I've been with DP (both 24) for 2 years but I've know him for around 6. We were friends before and got together at the end of university. I am from the North East and DP is from the South East. After uni, I moved to a city for work which was around 45 minutes from DP who was working and living at home. After getting tired of a flatshare, and my job being long hours, DP agreed that I should move to his hometown and find work in a similar sector- I loved this idea. Dp and I earn the same amount.
I found a great flat, job and although it was very expensive, DP said once he finished his short course he would move in. I didn't worry about the finances too much because thought DP would move in. The rent is exactly half my wages so it is tight.
Dp moved in and things seemed to be going very well. The flat was lovely and we often had friends round socialising. After six weeks of living together, DP who had been saying how great it was, moved out when I was on a work-trip. I came home to the flat empty without his stuff. I was devastated as at the time I had no idea, we were chatting on the phone all lovey dovey with no mention of moving out. It was very cowardly IMO.
We've managed to stay together but its been tough. DP now has hundreds of pounds a week to himself living together while I'm scrimping and barely have 10.00 left a week to live on after bills are paid. I'm trying my hardest to not be resentful but its very tricky. The relationship overall is quite good, we have a lot of trips together and days out and it's very lovey but these are always paid 50/50 with me having to borrow money a lot of the time.
If I discuss my worries with DP, he just says can't you get a better paid job-or move back into a flatshare. His mum also said to me the other day that I should be more gentle with him as he struggles with his worries! Even though she's a SAHM and does everything for him- ironing, cleaning, cooking etc. I've asked him if he thinks he will ever move back in and he just shrugs and says could be three months, could be two years?
Am I just wasting my time? Sorry for the long post and the rant