To wonder how many people don't do their spouse's laundry?

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I see this on threads quite regularly: OP says they do cleaning/laundry etc, next posters say "why do you do [his] laundry?"

Do many households have separate laundry baskets- one per person? Or do people mean they take turns to do communal loads? How many of you only do your own laundry?

I've only ever seen this on MN, although in fairness I've not made a habit of asking friends and acquaintances how they manage the load (excuse the pun) in their households...

AIBU to ask what happens in your homes?

My other half does everyone's laundry.

I do all the washing and it's just split into darks and lights for the three of us.

This is because non stinky dp can get away with washing his stuff on 30 degrees. My stuff comes out still smelling of bo on that temperature. He refuses to wash at a higher temperature even for things like bedding, towels and uniforms.

So he's barred from doing the washing.

Ds is only 5 so I'll let him off

My partner and I wash our stuff together but usually put our daughters in seperately as she gets more stains so I put it in at a higher temp. We both do it but I do more as I’m home more

Sometimes we’ll just do our own if one of us needs uniform for work washing.

I'm astounded at the number of grown men who don't know how to use a washing machine.

I call strategic incompetence....... nobody can be that stupid surely??

DH does ours - I am at home most of the time (work very part time) with our toddler and our machine is in an outbuilding up some precarious concrete steps. I can't bring toddler out with me and I can't leave her in the house so he does it when he's at home. I put it away though (but not his - he puts his own clothes away).

Whoever sees the laundry baskets are full, does the laundry. It’s not complicated to put it in the washer and at the end of the cycle move it to the dryer and then hang it up/put it away.

My DH does all the laundry.

I do the laundry for all. I would hate to think how much water, power, detergent etc we would use if done separately. I am environmentally conscious though.

Machine is always fully loaded

I barely know who's is who's when chucking a load in. Just see whites or dark colours. Really doesn't matter but I am a SAHM so do the lions share of the housework in the week.

On a thread a while ago I was attacked for saying we all do our own laundry - so happy to see others do the same!

I don’t get the posters who say they bung everyone’s in together to save time/energy. The total amount of laundry doesn’t reduce

We all generate a dark and light load each week, plus bedding and bath towel, and will chuck in teatowels etc. There’s no sorting out whose socks and underwear are whose afterwards. You choose what gets tumble dried, Line dried or put on the airer, ironed or not, folded and put away or left in a crumpled pile It works well for us.

DH, me and two kids.

Laundry basket in our bedroom and the bedroom the children share. I do pretty much all the laundry. Sometimes if DH is running low on work shirts, he’ll put a load of those on and not wash anything else

Sometimes if I tell (ask) him to put a load on, but it wouldn’t occur to him to do it. Very annoying.

I think the men not being as good as laundry as women possibly has something to do with men's clothes being typically less delicate than women's.

I know basically everything my dp owns is dark cotton and all of it could quite happily be washed together if we had a big enough machine.

But I have lights, darks, wools and silks, bras with wires. All need more care than the shirts, hoodies, cotton shirts and polyester work trousers

*I'm astounded at the number of grown men who don't know how to use a washing machine.

I call strategic incompetence....... nobody can be that stupid surely??*

Quite. All these men with their high-powered jobs but who apparently can't use a washing machine. My arse!

We have one wash basket & no set role for who does the washing, although I prefer to because I separate all the colours properly & hang it up nicely so it's not all crumpled when dry

I find it utterly bizarre. We have a communal laundry basket. But even if we didn’t, I’d probably just do both when I put a load on and I would expect him to do the same.
Most other household jobs are for the benefit of both - cleaning rooms you both use, cooking etc (but maybe people insist on only cooking for themselves too??).
If one of us takes a bin out maybe we should insist on only taking out our own rubbish too?

I don’t know how it goes in your house but we don’t wear each other’s clothes.

I do almost all laundry as I'm a SAHM and therefore nearest the washing machine for the greatest percentage of the week.

I do however refuse to wash anything that has stuff left in-- the pockets, as my husband is a serial offender - headphones, tissues, receipts, coins etc. Drives me mad. He's slowly getting better since I started throwing his pocket filled clothes straight back on to his side of the bed.--

DH does most of it, many of my work dresses are too delicate for 40 degree rapid spin as many are silk so we have a separate "specials" basket for non-standard stuff that I'm in charge of.

We do it 50/50 and put it in based on what needs washing.
I find the idea of his and hers laundry to be childish. There are household chores to be shared across the household.

I put the wash on for everyone in my house ( 2 adults, 2 kids), I will fold dh's clothes but expect him to put them away himself. He is super particular so I prefer he moves them himself, he will quite often leave them in the spare room for a week which used to piss me off and lead to many arguments but I have learnt to let it go and keep the spare bedroom door shut. He always does end up putting them away. My kids are little but at 8/ 9 I would expect them to put away their own clothes.

I do it all!!!!

Me. I don’t do his laundry when he’s not pulling his weight - house chores are 50:50. If I wash - he hangs, we both fold. It’s quicker, if I pack the dishwater, he unpacks, or I’ll just hand wash the kids and my utensils as we go along. I vacuum and he mops or vice versa. I will NOT be my mother and enable him like she does my father - absolutely useless and takes advantage of her. 😡

Billy who said men aren't as good at laundry?? That's absolute rubbish. It's strategic incompetence end of.

Indeed celebelly more fool the women that fall for it.

^^ and I couldn’t care less about how much he earns, we both live in the house and we both pay towards the bills - 50:50

I don't get that either OP! Surely it would be pretty inefficient for everyone to do their own laundry? I'm happy to confess I do most of DP's and I really don't mind - I quite enjoy doing laundry and he does other household tasks so it's all fine.

I do all the washing. He does all the cooking though, and his own ironing. I think I have the better deal!