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Dh exaggerating already

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Ilovepizzatoomuch · 16/07/2019 20:57

So DH has signed up to do a half marathon next year (May sometime) since signing up I have been the supportive wife (brought him a fancy Fitbit tracker thing and some running shoes as his birthday happened to be at the beginning of the month when he signed up)

He signed up to a gym last week, and has been the last 2 days which I'm really pleased about. However, he is now complaining that his back/neck/legs/feet/arms all hurt.

I have had 2 busy days at work, both involving late finishes, rushing home and barely spending an hour with DH and DC doing bath and bed as dh was too tired to help.

Tonight I was late as I totally lost track of time, so dh had to go straight from the gym to pick DC up from nursery and do a quick dinner. Again I did bath and bed (dc is 2) and then did some housework and took the recycling out.

Dh is moaning that I haven't made any attempt to help massage his aching legs or do anything for him and that he has had to do everything for the last 2 days.

Not sure if I can deal with this for the next 10 months

OP posts:
motortroll · 16/07/2019 22:13

Both grown ups are sporty in this house and have trained for big events. It does bloody hurt when you start stepping up the pace.....but the rule in this house is if you hurt from your hobby tough shit you just have to get on with life and mick in with kids as usual.

Only exception is up to 2 days after a big event.

Also we have foam roller and all sorts of massagey sticks and yoga on you tube! I can honestly say I have never massages my dh legs lol

TheGrapefulDread · 16/07/2019 22:18

Would he cop on if you started dressing up like Micky : Rocky’s Trainer - wee beanie hat, horrid sweats and grubby towel over your shoulder ? Bucket and milking stool deployed every time he enters the lounge !

AskMeHow · 16/07/2019 22:26

What a child. Is this how it's going to be for the next ten months - expecting you to pick up the slack cos he needs to go to the gym or his legs hurt????

I ran a 55k race at the weekend and managed to clean the kitchen on Sunday. Albeit slowly, it was probably comical to watch, but the point being I don't get any slack or expect any except immediately before or after races. DH is happy to do extra then cos he knows I don't expect it all the time. All my training gets fitted in around normal life. He needs to get a grip.

roothyb · 16/07/2019 22:49

Hahaha the doms are grim but not that bad. Tell him when he's sore the best cure is to go for a walk or short jog. Needs to loosen off properly. And make sure he's stretching out properly after.

Or tell him to stop being such a shitebag

BlueSkiesLies · 16/07/2019 22:52

Dh is moaning that I haven't made any attempt to help massage his aching legs or do anything for him and that he has had to do everything for the last 2 days

I have DOMs from leg day yesterday, can you come over and massage my legs?

Silenttype · 16/07/2019 22:58

@EKGEMS

😂😂

KatharinaRosalie · 17/07/2019 06:34

if you hurt from your hobby tough shit

That

VivienneHolt · 17/07/2019 06:40

Your husband doesn’t have the guts for a half marathon and will likely sack off the whole plan in the next few weeks (probably with some sheepish muttering about a knee injury).

TwistyTop · 17/07/2019 07:12

I don't want to sound like I'm diminishing his achievements, but a half marathon isn't really that long. Assuming he isn't obese and doesn't have any major health issues it shouldn't be too hard to train for.

I would tell him that you've signed up for a full marathon so you can no longer take part in any household duties and also he needs to massage your legs. Leave the house every night for a couple of hours train (eat cake in a cafe)

MrsBobDylan · 17/07/2019 07:35

I'm not sure I could feel attracted to a whingy man like this. He sounds like he has an over inflated perception of his own importance and is very focussed on getting attention.

My DH incorporates running into his commute - he runs on really hot days, in the snow, when our kids have kept him up half the night. He runs a half marathon / marathon a week. He is a regular Forrest Gump. He never complains and has never asked me to massage his legs.

Your dh needs to get a grip op.

JADS · 17/07/2019 07:44

He's starting way too early. 12 weeks is enough!

I recently did the c25k. Love running, but it is worked around family life. He is a knob.

rookiemere · 17/07/2019 07:51

Tell him your support is looking after the DCs whilst he runs or goes to the gym.

Jeremybearimybaby · 17/07/2019 08:04

I've run several halfs, and never had anyone (that I haven't paid in a professional capacity) massage my legs!
It's 13.1mi, and it's something that, as pp mentioned, you can train for in 12 weeks. Don't let this take over your life for the next 9 months.
And. Rumble roller. Grin trust me Grin foam roller with horrible, evil, knobbly bits!

Jeremybearimybaby · 17/07/2019 08:06

Plus, if he makes this much of a fuss about it, how will he cope when the guy dressed up as Orville, running backwards, in heels, overtakes him!?? Grin

Jeremybearimybaby · 17/07/2019 08:08

Rumble roller

Dh exaggerating already
TheFaerieQueene · 17/07/2019 08:12

If he hurts from running on a running machine, god help him when he takes to the roads 🤣

SoundsAboutRight · 17/07/2019 08:30

Aw, poor sausage, you naughty wife not massaging his poor tired wee legs!! Grin

Early last year, my daughter decided she wanted to raise money for Cancer Research after a favourite relative of hers died of the horrid disease. She decided to run a local half marathon so we trained for it. She never complained after her training... She was 10...

Shoxfordian · 17/07/2019 08:35

Sulking is not attractive...

MorrisZapp · 17/07/2019 08:41

A half marathon! What a dick. If he is a man of normal height and reasonable fitness he barely needs to train beyond popping out for some runs.

Have you found any suspicious magazines under his bed? Runners World is the worst for OTT 'training plans'. If you catch him with an energy gel, hide his trainers for a week.

Juells · 17/07/2019 08:44

I dunno, I can imagine being just as whingy if I started doing intensive exercise. Maybe he'll ease off as he gets more accustomed to it.

Zaphodsotherhead · 17/07/2019 08:59

A LOT of runners are single. I am. I run 10k at least twice a week.

Who the hell does he think 'massages' us? No bugger, that's who. We get in a warm shower, do our stretches and bore everyone around us with how far we ran today.

He won't die if nobody rubs his poor wee legs...

MikeUniformMike · 17/07/2019 09:04

Your DH now has a 'hobby'. He will spend more and more time on it. He'll stop mentioning massages and start taking about fit female runners. He'll become a running bore. You'll be on here asking if he is having an EA, or if some OW is massaging him...

LillithsFamiliar · 17/07/2019 09:07

Is he joking? I can't even imagine a grown man seriously complaining that his wife didn't massage his legs Confused
Suggest he books a sports massage. After all you don't want to damage his muscles, joints, ego . . .

notoafternoontea · 17/07/2019 09:08

He's training now for a half in May?! What!? I trained for my first half in 16 weeks and completed it in well under 2 hours! He's an idiot.

Tell him to get over himself

And that my DH trained for an IronMan in 6 months. When he was 50. And smashed it.

mogloveseggs · 17/07/2019 09:09

Massage his legs??? What a pillock Grin

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