Nurse commenting on house

[BellyAching19]

My neighbour had a community nurse around today while I was there. When the nurse walked in she commented on my neighbours photo on the wall of a dog and asked who the dog is/was. Neighbour told her. She then used the bathroom and came out saying it was a beautiful bathroom!! Neighbour thanked her. As she was leaving she commented on a painting on the wall and asked her who had painted it.

AIBU to think healthcare professions shouldn’t comment on people’s houses? What does she say if she walks into a shithole?

YABVU.

Making small talk helps people feel comfortable. It helps to build your relationship.

It also helps you assess mental state.

The nurse should have asked if it was alright...she should have asked for consent
Good one Bellyaching!

I work in a shop and people often flop open their wallets to reveal pictures of dogs. I usually comment, and it often sparks off a conversation about 'dogs that have gone before'. People like it!

I think you might need to get out more, OP. Or learn more about this 'human race' thing.

I thought you were going to say she'd passed judgement on it being untidy/dirty/whatever, which is a very different kettle of fish. She was making conversation and showing interest, FFS.

Fuck me I’ve heard it all now.

Surely this is a joke?

A nurse visited your neighbours house, not even yours, and made general chit chat and gave her compliments and it's an issue?

If she had come in, been unsociable and spoke of nothing but what she was there for, leaving large gaps in conversation and silences, I bet you'd be posting about how rude and formal she was.

Oh god the level of idiocy is becoming too much for me.

Yep, it's called building a repartee.

You know, as a HCP, intimate details of the persons life. You're often there at their mist vulnerable moments, so you show that you are human and don't just see the person as another task to complete.

If she walks into a shithole they still find common ground. Because we are all human, so when you are in a caring profession, you can find a connection somewhere.

What do you do for a living OP? Have you ever been in hospital etc?

I reckon the OP is just a big fan of mumsnet madness on twitter and wanted to get featured. Well congratulations are in order, dear

Will the op come back? I'd love to hear an excuse for such first class arseholery. There will be one or no doubt a big drip feed about the HV headbutting a puppy or kitten during the visit.

Jesus she was just being nice and making chit chat. If she was being rude then I would understand but in this instance yabu.

I was a community nurse. Patients are often embarrassed at having you come into their private space, it breaks the ice. Made for less formal relationships.
If the house was a shit tip I said nothing. Obviously.
What a thing to start a thread about.

Oh my goodness me.

This takes me back. I worked in a care home very briefly in my early 20’s and once visited a patients room while the relative was there. I was tasked with taking the gentleman’s food order for a cooked breakfast the next day and as usual, this patient and I had a great laugh about rubber eggs and soggy bacon. He had dementia and we had this conversation daily for 7 months, doesn’t matter though since it made him laugh like a horse every time

Anyway, the next day I got called into the office by a slightly embarrassed senior nurse on duty who told me a complaint had gone in about me.

Apparently, the relative had complained that i had been unprofessional while she was there and should have asked HER what to give the gentleman for breakfast, and that having a laugh and a joke with him wasn’t my job

I was a bit upset (I was young!) so the next time I saw the gentleman I tried to be quiet and professional. He was quite hurt and asked another staff member if he’d done something to upset me

I was told this and gently reminded by a lovely older nurse that my job was to make patients comfortable and happy, and to ignore anyone who says differently.

I went back to cracking wise shortly after that

Hahaha I thought she said something really shitty and awful!! She was complimenting the house and making conversation! Non story

she was just making conversation!

I clicked on this expecting a nurse had insulted someone’s home... Why would anyone have an issue with somebody complimenting their home? This is so strange.

Well this is my daily dose of entertainment complete. Thanks, OP.

By the way... YABVU.

Threads like this make me want to move to a desert island and never have to deal with another human being again. OP you're being seriously ridiculous.

She then used the bathroom and came out saying it was a beautiful bathroom

Wow - what a b*tch.

My Mum's carer has often admired a painting Mum's got. Mum liked that she admired it....she told me the carer had said how gorgeous it is. Comments like that cheer people up, especially if they're housebound.

I don’t think the OP will be back ....

Ffs do you always go out your way looking for things to be offended at? The nurse was being nice & making small talk probably trying to put your neighbour at ease. She complimented her on several things in her house that was a nice thing to do.

Get a grip

How do these people function in life? Must be a full time job trying to find things to be annoyed about.

You’re hard work OP. She was being polite. You sound like you’re lacking in understanding of what is considered appropriate and normal interactions between two people.

Sigh.