To not put husband 'first '

[kallilla]

Our Daughter and granddaughter 18 months are temporarily living with us. I do as much as I can to help ourdaughter who is struggling with a break up etc

My husband today says I should be putting him first, before the baby, but she is just a baby, he's a grown up, and I feel he should understand where I'm coming from as a mother and grandmother and that sometimes I will put the baby first.

So who is right, me or him?

It would be easy to automatically say yanbu and he is bu based on your OP but without more information it doesn't mean much as no one truly can say one way or the other.

Your dd is difficult. In what way? What was his actual complain and wording based on?

Dh could be an arse who runs you ragged and is resentful of anything taking your time (as you used difficult to describe your dd I'm not sure if this is true?)

Dd could has a history of using you. Could have left her OH and expect to put on you again, as always. She could be a woe is me person who made her own bed and won't accept it.

Or scenario x or y or z or a mix. Without more information no one should confidently state yabu/yanbu because how can you know? It's projecting or guessing.

op isn't coming back i guess, this was pretty pointless.

I have been busy, people who post do often have busy lives you know!

I'll read through the replies later when I get5 mins.

I have been busy, people who post do often have busy lives you know!

No one said you didn't have a busy life. Hopefully now you can provide us with more information so we can actually determine if you or your husband or your daughter are being unreasonable.