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To be surprised that pretty much everyone I know has given their child a ‘wacky’ name?

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custarddonut · 12/07/2019 14:21

I’m reluctant to give specific examples as it would be potentially outing but by way of comparison I mean that none of my friends’ kids have names that were fairly standard when I was growing up in the 80s. E.g. Rachel / Sarah / Lucy / Daniel / Matthew / John / David etc.

I appreciate that names go in and out of fashion, and I understand (to a degree) that parents perhaps want their kids to stand out (or at least not have what are perceived as ‘boring’ or totally run-of-the-mill names, but more often than not the names in use now (in my circles at least) are, in my opinion, pretentious at best and verging on the ridiculous at worst! Worst-case is where they are sort of just random words, rather than actual names, e.g. ‘snowy’. Or names like the Geldof children e.g. ‘Pixie’ etc. Then you get names which are like old age pensioner names but not necessarily the trendy ones …they seem so dreary to me! (e.g. Phylis) OR names which to me sound really American (and names that you’d need to be quite cool to pull off, or a bit more grown up – they don’t seem to suit kids IMO) e.g. Harrison / Grayson etc. When I think of it, not a single friend of mine has given their kid what I would consider to be a ‘normal’ name.. and this is of a circle of say, 25 kids.

AIBU to feel a bit disappointed about this? I know, each to their own, live and let live, but to me it seems a bit of a shame that ‘normal’ names seem so unfashionable these days…OR, if I were to call my child something like ‘Anna’, would I be setting them up for standing out (in the wrong way) when they go to school? Will the inverse happen and names like ‘John’ become the weird names?!?

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C305 · 12/07/2019 15:25

@Orangeballon I really hope that's a joke. If not it's absolutely awful & HR should have been all over you like a rash.

reluctantbrit · 12/07/2019 15:28

I prefer the German requirements, not a list but strict rules. The name has to identify the gender, it can’t be an object and it cannot make the child ridiculed.

So Saint, Bear, Apple or North wouldn’t work.

The only exception is that you prove a name is a “normal” name in a different country, so Mackenzie for a girl would be allowed as it is fairly often used in the US.

I think the old rule “how would an adult react hearing another adult with a name” is not a bad one. Joey as a child sounds nice but for an adult I would always think of an never grow up man. If you like cutey names choose a grown up version and shorten it.

IntoValhalla · 12/07/2019 15:29

@Orangeballon that just says a lot about you as a person really Hmm

AnnaMagnani · 12/07/2019 15:32

Denmark has a list. It's a long list and allows for multi-cultural names and you can go off list if you can argue your case, but basically, there's a list.

IntoValhalla · 12/07/2019 15:32

reluctantbrit
I used to work with a woman (mid-30’s) who was known to everyone as “Teddy” - her name was actually Theodora, named after her grandmother.
At least she has the option to use her real name if she wants to, or if she decides it’s more fitting. I know of one girl and one boy in my DD’s school year who are named Teddy, but that’s their actual, legal name Blush Cute on a toddler. Not so cute on a middle aged woman.

ChihuahuaMummy1 · 12/07/2019 15:33

I work in a school and we have an Albert and a Richard which you dont hear very often

Alsohuman · 12/07/2019 15:34

Yes, it was Moonunit. And Grace Slick called her child god, the small g was for humility apparently.

Halloumimuffin · 12/07/2019 15:36

@Orangeballon people of colour often face discrimination for having more unusual names and you seem a prime example as to why.

MammaMia19 · 12/07/2019 15:36

I have one with a classic top 5 name, one with an old biddishy name but it’s not outlandish or spelt weirdly.
It’s more the spelling than the actual name that gets me, names like Skylah, daisee, Jayden, Kayden, Krystal, Rubie also there is an actual child named Charler too, it all make my eyes bleed!

custarddonut · 12/07/2019 15:36

I do quite like the idea of names that can be shortened, to give an option as they grow up.

