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To be surprised that pretty much everyone I know has given their child a ‘wacky’ name?

198 replies

custarddonut · 12/07/2019 14:21

I’m reluctant to give specific examples as it would be potentially outing but by way of comparison I mean that none of my friends’ kids have names that were fairly standard when I was growing up in the 80s. E.g. Rachel / Sarah / Lucy / Daniel / Matthew / John / David etc.

I appreciate that names go in and out of fashion, and I understand (to a degree) that parents perhaps want their kids to stand out (or at least not have what are perceived as ‘boring’ or totally run-of-the-mill names, but more often than not the names in use now (in my circles at least) are, in my opinion, pretentious at best and verging on the ridiculous at worst! Worst-case is where they are sort of just random words, rather than actual names, e.g. ‘snowy’. Or names like the Geldof children e.g. ‘Pixie’ etc. Then you get names which are like old age pensioner names but not necessarily the trendy ones …they seem so dreary to me! (e.g. Phylis) OR names which to me sound really American (and names that you’d need to be quite cool to pull off, or a bit more grown up – they don’t seem to suit kids IMO) e.g. Harrison / Grayson etc. When I think of it, not a single friend of mine has given their kid what I would consider to be a ‘normal’ name.. and this is of a circle of say, 25 kids.

AIBU to feel a bit disappointed about this? I know, each to their own, live and let live, but to me it seems a bit of a shame that ‘normal’ names seem so unfashionable these days…OR, if I were to call my child something like ‘Anna’, would I be setting them up for standing out (in the wrong way) when they go to school? Will the inverse happen and names like ‘John’ become the weird names?!?

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x2boys · 12/07/2019 15:59

Names that were popular when I get was growing up such as John , David, Matthew ,Sarah ,Jane ,Clare etc etc just seem quite dated now they will come in and out of fashion though, I went to school with a Grace for example in the 80,s it is as very old fashioned than ,but you can ,t move without falling over a little Grace now , I also think every generation has their names that are fashionable for a time but probably won't come back into fashion ,so I can't imagine sudden influx,s of Waynes, Darren,s Karen's ,Michelle's etc just as the popular names of today Lexie, Jayden,etc are probably of our time.

shinynewapple · 12/07/2019 15:59

Lol @Snidpan that was me! DH and I had names that were a bit unusual and hated them so wanted DS to have a 'popular ' name - but then found every other kid in the playground had the same name!

Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 12/07/2019 16:06

Wen I named my first son I gave him a pretty normal biblical name which was about 320 odd in the popularity list of names. Within a few years it had moved down to the top 10 and has hovered in the top 20 ever since.
My second son again has a perfectly normal name that hasn’t become popular again. It has hovered around the high 200s for years and even now I have never heard of a man his age with the name but I have 2 relatives of my generation both with the name.

ContinuityError · 12/07/2019 16:07

Hippee

I heard a parent shouting "Ptolemy" at the swimming baths

Was he having a silent P? Smile

crustycrab · 12/07/2019 16:07

I'm shocked at the number of people that don't realise how recruitment works. Some jobs will get tens of thousands of applicants. The first sift can be extremely brutal.

Anyone with a picture on the front - bin
Anyone signing off with a xx - bin

"Honey is commonly associated with particular protected characteristics" and wtf? Confused like what??

TheCatThatDanced · 12/07/2019 16:08

What I find hilarious is a name my DB's SIL chose for their baby (now 2) is Esmee - they thought they were being unique. Loads of Esmee's in her class at nursery etc.

My DC's names are actually 'normal' with a touch of unique - not saying what they are.

I had a childhood friend called Kelly who asked to be called by her middle name which I won't name - it's kind of unusual but not that unusual either.

Neighbours DD's DD newborn is called Ada.

Myheartbelongsto - I know a 6 year old little girl called Betty.

Kerantli · 12/07/2019 16:10

@Rosiesandposies1, you insulted half of the males in my family too Grin

Both DS's have older names, though DS2 seems to have a more popular name than DS1.
I can see there being many DS2 names around in the coming years in schools, I know of at least two that were born in the last couple years (DS2 is 10, I didn't know his name would get more popular over time, but at least I know it'll sort of stand the test of time)

TheCatThatDanced · 12/07/2019 16:10

Myself I do have a very unusual name - won't say what it is but its 'foreign' - I have no connection to that country etc - and I have a very British surname - so probably why I went down the route of normal/unique.

DB however also has an unusual 'forrin' name and he's inflicted his DS with a European/Scandi name - it's ok - luckily the child has 2 other names - one is his DGF's which is normal!

