Nurse commenting on house

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My neighbour had a community nurse around today while I was there. When the nurse walked in she commented on my neighbours photo on the wall of a dog and asked who the dog is/was. Neighbour told her. She then used the bathroom and came out saying it was a beautiful bathroom!! Neighbour thanked her. As she was leaving she commented on a painting on the wall and asked her who had painted it.

AIBU to think healthcare professions shouldn’t comment on people’s houses? What does she say if she walks into a shithole?

Christ op, she was being pleasant.

I work with quite vulnerable members of the public and I'll often pay a compliment about nice colour of nails, good sense of humour, nice handwriting, nice glasses. Sometimes it gives people the boost they need that day. I'd never say anything negative to someone and can always find something positive to say.

I'd hate someone to think I was being unprofessional or that I shouldn't comment.

I see about 6 service users a day for an hour each and it can be very emotionally draining and upsetting sometimes. I'm only human and I like to try and build people up and comfort them.

I'm a health visitor and will always ask where something is from if I like the look of something. Piss off.

Using the toilet is the biggest compliment, I am a community HP and I would only ask to use someone's loo if I really needed to and I knew their house was lovely and clean.
I go in some right shit holes where you stick to the floor, step over rubbish and daren't sit on the sofa... wouldn't even see a nice picture on the wall in a house like this as you be too afraid to look

Oh, has OP not been back?!

What a surprise.

Goady fucker, pretty unanimous YABU 😉

It is really bloody scary to think that people like the Op walk amongst us in society....let us know what you do for a living Op so we can make ridiculous complaints about you.

I often get compliments about my house from people who come into it.

I bloody love it.

What's wrong with you? Criticising someone for being pleasant?? Get a life, seriously. Not even your house!

When I had a job that involved going round peoples houses I was told not to comment on anything in the house (unless it was relevant to the job) because it was intrusive.

Making a connection with a patient is so vital in nursing.
I remember when I was doing my community mental health placement as a student. We went to see a patient and the nurse said, look, he probably won’t be happy you’re there, don’t worry, I’ll chat with him etc.
Anyway we went in to his apartment. He was very depressed young guy, curtains closed etc. He had a wall full of DVDs/videos of Star Trek/Voyager/Generations etc, which I loved! I said, “Oh wow! Amazing collection. I love Voyager.”
Well, he opened right up. Really? Who do you like etc etc. Chatted away.
The nurse after said, it was then best he had been for months. He even came out for a morning with us for tea.
It is actually a skill you need to learn. Small talk, making people feel comfortable with you. Finding the connection.

I think you should make a complaint to the health service ombudsman - this can't go on.

What a lovely nurse....who wouldn't like someone passing comment in such a positive way...

I think the OP is a goady fucker. They're nowhere to be seen now.

no doubt a big drip feed about the HV headbutting a puppy or kitten during the visit.

😂

(NB: Not that I condone any inter species cranial attacks - if someone can get offended by light social chit chat then that could really set them off)

Id take this very seriously op, it happened a millenia ago to my uncle aunt Cockwomble.... She wasn't even a nurse, she was cassing the joint and came back in the night, turned on all the taps and danced great gran to the devil!! We still have nightmares about it now in the future.

For what it's worth and in all seriousness, she is not a robot and was quite clearly making general chit chat.

I think you should make a complaint to the health service ombudsman - this can't go on.

Call 101. Get it loggesd.

She asked about the dog AND said the bathroom was nice? Wow, you should get bitch fired.

Omg you're ridiculous

Blimey, of all the things to moan about and you're moaning because a nurse dared to compliment a couple of features in a house! Wow!

I find during my home visits that many of my patients love to show me photos of family, of themselves, of pets, of times gone by. Sometimes we are the only people they see for days. Usually it ends up with them getting the full family albums. I am genuinely interested and I hope it may cheer them up a little. Shoot me for I am a shit nurse.

My goodness, The Help talking to the lady of the house? Whatever next? clutches pearls

You sound like a complete weirdo, it's very worrying that there are people like you out there.

Making conversation. I think it's nice.

Completely ridiculous to suggest she was anything other than kind & pleasant.
She goes in, helps your friend & also makes conversation despite being v busy. Nurses have a very long list of patients to get through.

Nurses are intelligent people with high emotional intelligence. If you tell someone their hair looks nice for example, does that mean you would also tell them it looks awful??!!

Some people really can't win!

I wonder if OP is projecting, taking the nurses comment as a judgement, maybe she would feel judged in her own home and thought it is best if they don't comment at all be it nice or awful.
I can't think of any other reason OP might find her comments inappropriate.
She sounds like a lovely nurse, to all the nurses and carers , you're doing a fabulous job.