Checking the front door

[rose789]

Me and dp have lived in this house for 7 years. All this time the last one home locks the front door when they get in. Never been an issue.
Last week as I was leaving the house I realised that he hadn’t locked the door the night before when he had came in. I told him at the time, not in an arsey way just a shit the doors been open all night. Thinking I was realistically just as much to blame as I hadn’t checked either.
Anyway since then every night I’ve checked the door is locked before going up to bed, regardless of who was last in even if I know for a fact I’ve locked the door.

Tonight I went to check on my way upstairs and dp got pissed off. He was saying it’s rubbing his mistake in his face and that I don’t trust him and that I’m making out he put his family in danger.
I told him that’s not the case I got a fright at how complacent we had both been and that it makes sense to check the house is secure when the girls are here.
He then said “fucks sake this is going to be another fucking OCD thing isn’t it” I do have OCD but not about things like checking doors.
We’re both tired and grumpy after a few nights of little sleep with a teething baby, work etc but I don’t think it’s fair that because I’m checking my home is secure I’m having a mental condition used against me. He’s gone to bed and I’m seething on the sofa.

Do you check the doors before going to bed or AIBU checking?

Yep I check the doors front and back, that the oven is off and that my car is locked every night YANBU.

I always check the door. It's often unlocked (can't be opened from outside without a key) but I like it 'properly' locked at night.

I check doors, plugs, windows routinely before going to bed

Last thing we do before going to bed is check doors, candles and windows. That’s just normal.

I always check, my partner has left the front window open all night one time and another time the back door. I don’t think men have as much fear like women do? I will always lock up at night and I ignore any grumbling!

Yep we check the doors every night.

I'm the only adult in my house and I lock the door when I come in. I still go and check it's locked before info to bed.

Well yes but it’s just me and the kids and I’m the last to bed and make sure all doors are closed and locked (the three or four doors at back are open most of the day).
I also check the hob is off because it has been known to be left on 😬.

I have to check both front and back doors before I go to bed every night, even if I've heard DH lock them on his way out to work as he does night shifts.

I always check the door is locked on my way to bed, and it's only me that would have locked or left it!!!

Yep, I check both front & back door every night, even though I know that the front door at least is locked

Sensible people make a habit of checking the doors, windows, plugs, cars, etc. before going to sleep.

He's a prick. YANBU.

Totally normal. Every night before I go to bed I check the front door is locked and the back door is locked, look in on all the kids and go to bed

I always check, my DH is awful for home security and has been known to leave both front and back doors open.

I check. It makes sense to check when it's something that's done every day, so easier to forget if you've done it.

One of us always checks both the back and front doors before bed, regardless of who was last in. Tonight I took the dog out for a wee immediately before bed and still checked the door before I went up, otherwise it's on my mind. Nothing wrong with chicken!

Checking, not chicken

Checking, not chicken

I'm quite happy for our front door to be unlocked while we're up and around (DH not so much, drives me nuts, if I'm back and forth to the car or front garden and he keeps locking the bloody thing), but I check doors and windows before bed, I did the same when I lived alone. YANBU.

OH always checks before going to bed because I have left it unlocked before. I don't feel in any way that he's making me out to be a bad parent because of it. I'm glad and relieved he checks now and if I remember or if I'm alone I'll check too.
It's really no big deal.

I used to be quite lax about checking the door. Then we were burgled as it's so easy to get in if the door is only locked on the Yale. It's essential to double lock imo. Otherwise you might as well put a welcome sign to the burglars on your door. Your other OCD stuff aside, I would say that protecting your house and family should definitely supersede him feeling like he has been shown up!

Front door, back door, downstairs loo window, oven and hob before I go to bed.

I have no DP or DH living here but Yes, I absolutely do make sure the front door and garden door are locked before I go to bed.

We don't lock the doors until bedtime so we do them on the way upstairs and one of us puts the keys in their set place so we know it's done.

Checking the door is fine,of course. But is see your husbands view. He forgot.... once?! And now you are checkiny e v e r y time... that would annoy me too.