TheCatThatDanced · 12/07/2019 16:12

ContuityError

Trust me - apart from me - if I was called Ptolemy - as soon as I could change it by deed poll or use a middle or other name then I would. Ptolemy is plain cruel. Grin

Lunde · 12/07/2019 16:13

Which Scandinavian country are you talking about here? Certainly not Sweden. Beyond common sense (you can't call a child Satan or Mein Kampf) there is no list.

Although Sweden has naming legislation - 5 men have managed to register Chewbacca as a name!

Minai · 12/07/2019 16:13

I find it so interesting how names come around in circles. And how names we now think of old fashioned in a nice way were once thought of as an old person name and wouldn’t be used.

Also I’m looking forward to my sons (who are now babies) in future announcing that they are planning to call their kids Marjorie or Derek and me trying not to make a face Grin

Lifepanic1234 · 12/07/2019 16:20

As a kid my role model was Pippi Longstocking and I would have so liked to have her full name: Pippilotta Viktualia Rullgardina Krusmynta.

I have looked it up in most European languages and the Italian version is gorgeous: Pippilotta Pesanella Tapparella Succiamenta (the English is: Pippilotta Delicatessa Windowshade Mackrelmint).

I have boys so no Pippilotta Pesanella wondering on the streets of Surrey. But happy for someone else to pick that one up!

corythatwas · 12/07/2019 16:31

I think the old rule “how would an adult react hearing another adult with a name” is not a bad one.

This is where you really need to specify: an adult of which generation? Somebody who is an adult when the child is a child (and may be dead by the time the child is seeking promotion or standing for PM) or somebody who will be an adult when they are an adult?

As for the people who would bin an application with a slightly unusual name (Honey was mentioned), you do realise that this means you are highly likely to discriminate against people of African or Afro-American descent (whose families may actually be boringly normal)? Is that a good look for your company?

FancyACarrot · 12/07/2019 16:39

YABU

Tavannach · 12/07/2019 16:40

his daughter is called Zowie

That's interesting.

NannyRed · 12/07/2019 16:45

And?........

Did they name your child too? No? Well don’t bloody worry about it then.

I’m atheist but like biblical names, think Sarah, elizabeth, Rebecca. I have no cooking issues with people calling their offspring Jaxon, Clayton or Red. So why do you have an issue with parents naming their own children names you don’t approve?

At least they managed to name them, one of my pet peeves is the simpering mumsnetter who asks “which name is best?” When I’m all.....”sorry love, if you can’t name your offspring, maybe don’t get pregnant”.

Maybe try worrying about issues that directly affect you instead of poking your nose into other people’s lives.

Nomorepies · 12/07/2019 16:48

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MrsBethel · 12/07/2019 16:55

YANBU

It's not clever. It's not edgy.

It just makes the parents look a bit thick and infantile.

And that's the same for stupid chav names (full of zeds, weird spellings, alcohol references, etc) as it is for stupid middle class names like Gethsemane or Badger.

The only good in it is that the kids can change them when they hit 16, and, despite feigning approval, we can have a god laugh about the parents behind their back.

TheTitOfTheIceberg · 12/07/2019 17:06

I'm shocked at the number of people that don't realise how recruitment works.

I'm shocked that some recruiters haven't established a more professional and less discriminatory way of sifting than indulging their biases about names. If you're getting tens of thousands of applications, put the process online and include a couple of key skills tests/pre-sift questions that prevent the candidate progressing if they fail.

PinkieTuscadero · 12/07/2019 17:07

Although Sweden has naming legislation - 5 men have managed to register Chewbacca as a name!

Never underestimate the determination of a sci-fi geek!

Alsohuman · 12/07/2019 17:08

I used to work with a guy who changed his name to Rory Borealis. He was as much of a tit as this suggests.

Rowenaravenclawsdiadem · 12/07/2019 17:09

I have a Honey I gave her a ‘normal’ middle name that she could use professionally if she so wished.

She hates it.

She also got bullied by another Honey at
Primary school as the other Honey was pissed off she wasn’t the only one.

coffeeaddiction · 12/07/2019 17:18

I don't mind an unusual name as long as it can be used at any age without sounding daft , personally I can't ever imagine a prime minister with the name 'pixie' or 'star'

Piglet89 · 12/07/2019 17:23

@Orangeballon unless you are joking, that’s an absolute disgrace and you should be ashamed of yourself. Honey might have been brilliant at the job.

Disgusting.