Nurse commenting on house

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My neighbour had a community nurse around today while I was there. When the nurse walked in she commented on my neighbours photo on the wall of a dog and asked who the dog is/was. Neighbour told her. She then used the bathroom and came out saying it was a beautiful bathroom!! Neighbour thanked her. As she was leaving she commented on a painting on the wall and asked her who had painted it.

AIBU to think healthcare professions shouldn’t comment on people’s houses? What does she say if she walks into a shithole?

My parents have nurses and HCPs visiting on a regular basis. My mum loves it if they have the time to have a small chat, doesn't matter what it's about, she's glad to be treated like a human and not just a carer.

You're weird, what's wrong with small talk and showing and passing the time of day. Do you struggle to communicate?

Was just thinking today, you could be the nicest, kindest person in the world, and somebody would still get pissed off at you

AIBU proves that to me almost daily

Have a

This is the exact reason I switched my degree. Whilst doing some placement work I was subjected to constant scrutiny of things unrelated to my care.

I wasn't smiling enough/smiling too much
Didn't make conversation/didn't stop talking
Was 'over-familiar'/Wasn't friendly

No matter what I did, I was wrong.
The poor nurse was there first and foremost to carry out some sort of treatment/care/check up. If there was nothing wrong with the way she carried out her work and all you've got to complain about is her complimenting the house then you really ought to be grateful.
Some people don't have access to healthcare!!

God, it still really fucks me off. Nurses are leaving the profession in droves - things like this only make it worse.
When nurses become unwilling to work for the NHS anymore and you have to pay for private care I hope you don't complain - because you really have no right too. People like you are part of the reason.
Best thing of this - you weren't even the one receiving care!

Joke. An utter, utter joke.

My nan has a nurse daily. Sometimes this is the only person she may see in a day 9r two. She loves when they make small talk. They sometimes have a very stern robotic one who barley speaks. My nan hates this makes her uncomfortable in her own home

Get a life.

I honestly wouldn't know what to say to people like you, I am sure that nurse does!

OP is just being a bit sarcastic

I hope so, but it’s certainly not inconceivable that she’s perfectly serious.

I am a nurse .In training all those years ago we were taught to engage with our patients from the outset and to always involve them in conversation even if we were talking about a night out on the town the night before.its a normal reaction anywhere or by anyone nurse or not to compliment someones home when visiting .Its not strange!

Maybe not .
I know of someone who complained when a nurse held their hand when they were getting an injection .

She sounds really lovely actually.

She probably would not have used the bathroom if it was a SH ....oxymoronic !

OP - please try harder to find something else to be upset about. And here’s a big “you’re being ridiculous” eyeroll 🙄

I dare say the nurse wouldn’t mention anything if it had been a total shithole

What an utter numpty.

You OP, not the nurse.

It’s called Person Centred Care OP.

Putting a client/patient at ease is a huge part of a HCP’s role.

Please never become one.

Fuck me!! I've been a Community Nurse for 21 years now and it's called making polite chat! If the house is grotty you say nothing.

When I did my HV placement it was encourage to engage parents in general conversation such as this.

It was called something but I'm buggered if I remember. It's intention was the break down any thoughts of "us and them" and hope that we can be on more of a equal footing with one another. It helps build trust between both parties.

What a blooming ridiculous post 🙄. I work in community nursing and have complimented people on things in their homes that I like, even today I complimented someone on their bathroom, I would never ever say anything about a home that was messy I just talk about something else. This post has really got my back up 😡

It depends, some people it would be a welcome distraction from being asked questions about their health, for others it would be an intrusion. Some healthcare professionals might actually be nosy or judgemental, it's not impossible. Sometimes it might be best to stick to non-personal stuff like the weather or the journey or talking about their own dog or what they had for breakfast etc without asking any personal questions directly. It'd be hard to know, a lot is to do with tone and subtle signals on both the parts of the professional and the patient.

Wow!

It's true there is always one that will suck all the positivity out of a situation.

Really? This is how you're choosing to spend this glorious Thursday.

Oh OP, you’re one of those people. Bat shit I think we call you.

SCHOOLS OUT FOLKS.
seriously don’t respond to these goady threads.

Blimey OP are you for real? Probably engaging with her patient and paying a compliment in the hope of lifting your neighbour's spirits.