage his aching legs or do anything for him and that he has had to do everything for the last 2 days.

Not sure if I can deal with this for the next 10 months

Bucket and milking stool deployed every time he enters the lounge !
Genius, @TheGrapefulDread :)

Seriously OP - print of the 'chores comparison list' you posted on page 1, & next time your whinging exaggerator moans at you, just slap the list in front of him.
Then demand a massage.

He needs to understand how blinkered & one-sided he is being!

bath in epsom salt too

and ice

A bit tangential but this thread makes me nostalgic for the idea that all you need in order to run is a decent pair of running shoes - and that simplicity is part of its charm.

So much 'stuff' that you could spend money on, which might be fun or feel helpful - but you don't need it.

Have you found any suspicious magazines under his bed? Runners World is the worst for OTT 'training plans'. If you catch him with an energy gel, hide his trainers for a week.

Brilliant, @MorrisZapp

May? As in next May? Oh dear. I did a half marathon on Sunday, went to bootcamp on Monday, yoga last night and I've just come in from a PT session. Nobody has offered to massage my legs, although DH did make tea on Sunday night .
This is going to be a long 10 months OP unless you give him a yank on his chain right now.

It will ease off eventually. Tell him to stop being so pathetic and take some painkillers if it's that bad.

My DP has recently sprained a wrist and hasn't once asked me to get him ice or painkillers or anything (although I have of course offered!). In fact he's mainly apologised for not being able to cook and having to leave me the washing up etc. I can't imagine the level of entitlement required for someone to act like your DH. Tell him to get a grip.

What planet is he on?! He's done basically nothing the last 2 days!
I'd tell him if he ACTUALLY does everything the maybe you would have time and the desire to massage his legs!
I've done 4 half marathons and never even considered to ask my husband to massage my legs. He needs to stretch properly, or does he want you to do that for him too 😂

Before long bunhead he'll be asking her to actually do the run for him

Hahahahaha

Oh dear. What a berk.

My only other thought, is that this would make sense if he was very obese and hadn't exercised at all for years and years. In that case, all gentle encouragement would seem proportionate.

Otherwise, well, do you think if you were extra kind to him for a week he'd settle into the training routine, start to feel better and stop complaining? But remember your kindness warmly? Or would he just expect you to carry on as his personal sports masseuse and domestic support team?

I'm always so shocked/saddened to see how many Mumsnetters appear to actually hate their partners.
Yes he is being a muppet.
Yes he should still be doing his fair share.
But where is the pride from your partner wanting to take on a challenge and improve his fitness.

One PP even warned you to watch it doesn't lead to an affair. Crazy.

My Boyfriend and I both regularly exercise. I run every day and do lots of swimming and a bit of cycling. He does similar. If one of us said to the other 'gosh that was a hard swim/run' the other would straight away say 'where does it ache? do you want me to rub your shoulders/calves/etc'.
It's part of showing support and care.
Why are you lot even with partners you would threaten if they dare ask for a leg rub.

@whothedaddy If we give you a fiver, will you go and buy yourself a sense of humour?

why aren't you tackling his lack of effort regards to housework etc?
he can do extra exercise by doing his share of chores - and it won't hurt him

Why not take up running yourself just to annoy him?

@whothedaddy I'm guessing you don't have kids?

Take up running and get a better time in the half.

My lovely DH started exercising last year and has lost three stone. I'm incredibly proud but dear God, It's a different "injury" every week. I've started calling him Paula.

Can't he just do some leg stretches. I do loads of exercise and have hardly ever had a leg massage. I am very flexible and supple though.

He has form for sulking when he doesn't get what he thinks is enough attention.

Yuk

howlovely

Well if he makes bedroom eyes at you any time in the next week, tell him he needs to take it easy and rest his sore, sore muscles. No strenuous activity.