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to not want to sign off my emails with preferred pronouns?

838 replies

AlphaBites · 10/07/2019 21:46

We've had an email do the rounds today at work saying in the next few weeks all staff are expected to sign off with their preferred pronouns, to save any embarrassment for any staff. Hmm

I don't want to.

Can I fight this somehow?

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Lindellia · 10/07/2019 21:47

Just keep on ‘forgetting’

Justkeeprollingalong · 10/07/2019 21:48

What does this mean? How do they want you to sign off?

XXVaginaAndAUterus · 10/07/2019 21:50

I'm worried this may soon come into my workplace. I don't know if I'm brave enough to, but I think my strategy will be;

Oops! My email footer keeps on changing itself back again mysteriously!

Or failing that;
"You are welcome to assume my pronouns based upon my name and title."

Gintonic · 10/07/2019 21:50

I wouldnt be embarrassed if someone wrongly assumed I was a man over email. I would be embarrassed to have one of those ridiculous email signatures.

hopeishere · 10/07/2019 21:51

@Justkeeprollingalong

I think it is if you identify as a woman you add she/her to your email signature or he/his or I don't know they/their?

MoverOfPaper · 10/07/2019 21:53

They/their on a Tuesday

She/her in any month of 30 days

Him/ his if I’m getting paid more than you

Gintonic · 10/07/2019 21:53

Seriously I don't see how a company could take disciplinary action against you for not doing that? It is not affecting your work. It is like insisting you wear pink and speak in a scottish accent.

Craftycorvid · 10/07/2019 21:55

Had no idea this was a ‘thing’. Personally, I wouldn’t give a toss if people assumed my gender/pronouns incorrectly as long as the person confused is not a gynaecologist. I’d be irritated to be asked to state pronouns in my emails though.

HandsOffMyRights · 10/07/2019 21:55

FFS. Somebody on here suggested 'it' as a preferred pronoun.

I wish I'd have the guts to use this if work dictated. Maybe I'll put 'She. Her. The cat's mother. "

I'm embarrassed. That this insanity is in the workplace.

PerrysWinkle · 10/07/2019 21:56

Ask them if you can change your pronouns to he/him and get a pay increase by default of being a man.

harriers · 10/07/2019 21:57

What the fuck

AutumnCrow · 10/07/2019 21:57

I would go with 'you / your'. How else is someone actually going to address you in the second person?

StripeySocks29 · 10/07/2019 21:57

Ugh I work for a company that likes to think its really right on so I can see this coming in for us soon, I think I’ll just ‘forget’

Belleende · 10/07/2019 21:58

This is creeping into my workplace, started with someone in HR going to some getting woke event.

I think I will go with, not bothered by what pronouns you use, just want to do my job

Spam88 · 10/07/2019 21:59

Surely they can't insist on those though..? Even if they won't listen to
any other arguments, doing so could create issues for the very group they're trying to support. What if someone doesn't want to 'come out' at work yet? They're either forced to, or forced to use pronouns that they don't identify with.

Maitairiki · 10/07/2019 21:59

Include them all and make it meaningless

frankexchangeofviews · 10/07/2019 21:59

Oh/for/fucks/sake

MarshaBradyo · 10/07/2019 22:01

I had no idea this was a trend

Where does it go? Under your name?

Do you write it or is it in the signature

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 10/07/2019 22:03

bonkers bonkers bonkers

and this

Ask them if you can change your pronouns to he/him and get a pay increase by default of being a man

CadburysTastesVileNow · 10/07/2019 22:05

I suggest 'your Majesty'

cwg1 · 10/07/2019 22:06

There's a few Tweeters who give their pronouns as Od/Fod Grin

MsJaneAusten · 10/07/2019 22:07

I genuinely don’t understand.

What would a sign off look like then?

SmallAndFarAway · 10/07/2019 22:07

You need to post this on the FWR board, they will definitely have some good suggestions - there's a brilliant gender-free (as in sex: woman, gender: pile of shite, so gender-free) response but I can't remember it.

SalrycLuxx · 10/07/2019 22:08

Self define as Colonel or Your Grace. That’s what I’d do.

Or make up something that is not even English and frankly unpronounceable. Then act mortally offended if anyone says anything.

AlphaBites · 10/07/2019 22:08

So my email signature would be
Alpha Bites (she, her)
Position in Company

I want to just ignore it.

DH raised a good point just now (he thinks it's bollocks as well) and said it could be distressing for anyone who has gender dysmorphia and it could distress them, so to use that excuse.

Or if I don't want to be awkward, just keep forgetting.

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