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To be surprised that pretty much everyone I know has given their child a ‘wacky’ name?

198 replies

custarddonut · 12/07/2019 14:21

I’m reluctant to give specific examples as it would be potentially outing but by way of comparison I mean that none of my friends’ kids have names that were fairly standard when I was growing up in the 80s. E.g. Rachel / Sarah / Lucy / Daniel / Matthew / John / David etc.

I appreciate that names go in and out of fashion, and I understand (to a degree) that parents perhaps want their kids to stand out (or at least not have what are perceived as ‘boring’ or totally run-of-the-mill names, but more often than not the names in use now (in my circles at least) are, in my opinion, pretentious at best and verging on the ridiculous at worst! Worst-case is where they are sort of just random words, rather than actual names, e.g. ‘snowy’. Or names like the Geldof children e.g. ‘Pixie’ etc. Then you get names which are like old age pensioner names but not necessarily the trendy ones …they seem so dreary to me! (e.g. Phylis) OR names which to me sound really American (and names that you’d need to be quite cool to pull off, or a bit more grown up – they don’t seem to suit kids IMO) e.g. Harrison / Grayson etc. When I think of it, not a single friend of mine has given their kid what I would consider to be a ‘normal’ name.. and this is of a circle of say, 25 kids.

AIBU to feel a bit disappointed about this? I know, each to their own, live and let live, but to me it seems a bit of a shame that ‘normal’ names seem so unfashionable these days…OR, if I were to call my child something like ‘Anna’, would I be setting them up for standing out (in the wrong way) when they go to school? Will the inverse happen and names like ‘John’ become the weird names?!?

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Amibeingnaive · 12/07/2019 23:42

I genuinely know someone who named her daughter Beyoncé. No one needs that.

SudowoodoVoodoo · 12/07/2019 23:44

I taught a lot of 90s boys called Jack who very imaginatively had Daniel as a middle name!

Admittedly I chose names that were obvious to say or spell. It was hard going doing a register for the first time and encountering names without a logical connection between the spelling and pronounciation; their owners were normally very exasparated that their name had been mangled again. I'm never sure if names like "Jaxon" are Jackson or Jason.

My name ages me to within 5 years. At least my DCs have the long term popularity that isn't instantly aging.

I'm awaiting the revival of Barbara and Margaret. I struggle to follow conversation with DM as so many of her 1940s peers have those two names.

Neverender · 12/07/2019 23:47

My friends DD is called Rachel and mine is called Rose...are we weird???

Neverender · 12/07/2019 23:48

Ooh Beyoncé is just wow!

BlackeyedGruesome · 13/07/2019 00:02

Back in the 80s, people laughed at me when I said I wanted to call my future kids George and Henry, then lo and behold the 90s rolled round and they were ten a penny. gone back out of fashion again now.

SluggishSnail · 13/07/2019 00:23

My DS has a friend called Zadok. Weird or cool?

Birdie6 · 13/07/2019 00:33

In my work I often deal with very elderly people. Many of them have really odd and unusual names, but they are "known as " something very ordinary. For instance I had an elderly gent last week whose name was "Victorious" ( named after a battle that happened when he was born) but he calls himself Alf. It's nothing new - people have always dubbed their kids with odd names, and the kids ( when they are old enough) quietly change it to something they can live with. T'was always so.

MitziK · 13/07/2019 00:34

Is your DS's friend's parents hoping for their kid to go into the priesthood, by any chance, @sluggishsnail? Or are they just very much into their choral music?

BoronationStreet · 13/07/2019 00:50

I know a boy named Zacky...not Zachary or Zach. His parents actually named him Zacky. His mother is lovely and seems very down to earth so I can't understand why they named their kid Zacky.

It annoys the fuck out of me and I cannot bring myself to ever say his name. Luckily I don't see them very often. Confused

jennymanara · 13/07/2019 01:00

There is lots of research about the impact names have on children and adults. I would never saddle a kid with a truly unusual name.

SunniDay · 13/07/2019 01:23

I think it’s important to choose a name that people can’t second guess too much about what the person might be like - a name that would suit a milkman/hairdresser or a solicitor/judge and does not identify you as likely to be from a particular class.

E.g. a Tarquin - I would expect to meet a very plummy mouthed “toff”. Someone named after a celebrity e.g. the Beyoncé example - well I would not expect to meet Judge Beyoncé - still you never know. Better that your kids names don’t carry expectations and people have to take them as they find them.

