I’ve been seeing a guy for nearly 7 months but I don’t know ever he wants?

[Wilkiemini]

I met a lovely man online a year after Being dumped by the father of my children (a very hurtful time)

I really like this guy BUT he lives 1.5 hours away and this is starting to become s problem seven months down the line!

He stood me up for a work party he was supposed to come to by saying he was ill, I had an inkling he was going to go this but he didn’t actually tell me until an hours before he was supposed to arrive. I had this message “how pissed off would you be if I didn’t come?”
The next day he said he felt better and I was waiting to see when / where he wanted to meet but he didn’t ask me do I so I spent the whole weekend alone as on the Sunday he flew to America to work.

When he returned on Friday morning again I waited to see when he wanted to meet...he edited until that evening to say he was spending the weekend with his daughter and he didn’t know when he would see me? Maybe next weekend?

Am I being unreasonable to feel really hurt by this especially as he has just returned from a weeks holiday with his daughter and she is 19! We have seen each other just twice got a few hours in over 5 weeks

I told him I was feeling a little neglected and he said the distance was a pain in the arse.

Other than this he is everything I thought I’d never find in a man...but now I’m left feeling like a I’m the occasional weekend shag!!

My head is all over the place

Do I finish it now before he hurts me I don’t think I can go through another awful breakup :(

I haven’t met his daughter he has never discussed this with me, he said she comes first and always will which I understand as I have children too but where does this leave me, I’m feeling very confused about this relationship now and yet we were so happy before :(

Advise please what would you do?

You deserve to be the priority. Get rid.

He's trying to make you out to be the baddie so you feel awful and he has the power. He's also told you that you won't be a priority.

Take back the power, tell him you're done- that you want and deserve better, and that's it. Then block.

I feel for you! He's just a big massive knob end. Don't reply to anything else he sends and please don't text him again. I'm like you! I'll send and send and send then eventually I'm like done with it but then get mega anxiety over the messages I've sent and message again to explain the messages.

Don't be like me 😂

Your original message was heartfelt and honest. He didn't have an emotional response of needing to see you to make things right. So, he's not good enough, he just doesn't love you. He's now topped it off by being rude, so best to block him from your phone and WhatsApp.

You have a lovely dog. I hope you meet someone worthy of you when you're ready.

That first message you sent, was honest and heartfelt, but the reason you shouldn't have sent it, was because you were giving all the power to him. Lots of men, would read that, and think, fuck, I'm going to lose my fuck buddy, I'd better tell her some lines to keep her hanging on.

But, you sent it, and he told you he'd need to sleep on it. That's not the response of someone who couldn't bare to be without you. So, then, you should have said no need, I'm ending it. Then block, before he can try to talk you round.

Instead, you keep on messaging him, hoping he will make you his priority, when he's told you that he won't, and now he's arguing with you.
He doesn't want the same as you, and it doesn't matter how many heartfelt messages you send, or how calm and reasonable you are, you're flogging a dead horse.

Stop this. Block him now.