So every week before preschool there is a little cafe run by the church. It is really great - the kids love it, adults caffeine/yummy food and the church raises money.
We have been going and grabbing a table as I have both a baby and toddler to wrangle. Recently they have not been putting out the little table in the corner with two chairs which my toddler adores so we have been sitting at the ironically smaller but the tables who it four chairs.
Every time we sit down at a table with four seats we have one of the helpers ask to come and sit with us. Seemed nice at first. She asked if her friend could sit and join us. Thought sure the more the merrier but they just sat ignoring us.
Next time she asked again and same thing. Third and fourth time she didn't ask - she waves her friend over and they just ignore me.
This time the corner table returns with only two seats so we go sit their. Sure enough she doesn't come over to us today and tries making friends with a mum who looks like at a table on her own at a table with four seats - as soon as a dad appears (so there will no longer be the extra seat needed for her friend to join), she is off trying to make friends with others with extra chairs.
Aibu to not want to feel used and maybe say no next time (which won't be until September now) so that I might get to talk to other mums rather than a old lady trying to nab her friend a chair who can just wait ten minutes for the preschool kids to go in...