Whilst I wouldn't not interview someone based purely on their name, I do think that we are sometimes biased (consciously or otherwise) against particular types of names, rightly or wrongly.

To me, a name like "Princess" suggests parents who are a bit clueless / not very serious, and I might infer that their child hadn't benefited from more sober / serious parenting choices. I realise this makes me sound all kinds of judgemental here.

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Halloumimuffin · 12/07/2019 15:38

To me, a name like "Princess" suggests parents who are a bit clueless

I've worked with several women called Princess, they were all from the Phillipines where it is common to have more fantastical names.

custarddonut · 12/07/2019 15:41

@halloumimuffin

Which is exactly why we shouldn't judge a book by its cover... but I think this does happen in reality, sadly.

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Bezalelle · 12/07/2019 15:43

My friend's cousin's doctor's cat knows a La-a. Honest, guv.

sirfredfredgeorge · 12/07/2019 15:43

@Orangeballon I really hope that's a joke. If not it's absolutely awful & HR should have been all over you like a rash.

Indeed, and given the name Honey is commonly associated with particular protected characteristics, it could even be argued to be illegal, quite apart from being utterly ludicrous hiring decision.

KookyBeret · 12/07/2019 15:45

@Orangeballon
That was a joke, wasn't it?!

gabsdot45 · 12/07/2019 15:45

They have a list of permitted names in Denmark. My sister lives there. She gave her children Irish names, (we're Irish) and they were approved so i'm guessing it's quite an extensive list.

CharityConundrum · 12/07/2019 15:46

I imagine a lot of kids with off the wall names will do what Zowie Bowie aka Duncan Jones did.

You mean use his given name as an adult? Zowie was one of his middle names.

stucknoue · 12/07/2019 15:47

I know what you mean, all I can think is poor kid. Even Royals are doing it, giving surnames as first names and abbreviations. Traditionalist here with all bible names, even the dog!

hazeyjane · 12/07/2019 15:48

Duncan Jones was named Duncan Zowie Haywood Jones. When he was younger he preferred Joey and as an adult goes by his first name. He obviously doesn't dislike the name Zowie too much, as his daughter is called Zowie. His son is Stenton (a family name).

PinkieTuscadero · 12/07/2019 15:49

I once received a CV from a female prospective employee and her name was Honey. CV went straight in the bin.

This makes you sound like a total moron. I have to go through a lot of CVs and tbh the name doesn't really register unless it's the name of someone already known to me. I just want to check their previous experience and cover letter. Give me a Honey who meets the job spec over an unimpressive Sarah any day of the week.

MyOpinionIsValid · 12/07/2019 15:49

@Orangeballon to be fair, Ive worked in places where that happens. And post code checking of the home address. That will happen with blue chip employers.

Snidpan · 12/07/2019 15:51

there was a super ridiculous amount of Jacks and Connors a few years back. Did the parents not realise that every boy born for the previous 3 years were called Jack or Connor? And maybe Reece.
Hands up, who thought they should christen their son Jack, because everybody else had?

TealGreenBalloons · 12/07/2019 15:52

@reluctantbrit

I think the old rule “how would an adult react hearing another adult with a name” is not a bad one. Joey as a child sounds nice but for an adult I would always think of an never grow up man. If you like cutey names choose a grown up version and shorten it.

This is so subjective though. Personally I'd think nothing of hearing Joey as an adult. I know one (female) and so to me it's a perfectly acceptable adult name. It's the same with Teddy- more and more boys have this has their full name instead of Theodore or Edward etc that it's not unusual now, and certainly won't be in 20 years, for an adult to have this 'cutesy' name that some people see as a nickname.

Myheartbelongsto · 12/07/2019 15:53

I know someone who had a Betty not long ago.

itsaseaturtles · 12/07/2019 15:54

I think if you are that bothered by it, then you need a hobby.

Who cares what they are called? And what is "normal"? Why is it bad to be outside of normal?

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