My kids have common names that I like and think are good honest names (they happen to be apostles names but weren’t chosen for the religious connections but culturally standard names).

I’m not anti unusual names if that’s what floats you boat but would probably choose a more standard middle name so that Cloud Alexandra could be Alex if she hates Cloud and Judge Alexandria if the world is not ready for Judge Cloud.

Eustasiavye · 13/07/2019 08:28

I think wacky names are maybe so off the wall the majority of adults wouldn't choose them.
I don't know anyone who has given their child a wacky name, I really dont.
Years ago I knew a female Jayden. It was unique then, now it's not. I also knew a Dallas but once I had heard it that was it, it was just a name and a rather nice name I always thought.
Before the internet and social media people were more accepting of names , or at least they were where I grew up.

Cheeserton · 13/07/2019 08:39

Names can be vetoed by registrars in France. There was a case where the name 'Nutella' was not allowed, despite the parents' appeal.

Cheeserton · 13/07/2019 08:43

As far as tastes and trends go, you'll clearly never satisfy everyone with your choices of names. Plenty grate on me but I respect people's ultimate right to choose, again so long as it's not outright abusive like 'Hitler'. My personal least favourite trend is for names like Jayden, Brayden, Kayden, etc. Ugh.

ooooohbetty · 13/07/2019 08:50

If they were using current pensioners’ names they’d be Linda, Susan, Karen, Shirley, Stephen, Robert, Michael, Graham, etc.

@Alsohuman I'm in the above list and I'm not a pensioner. How very dare you! Also, I have seen a few very young Roberts recently.

ooooohbetty · 13/07/2019 08:52

Anyone giving their children a popular name that is spelled in an unusual way is giving them a lifetime of having to spell it out each time they are giving it to someone. It's just pointless.

derxa · 13/07/2019 08:54

Boris Johnson

LuckyAmy1986 · 13/07/2019 09:06

I would rather the more out there names than another thousand Olivia, Amelia, Isla etc. Lovely names but my god they are overused.
And then the boys, Harry, Freddie Archie. Over and over!!

Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 13/07/2019 09:07

Also human I am also in the above list and still a good 10 years away from my pension.

Wacky names I might just roll my eyes at when the parent was not looking but the unique spelling of a perfectly normal name is stupid and pointless. Seems like a try to hard fail for which the child is the one who will spend years correcting the spelling.

kiki22 · 13/07/2019 09:08

Do you live in the South of England? I have a few friends down there and they seem to have lots of wacky 'I picked it because its unusual' names.

I'm in central Scotland my friends kids are things like Taylor, Amelia, lewis, Kai, Megan, James, Connor, Jack, Abbey. There are a couple of wacky ones but mostly normal.

I don't have friends anywhere else so it's just something I've noticed from a small group it may just be the circles my friends move in

dustarr73 · 13/07/2019 10:28

I know 2 Garys.Ones 11 and the other is 6.I know countless CJ.Theres 2 in my sons class.
I gave my kids names i liked,i dont care if anyone else liked them or not.

Pinktinker · 13/07/2019 10:43

A guy I went on a date with once kept referring to his DD as ‘P’ throughout. I’d met him through a mutual friend so asked her if his daughter was actually called Pea or what it was short for. She was called Prada... Apparently it was his ex’s choice and he was so embarrassed by it he only ever called her P.

PookieDo · 13/07/2019 10:49

My DC do not have wacky names as such but I chose them in a particular way that is niche (to me) in an alphabetical way and I don’t know anyone else personally who has done that, but I am sure people have. They are also the same number of letters in their names. I also like the meanings of their names. DD2’s name is really not very common but it isn’t unusual.

My Dsis chose 2 classic names but then shortened one to a cute version which will NOT suit him as an adult 😂

I only know a few people who have chosen IMO stupid names. One is a character from Toy story and I hate it although I would never tell her 😂

Amibeingnaive · 13/07/2019 10:55

When I was naming my kids, I applied what I call the 'CEO rule'. As in, could you see a CEO with that name.

Now, in all likelihood my kids won't, or indeed won't want to, be CEOs, but I don't want to disadvantage them by naming them Maksymililian or Karamel.

Amibeingnaive · 13/07/2019 10:56

For the avoidance of doubt, neither was on my shortlist.

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