To wonder how many people don't do their spouse's laundry?

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I see this on threads quite regularly: OP says they do cleaning/laundry etc, next posters say "why do you do [his] laundry?"

Do many households have separate laundry baskets- one per person? Or do people mean they take turns to do communal loads? How many of you only do your own laundry?

I've only ever seen this on MN, although in fairness I've not made a habit of asking friends and acquaintances how they manage the load (excuse the pun) in their households...

AIBU to ask what happens in your homes?

We have communal baskets. Seems like a waste and a faff to separate out one adult's washing.

We both do it depending on whoever feels like it when the wash basket is nearly full.

I put nearly all of the laundry in the washing machine and am the main one to either hang it out or put in the tumbler dryer, then fold. DH does all of the ironing for all of us.

I do mine and the kids. DH does his own.

Separate laundry baskets. I do mine and he does his. Both do DC's.

I do mine and she's and teen does his own.

** dh's

Whoever does the washing does it for everyone. Only time that anyone in this family has to do a load of just their own is if one of the teenagers suddenly brings down a whole load worth just after I've already done the washing (and having been asked to bring it down earlier). In that case they have to do their own, hang it out etc. Tends to focus their minds on bringing it down when asked.

People who don't do their DHs laundry -what about shared items? Bed linen, tea towels, bath mat etc. Who does those? And who does the (young) children's clothes? If I was only doing "my" stuff and DH was only doing "his" stuff, there would be a whole load of stuff in this house that would never get washed.

I do his, he does mine. I probably do more popping on a wash and hanging out to dry, he does more folding/putting away and ironing.

Dh pays the mortgage. I do the washing. Least i can do.

Whoever is in the house does the laundry - be that me (works 4 days a week) DH (shiftworker) DS1 (student) or DD (just left school and heading to college) 🤷🏼‍♀️ I haven't space for 5 separate laundry bins nor are we that petty. We all muck in as we all live here. The only one who doesn't deal with laundry is DS2 (10)

It woould be far too complicated in my home for everyone to do their own laundry. Five adults, OH works very long hours, I am at home all day, and can line dry all year around. Lots of different types of fabrics, dancewear. whites, delicates, jeans, I separate by fabric type, colour and will watch the weather forecast to decide when to wash bedding etc.

All goes in together, and whoever is in just does it. We iron and put our own stuff away though

I do all household + dc + my laundry. I do it to my schedule, which doesn’t work for DH so he looks after his own. If he puts his in the communal basket I wash it though. I don’t like him doing mine as he’s not as careful with it as I would be.

Should I have explained that we have separate bedrooms? He snores!

How odd someone would imagine half a set of bedding being washed!

And his work clothes can be covered in all sorts that I don't want on my clothes. mastic glue stuff wrecks dresses but has little negative effect on hi vis work gear it seems!

We're not mad, or selfish!

All in one go, at least one load a day. I'm a SAHM so makes more sense for me to do it all and get it out drying. DH does the ironing though.

I do my laundry and DH does his and we share DS's and communal washing.

We've always done this , even when I was on Mat leave. It's never occurred to us to do it any differently .

We also do everyone's laundry together. I tend to do most of it as I work part-time and DH is full-time so it makes sense. Plus, I actually enjoy doing it as our washing machine and dryer are in the basement and I like to watch rubbish on the iPad in peace while sorting/folding/ironing (not that much gets ironed).

I'm essentially hiding from my family while doing a legitimate chore.

People who don't do their DHs laundry -what about shared items? I imagine they do as I said we do... whoever is doing them does them! They always get washed, we never run out of clean bath or tea towels, bath mats or bedding. We just do them as we see they need doing!

We dont split it, I'm not sure why anyone would? We live together and put our washing in the same basket. It gets put in the machine by whoever has time.

We do! We do our laundry separately. When I get around to doing mine I have a full load of darks and of lights. DH has a lot fewer clothes than I do so he does his more frequently. But I don't like him doing mine as he doesn't separate lights and darks and doesn't know which things do and don't go in the tumble dryer, and doesn't remember to use dryer sheets.

Sometimes I'll do his gym clothes if they're in the washing machine when I go to do mine. I also do his towels and bedding sometimes (we sleep in separate beds in the same room as he tossed and turns a lot).

I do all the washing for me, DH and 5 kids. I dont think my DH knows how to use the washing machine

We both do ours.

Laundry really is a non-event. People that make a fuss over it, linking it to almost major international alert status, clearly are justifying their existence.

I do all our washing cos I want to it’s an ongoing joke that I don’t like anyone touching ‘my machine’ but drying it is left to whoever is there to do it
I rang my fella on my break to ask him to hang it out
But tomorrow I’ll do it as it’s my day off

I do the whole family's laundry & housework (although I have a cleaner 2 hours a week), DH does the shopping and more of the cooking than me (I cook maybe twice a week).
Seems totally alien to me to only do things for yourself in a family.