To wonder how many people don't do their spouse's laundry?

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I see this on threads quite regularly: OP says they do cleaning/laundry etc, next posters say "why do you do [his] laundry?"

Do many households have separate laundry baskets- one per person? Or do people mean they take turns to do communal loads? How many of you only do your own laundry?

I've only ever seen this on MN, although in fairness I've not made a habit of asking friends and acquaintances how they manage the load (excuse the pun) in their households...

AIBU to ask what happens in your homes?

Grown up kids here and we tend to all do our own. We all have separate laundry baskets. Dh also does our bedding and towels as he works from home a lot and so can throw it in the machine and then hang it out during his working day.

I have no idea how often the DC do their bedding but suspect its weeks apart.

I used to do all the laundry but then we had 2 children and I went back to work and didn't really want to do it all any more. So now I do the children's and mine and the bedding and the whites. DH does his and the towels and sometimes some of mine. We take turns to sort it and then we put our own away. It works for us. DH wouldn't ever remember to put a load on if he didn't run out of clothes so this way there's shared responsibility but no nagging.

I do mine as I like softener and I don't want DP shrinking anything. We both do DCs as and when, as they don't have softener and have a different washing powder as they have eczema. DP does his own or combines it with DC's when he does theirs. His often also includes sodden gym kit which I don't want to touch if I'm honest. There is a family washing basket downstairs and we have a basket each in our bedroom.

I do most of mine, DHs and DDs. DH does his own ironing and any for DD that needs doing (rare). I have an iron free wardrobe! Occasionally DH does it but whilst I try very hard not to comment I don’t think he hangs it up right!

DSS (adult) does his own.

DH does a lot of stuff i don’t do that much of, especially DIY or garden, but also hoovering & kitchen / bathroom cleaning. Surely everyone splits these things in whatever way suits them?

To me it seems like an odd q! Whoever is putting laundry on puts everyone’s clothes in that match load (white, coloured and delicate). I can see if relationship is broken you’d refuse. I have threatened to strangle him with his socks when he puts holey ones in the basket mind.

We each do our own. But we share the sheets/towels etc

DH and I each do our own. He's ex army and very fussy and likes it just so, so I leave him to it, I do my own andwe are encouraging DD, 9 to help with hers, she helps sort it and put it in the machine and put it away.
If we've been on holiday the 3 of us crack on and sort and do loads together.
It's not a big deal, just how we've fallen into doing it.

I do all the laundry. He doesn't know how to use the washing machine.

Seperate washing baskets, i do mine and he does his.

Ours need to go on different types of washes so is easier 🤷‍♀️

A single system is most efficient though surely? Rather than each to their own- a single person may only have one or two items that need a certain cycle- then it mkles more sense to bulk up everyone's stuff together. So a single woollen wash, everyone's jeans together, hot white cotton wash. etc.

It;s a bit like everyone making their ow meals- it makes for better efficiency and less effort all round to have a sinle meal to feed all family members.
Or is that done individually too? Is shopping an individual thing? Each person having a shelf in the fridge? A seperate toilet roll?

Each to their own?

For me it's called family living. We thake care of each other.

All my clothes get washed on the same cycle

I do all the washing, ironing, folding and putting away - dh does food shop and cooks, prepares all meals

@BlueSkiesLies
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OMG but that is even MORE work! It’s the hanging up that takes the time. TD stuff is easy. In and on! I’m slowly transitioning to just TD everything and if it dies it dies.

And ironing? No. Nope. No way. Not in a million years.*

It's not. I used to have a tumble dryer and don't miss it at all. It takes a few minutes to put on line or airer, a few minutes to put away. I only iron stuff that needs ironing, no sheets and towels or jeans etc, and that doesn't take long either.

@speakout we do bulk up in the sense all of dp clothes go on a 40degrees wash and all of mone on a 30degrees wash. We each do 1 wash a week

I completely agree about clothes on the line or airer being much faster to deal with than the ones that go in the dryer. It's hardly time consuming to peg a few socks or put a few tops on a hanger.

I am not sure I would feel comfortable leaving the dryer on when we go out. I do with washing machines and dish washer, but never with over or dryer.

I don't wash my partner's clothes as he is a lazy sod and does nothing about the house.

I work full time and have enough on my hands doing mine and dd's. So no I don't do his. I don't cook for him either.

People who I'd drop anything for at a moments notice if they needed me and vice versa.

it's your choice, but wouldn't it be a more efficient, and pleasant, system if you were doing the laundry and he was doing the cooking - alternating if you wish.

My quote should have been

I work full time and have enough on my hands doing mine and dd's. So no I don't do his. I don't cook for him either.
I am too hasty with my copy and paste, apologies!

If I'm honest, DH does.most of the laundry. 75/25 him. We only really split out whites and woollens from the main washing basket.

I work full time and have enough on my hands doing mine and dd's. So no I don't do his. I don't cook for him either.

Like you actually purposely cook one less portion? Or does he have a special diet?

Why are some of you living with someone else at all?😮
Especially with the lazy, useless etc sods?

I’m in charge of laundry and ironing. DH occasionally hangs it out. At the moment DD does her own uniform except ironing.

We (me, DP and 2 DS) all do everyone's laundry. Although I get nervous when one of the DS does mine and he tends to chuck everything in together!

My dh does the washing as he is at home more than me. When I was a SAHM I did the washing. I can't fathom why people do separate washes. Surely when you're a family you all muck in?

We have a basket in our room, a basket in DD's room and a communal one in the cupboard outside the bathroom. I do most of the washing as I'm a SAHM. I just make up loads collected from all the baskets. I'd find it odd not to do DH's laundry